Every child has their own growth trajectory, and their education style is closely related to their family background. In this world, we can see two very different ways of education. A family, a mother from a small rural town in Zhejiang, provides the best educational resources for her children at all costs;Another family, a working-class family from Shaoxing, had diametrically opposite attitudes towards their children's education. There is a huge difference between the two families' education styles that determine the future direction of their children.
This family comes from a rural town in Zhejiang, and her mother is a young post-80s generation, although she is young, she has endured a lot of pressure that should not have belonged to her. Her goal is simple, she wants her children to attend the best middle school in the county. To achieve this goal, she will do whatever it takes to work harder than anyone else. She once said: "As long as the child learns Xi hard, I am willing to let him go to the pot and sell iron." This sentence is not just empty words, her actions are a testament to her commitment to the future of her children.
This mom is the only parent I've ever met who dared to put her commitment into action. Every time the child's tutoring fee is due, the mother always decisively chooses to continue to pay. Despite the high cost of tutoring, she never hesitated because she put her children's education first and money second. Unlike other parents, she never puts pressure on her children and does not induce them: "If you can study Xi well, I will spend money on you, otherwise, I will not give you flowers." This is an approach that many parents take, but it actually gives the child a hint that they can give up Xi school. And this mother only cares about the result and will not give the child a chance to give up.
To fund her children's education, the mom even introduced a new sales program in her small shop, selling fresh fish, cooked crayfish and some cooked food. It is understood that she can only fall asleep after 12 o'clock in the morning every day, and she has to wake up around 5 o'clock in the morning to prepare for work. She was under a lot of pressure, but she never expressed it to the outside world, because she knew that only by working hard and working hard, her child's future could be better. She is the kind of person who is not defeated by difficulties, and her maternal love shows her greatness.
The family is from a working-class family in Shaoxing, Zhejiang, and they have a son who is in junior high school. When I first came into contact with the family, I thought that this child was a child who was more attentive to his Xi because he came to the tutoring class every weekend. However, as I got deeper, I found that the conflict between him and his parents was very deep.
After the intense Xi stage of the second year of junior high school, the child suddenly did not want to learn Xi. When the parents learned about it, they were very angry, the father had a temper outburst, and the child was stubborn, resulting in only quarrels, yelling, crying, and slamming doors. The child locked himself in the bedroom, the parents shouted reprimands outside, and the mother silently endured sadness and tears.
During the conversation, I learned that both parents were factory workers and that they had very different attitudes towards their children. The father thought that filial piety came out under the stick, and education was more inclined to corporal punishment;The mother obeyed her husband's arrangement, although she was distressed, but did not interfere too much. After some in-depth conversations, I decided to speak with the kid personally. I found him interested in comics, smart and clever, but not interested in Xi.
After the communication, I had a face-to-face conversation with the child's parents. I told them that they should value their children's interests and hobbies, and that they should not force their children to study subjects that they are not interested in, Xi them. I suggest that they can give their children more options and let them choose how and what they like to learn Xi.
My parents listened to my advice and began to try to change the way they were educated. They decided to loosen their grip on the child, encourage him to pursue his interests, and provide him with more Xi resources and support. They hope that by changing their attitudes, they can rebuild trust and communication with their children, so that they can regain their interest in learning Xi.
Education is a complex and diverse field, and each family has their own way of education and family background. Family One's approach to education emphasizes dedication and counseling to children, and actively provides the best educational resources for childrenOn the other hand, the education style of family 2 is more controlling and negative, and parents' excessive expectations of children lead to children's resistance and rebellion. Different families and different education methods determine the growth trajectory and future direction of children. We must respect the choices of each family, and at the same time, learn to establish good communication and trust with our children, and provide them with a good environment for them to grow up.