In November last year, my aunt passed away. Because my mother left early, the two families had not been in contact for a long time, but since we saw the servant's notice, my sister and I went to the funeral. On the way, my sister told me that this funeral must be very grand, and there are so many people that I don't know if there is a place to sit at home.
The aunt's family has three sons, and the aunt's husband has been a people's teacher all his life. When we were young, the living conditions of their family were good, and later the eldest aunt also became a people's teacher, the second aunt did his own business, and the third aunt became a policeman.
My eldest brother got married early and gave birth to three sons, I also played with his first two sons when I was a child, and my second aunt also gave birth to two sons in his family. My third aunt got married late, and when my mother died, the two of them had not yet given birth to children, but later I heard that they also gave birth to two sons. The aunt's family has a total of 7 grandchildren, and there has been no granddaughter, I heard that the third aunt has been chasing her daughter for a few years, but in the end it was unsuccessful.
When she arrived at the county seat, she came to the large courtyard that her three sons had purchased, and as soon as she entered the gate, she saw wreaths all around the courtyard. People come and go is very lively, the aunt died of illness at the age of 89, which is a happy funeral in the local area, so relatives and friends are not too sad. The eldest brother received us, took us to the incense and burned the paper, and the eldest brother and the eldest sister went to the side to talk, because they had a good relationship when they were children. I also found a familiar relative to talk to.
From this relative, I learned that the three sons of the aunt's family are now terrible, and their whole family in the county is the kind of big family that everyone knows. The eldest brother is okay, she is a class teacher in a key high school in the county, and she is very popular; The second aunt's business is very large, and he has done all kinds of rural businesses such as agricultural machinery, pesticides, seeds, and grain harvesting, and his net worth has long been hundreds of millions; And the third aunt became the captain of the county criminal police team, and she was particularly respected in a small county. And the 7 grandchildren are not very mixed compared to their families. The eldest aunt's three sons, the eldest graduated from college and went to a state-owned enterprise, the second graduated from college and stayed in Guangzhou to work, the third was not admitted to university, and now he is doing business with the second aunt; The two children of the second aunt also followed him in business, and I heard that the three children who followed him in business have not been able to take charge of themselves until now; The eldest son of the third aunt graduated from college and was admitted to the civil service, but I heard that he didn't work well and was foolish, and the second son was not admitted to college, and he didn't have a serious job until now, so he was also blind!
After staying for a long time, I met with these aunts, the eldest brother looked a lot older, and his face was full of sadness, but I heard my eldest sister say that it was sad about the two sons; The second aunt looks like a successful person, although she looks like a farmer on the outside, she talks to us a little condescendingly; The third aunt didn't say a word, took the three **s, and left in a hurry. I talked to the two grandchildren I played with for a while, and the others didn't have much friendship.
The banquet was of a very high standard, and the shouts of everyone drinking were very loud and noisy, which made me feel very strange. In the evening, the third aunt told everyone to go to a local hotel, anyway, just mention his name, just live directly, and later heard that it was one of the best hotels in the county. The next day, everyone got up at 5 o'clock, because the aunt wanted to go back to her hometown and go to the countryside to settle down. Back in the countryside also held a grand funeral ceremony, but behind the coffin in addition to a few aunts, other men, I stood in the crowd and listened to the people in the village, saying that the family is destined to have no daughters, and the grandson has not yet married, and must be on the ancestral grave to transport the children and grandchildren to all occupy.
After the funeral, I returned to the county seat for a banquet, on the way I pulled the two grandchildren who played when I was a child, the eldest one was 41 years old, I didn't expect to work in a city with me, I asked why I didn't get married, he just sighed, and said that he would look for it this year; Second, I asked what I was doing, he just smiled and said that he was working in Guangzhou, and asked why he didn't get married, and he asked me why I wanted to get married, and he thought it was very good, although he was already 38 years old.
Later, my sister told me that the second son of my aunt's family had brought back a partner, but his mother thought that the woman's family conditions were not good, and since then he has not talked about marriage, and only returned home once for several years. And the eldest son often goes back to the county, and every time his parents ask someone to introduce him, but he heard that he leaves at a glance and has never been anywhere. My eldest sister said that my eldest brother took his hand and cried and said that he had done anything bad in his life, none of the two sons were obedient, and if he was disobedient, he would not even get married, let alone hold his grandson. And the other grandchildren, except for the two youngest, are all of marriage age early, but none of them have gone home to receive a partner, and the three families are very worried.
Today's young people seem to be shrouded in fog and seem hesitant about marriage. Some people may understand that because of the poverty of the family, the bride price has become a gap that is difficult to cross. However, in a well-to-do family like my aunt's house, money is by no means a stumbling block to marriage. However, what is puzzling is that the children in the family do not seem to be concerned about marriage, which can't help but make the eldest aunt anxious, like ants on a hot pot.
After attending the funeral, I was also very emotional, the more my relatives didn't move around, the more rusty they became, although when we left, the three aunts held hands and said that they often came to him, and the third aunt also said that they would come to him if there was anything, but I knew that they were all kind words, and I could no longer find the intimacy of my childhood.
As for their grandchildren, I think with the financial resources of my aunt's family, my future life will definitely be no worse, and as for whether to get married or not, it is a personal choice, and I hope he can form his own family in the end.