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Everyone has a person in their hearts who can't get by. ”
I think so. Some people, just a glimpse, are destined to be bound for a lifetime at first sight.
It's just that the ups and downs of the world have always been deep, but the fate is shallow.
There are lovers in the world, not just love each other, you can stay together for a lifetime.
Compared with the final marriage, it is more often love than not.
If you love someone deeply, but you can't be a husband and wife, a smart woman will deal with it like this.
Keep your distance
Rabindranath Tagore has a poem:
The farthest distance in the world is the distance between fish and birds, one in the sky, the other deep in the bottom of the sea. ”
Regret between people, that's probably it.
Love is deep in the bones, and love is full of vicissitudes when it is exhausted.
People who have truly loved have given half a life, and it is difficult to say that they will forget.
However, knowing that they are destined to be inseparable from each other, they are still chasing and entangled to death, and in the end they are embarrassed for others and themselves.
As writer Kyungsan said:
They love others just so that others can love themselves. Or hold on to it in your hand and refuse to let it go until the thing in your hand dies.
Gathering and dispersing are being staged all the time.
Whatever the reason for the separation, since we can't be together, we shouldn't torture each other anymore.
If you really can't put it down, it's okay, just give it some time.
Don't force yourself to forget, don't assume that everything is possible, keeping your distance is the best way to reconcile.
A person's mentality will change over time.
No longer pay attention to the dynamics of the other party, withdraw the energy that you pour into the other party, and gradually drift away in the quiet of the years.
I endured my sorrow without speaking, and I endured the night without tears. All mature relationships have experienced a period of time from struggle to loneliness.
Things are not forced, people are not forced to stay, they are at peace with encounters, and they go with fate.
Since there is no chance in this life, then don't be entangled anymore, and turning around indifferently is the best fulfillment for each other.
Only by keeping a distance can we stay awake; Only by learning to stay away can we take care of ourselves.
Stop losses in time
There is a saying: peace of mind can heal 3,000 diseases, peace of mind can understand everything, tea must be brewed to taste, people want to open to live. ”
I think so. The letting go of adults is an unforgettable "understanding" and a helpless "forget it".
In the face of fruitless feelings, the best way to deal with it is not to stumble, but to stop loss.
In the dark, there are too many regrets that have no ending, but no matter what the ending is, at least you can see what love looks like.
If you fall in love with someone you can't spend your life with, the only thing you can do is not to let that emotion turn into a tragedy.
Although he cannot give you the results you hope for, he has lit up your heart, dispelled your loneliness, and your trauma.
Encounter, that is, luck. Loving and being loved are all beautiful things.
Love is a stage of freedom, and you and I are the protagonists. We can leave gracefully, or we can welcome parting calmly.
People always have to say goodbye to what they can't have, and many times, this is probably the best outcome.
When facing love, we need to be rational and calm.
Vigorous love is beautiful, but any untimely appearance is regret, and it will be heart-rending if it is not well controlled.
Meeting the right person at the wrong time is not destined to end well.
No one is anyone's end, no one is anyone's dream, everyone has their own life, and they have their own self-knowledge.
For everyone who has been with you in life, "I'm glad you came, and I don't regret you leaving." ”
Don't mess with the original heart, don't lose the flowers, be grateful to meet, and everyone is well.
Live yourself
Yang Jiang said: No matter what the relationship, the love is consumed and the fate comes to the end, no one is right or wrong, and in the end all the faults should be blamed on themselves, and then politely leave. Give yourself back, return others to others, let flowers become flowers, let trees become trees, mountains and rivers will never meet again. ”
Love and enjoyment are always two different things, even if you are unwilling, you can't change it.
Gathering and dispersing are impermanent, and the present is real.
If you fall in love with someone you can't be with, don't trap yourself in a cage of grief because of this, but live a better version of yourself.
We can't have someone, but we own ourselves and every day.
When a person is saddened by a shooting star, he misses the sky full of stars.
You can't choose whether to meet or not, and you can't control whether you love or not, but you can choose to be a better version of yourself and let all encounters leave no regrets.
As the poet Gu Cheng said:
"Because you have to be a flower, you will feel that spring will leave you; If you are spring, you will never leave, and there will always be flowers. ”
If a relationship makes you a better version of yourself, then whether you end up together or not, it is a good relationship.
In the face of a loved one, even if you can't stay together for a lifetime, even if you are reluctant to give up, you must pack up your mood and live the current life well.
Life is a long journey, and if you carry something too heavy on your back, you will not be able to walk the road ahead.
Flowers bloom and fall, the years go by, those who have no fate cannot chase and stay, and those who have fate will come by themselves.
Let those who should go go, and those who should come can come.
Master Hongyi said:
The person who loved us the most in the previous life is the person we love the most in this life. In the cycle of fate, we are constantly paying off our debts. I don't owe it in the past life, and I don't see it in this life. Origin, see you, and see you again at the end of the relationship. ”
Many encounters, caught off guard; Many ends have long been doomed.
Mountains and seas have their own return dates, and wind and rain have their own encounters.
When you are in love, you are willing to do it; When it comes to saying goodbye, everyone is fine.
People will always grow, and one day you will be full of happiness and stroll through the street with a stroller, and those likes that once were, no matter how strong they once were, will disappear in the long river of time like the wind.
Move forward firmly, move forward steadfastly, and don't look back.
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