People are approaching middle age, and many friends are gradually separated.
There is a lot of analysis and guidance on the Internet about why and how to deal with it.
Recently, though, I've had some new insights. A theory of "social currency" is a better illustration.
Many articles on the Internet have analyzed that because of the different growth speeds, the different working environments and social circles after graduation, the three views are gradually different, the classes are slowly differentiated, and finally they forget about each other.
However, I believe that many people have also encountered this situation:
You and your friends have the same job position, half a pound and half a pound, and the circle has not changed much, but it has gradually drifted apart.
After a few similar situations, you even wonder yourself: why did I use to have a lot of friends and good popularity, but now I am more and more lonely?Am I doing something wrong?
Actually, you're not wrong with anything, it's just that the stage of your life is different, and social currency has quietly changed.
What is Social Currency?
Social currency is a tool and medium for people to socialize.
In the vernacular, for middle-aged people's social networking, the most common social currency is money, power, social status, connections, etc.
At present, the common "Moutai does the game, Huazi opens the way", its essence is also the application of social currency on behalf of wealth and status.
But if you reminisce about your teenage years, what kind of people are likable?
I believe that the answer given by many people is: people who can play together, people who are willing to borrow and copy homework, people who play basketball well, people who are humorous, and so on.
When it comes to youth, what kind of person is likable?
Someone who gives advice on your relationship, someone who helps roll call in class, someone who helps with meals, people who skip school together, play games all night, and so on.
At that time, the value system and social currency of middle-aged people had not yet been activated!
So, if you've ever been a very popular person, think back to yourself, did you have the above traits?
The timeline is pulled back to the present, we are nearly middle-aged, and almost everyone is busy with life and struggling for family.
Maybe you're still knowledgeable and knowledgeable
Maybe you're still on the pitch
Maybe you're still here as soon as you call, and you're willing to give advice to your friends
But what are the practical implications of all this for those of us in middle age?These are once social currencies that have depreciated so much that they are no longer in circulation.
You are ordinary, you have been working for more than ten years, you haven't made any big money, and you haven't accumulated many connections.
In this characteristic human society, now you have little social currency left, only a pitiful sincerity that can barely be used.
At that point, I'm sure you understand. The lack of social currency is the root cause of the deterioration of popularity.
Dingdong, the balance is insufficient, please go to recharge.