Recently, I read an article, which probably means that some genius-level characters such as Newton and Beethoven have very hot tempers and belong to "tearing" if they don't agree with each other. Then, a staff member at a foreign university conducted a study and concluded that angry people perform better when it comes to "disorderly innovation." This means that if you need to come up with several uses for bricks, a clear-minded person might be able to come up with 10 different uses, and a grumpy person is likely to invent a new one. This may sound reasonable, but the disadvantages of a temper tantrum far outweigh the benefits, especially in the moment.
Although the young Lin Zexu is diligent and studious, he is too impatient, and he is often angry because of one or two words that do not fulfill his wishes. His father, Lin Binri, told him a story because of this:
Two big men sent a young man to the government and accused him of being a heinous and unfilial son. The judge was upright and impatient, and in a fit of rage, he ordered the young man to be beaten fifty times.
When she left the church, an old lady came up to the hall on crutches and cried, "Please save us!"Just now, two robbers sneaked into my house to steal cattle, and my son found them and wanted to send them to the government, but unexpectedly, they were tied up by the robbers. ”
Only then did the judge realize that his temper had been taken advantage of.
Lin Zexu suddenly realized at the moment, and later he hung a handwritten plaque in the conspicuous place in the study "Control Anger".
Confident people don't have to express themselves with their temper. **The three sisters of the Song family in the period, each collar**. Song Meiling alone is the best at controlling her emotions.
Because Churchill did not agree with the idea that China was one of the top four, Soong Meiling had always been dissatisfied with Chiu, and once, Soong Meiling accompanied Chiang Kai-shek to the Cairo Conference, and she and Churchill inevitably met, and the two had a classic conversation:
Churchill said, "Madame Chairman, I have the impression that I am a very bad old man, right?"Song Meiling did not answer "yes" or "no", but wisely asked Qiu: "May I ask the prime minister, what do you think of yourself?"”
Churchill said: "I don't think I'm a bad person. She replied, "That's good." ”
Later, Chiang Kai-shek specially recorded this conversation in his diary, and compared with his own violent temper, he admired the diplomatic wisdom of his wife Soong Meiling, and praised her for not violating diplomatic etiquette or his own heart.
In life, we will inevitably meet some people who inadvertently or inadvertently provoke themselves to be embarrassed and angry, at this time, people who know how to restrain their emotions will not only let things be better resolved, but also will not bury a bitter stalk in their hearts.
Bad temper is often due to incompetence. Du Yuesheng once said: "The first-class person has the ability and has no temper;Second-class people, have the ability and temper;The last person has no ability and a big temper. ”
The legend of Du Yuesheng does not lie in how he created his status, but in the fact that he is not a scholar, but he has a gentle and elegant, generous and virtuous demeanor.
On the other hand, those who have a bad temper, once they do not fulfill their wishes, will only be in a state of rage and blame indiscriminately, isn't this a stupid way to punish themselves with their own mistakes?
A good-tempered person lives without getting tired, and is very comfortable with a good-tempered person.
Because this kind of person does not care, let alone hold grudges, they are also more likely to gain the recognition and trust of others, as the French writer Dude said: "Good temper is the best dress a person can wear in social interaction." ”
People with a good temper have a more confident attitude to gain a foothold in this society.
Although a good temper may not bring you nobility, it must be your most beautiful and graceful gesture.