Today I saw such a question on a certain point:Do children want money or things?
The background of the question is as follows: when the subject was a guest at a relative's house, several elderly people were discussing: "Do you want the child to give money to buy things?" ”Old man A: "No, I have good arms and legs now, I can eat and work, and I am not short of money, what do you want them to do?" Let them save, don't let them break the bank, and when I am old in the future, I need something and money, and then let them out. ”
Old Man B: "Yes!" You want it, feel reluctant to spend, then save it for him, and then give it to him when he needs you, now young people, are not too much to save money, this is a child's mind, you don't want to live tomorrow today, after two years want him not to give, people are like this, you think about him excessively, he slowly gets used to it, and one day you no longer think too much about him is when he is not used to it, as far as I know, most of those children who are too doting are mostly not filial, the more favored children, The more selfish they are, the more filial piety they do in front of bed are often those who are not spoiled. I have seen a lot of old people are like this, in the first few years, the children were filial, and they bought this and that, and the old people always shirked it again and again, and slowly the children began to become ineffective.
Do you usually give money or things to your parents?
Actually, this is a very heavy topic. To be honest, only when I have a child do I know the difficulty of parents. I feel that when I was young, I didn't understand my parents, and all kinds of misunderstandings were really unfilial.
So every time I gave money to my parents, my parents said no, don't want it, let me keep it for myself. But I also understand that if I give my parents a little money, I will say that the flowers will be gone. Therefore, every time I told them, let them save it for me. Then they will accept the money with peace of mind. But it's also for where you save it.
Money is just a little expression of your parents, and if you have time, you should go back and spend more time with your parents. In fact, they don't have to do anything when they go back, just sit in front of him, or talk to them, do what they can, and they will be happy like children.
There are many times when the tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop, and the son wants to raise but does not wait, so filial piety should be done as soon as possible, and when no one really calls his parents to respond, and then he wants to be filial, it will become a lifetime of regret and remorse. At that time, you will burn more paper money or real money in front of the grave, for you just to get rid of the regret in your heart. And you can no longer see the kind of happiness, satisfaction, and pride that comes from the mainland when an old man receives something or money from his own children...