Have you ever had a time when you interact with people and feel like you're doing a good enough job, but it's still hard to gain the approval and affection of others? Are you confused, don't know how to measure what you say and do, and how to find the right balance between advance and retreat? Well, maybe you need to read the book "Proportion".
"Proportion" is a classic work of life philosophy, which explains the philosophy of interpersonal relationships in simple terms, and shows you how to better deal with interpersonal relationships in life and work and improve your wisdom in life and work in five parts: "gentleness, kindness, thrift, and letting". The book is full of profound insights into life, which is worth savoring again and again.
The author of Proportions is Robert Cagan, a professor of psychology at Harvard University. Through rich psychological experiments and real-life cases, he tells us how to find and maintain proportion in daily life, how to deal with conflicts and contradictions in interpersonal relationships, and how to respect others while asserting oneself.
In the book, Professor Cagan elaborates on the importance of proportionality and teaches us how to find and maintain it just right. He believes that when interacting with people, we need to be in control of our emotions and behaviors, neither too humble nor too confident, both to express our own opinions and to respect the opinions of others, to care for others and to maintain ourselves. Professor Cagan's ideas are very practical and can help us better manage interpersonal relationships and improve our emotional intelligence and interpersonal skills.
In addition, there are many classic quotations in the book "Proportion", such as Confucius's "A gentleman loves others when he learns the Tao, and thinks diligently in small things", Mark Twain's "If you don't want to be misunderstood, you need to express it in simple and clear language", Voltaire's "Although I disagree with you, I swear to defend your right to speak", and Churchill's "Humility and gentleness are the real strength", etc., these quotations let us know how to build a better life with love, and know how to refuse and respect ourselves. Stay humble and persistent, so that you can constantly improve your own proportion.
Overall, if you're looking for a philosophy of your own life that teaches you how to balance yourself with others and not be self-righteous, then Measure of Proportion is definitely worth reading. The book's practical views, rich cases, and profound quotations can help us better handle interpersonal relationships and improve our emotional intelligence and interpersonal skills. I personally highly recommend this book, a five-star recommendation index, and I believe it will have a positive impact on your life.