Before "Fireworks People", domestic dramas never seemed to have a "matriarchal clan" story.
* At the beginning, there is a rather realistic intertextuality. Qiao Haiyun, a grandmother who founded a factory when she was young and was vigorous, once made an unwritten rule to her daughters - whether they are married or not, the daughters of the Meng family must spend their Chinese New Year's Eve in their mother's home.
The things that are debated outside the play have become a tradition in the play. "Pyrotechnics" has surprises. It depicts an atypical family with women as the backbone, and explains many "puzzles" that will not be said openly in domestic dramas in the past.
In the middle-aged marriage of the second aunt's family, the woman can not shy away from pointing out that the man is not good in "that aspect"; The aunt, who has been in love vigorously and is recognized as marrying "love", cannot escape the difficulty of being a "strong woman", and after countless quarrels, she still embarked on the "imperfect" road of divorce.
There are many plots that can be brought out in the play "Fireworks People" as a mirror image of reality. Some are about marriage, others about generations. There are three generations of women in the Meng family, and the audience is most empathetic to the "East Asian-style mother-daughter relationship" of the aunt's family.
Meng Mingwei (played by Xu Fan), who has been sick since he was a child and has fallen lame, has been in the family all his life.
She is not as successful in her career as her two younger sisters, and outside of the family, she can also get the sense of accomplishment that belongs to a working woman. She also doesn't have a happy marriage. In her early years, under the guidance of her mother, she married her colleague Li Chengzhi, who seemed honest and honest.
The marriage of the two has nothing to do with love, and the other party never understands that the family needs to share and cooperate with each other. After marriage, housework and childcare were all taken care of by Meng Mingwei alone. stayed up until retirement, and her husband clung to her retirement salary, hoping to change her life against the sky.
In Meng Mingwei's life, there are not many things that can be controlled by himself. Her daughter Li Yijin has become all her sustenance and hope.
The pain of many "East Asian-style mother-daughter relationships" began here. The mother and daughter obviously do not belong to the same era, but the mother still hopes that her daughter will repeat her old path, and when she reaches the established age, she will get married and have children step by step, in exchange for a stable and stable second half of her life.
They want to use their own life experience and cognitive experience to assimilate a body that can reflect themselves, even if they have personally verified that this method of exchanging marriage and family for a woman's happiness is not entirely reliable.
The scene of the mother and daughter breaking up in "Fireworks People" can be called the first boiling annual drama after the beginning of the year. In order to avoid her mother's "life-threatening serial urging" (urging marriage), Li Yijin found a "fake boyfriend" to deal with. After Meng Mingwei found out, he was furious on the spot, and everyone watched and gave his daughter a resounding slap.
In books about mother-daughter relationships, it is often mentioned that the reconciliation of mother-daughter relationships is often brutal. For many daughters who have been disciplined and interfered with by their mothers for a long time, the only way to get out of pain may only be to complete a "break up with their mother".
is nearly thirty years old, but still has no independent space of his own, Li Yijin, who can only drown in the heavy maternal love, walks into such a "ceremony". She was discouraged, wrote a note to sever the relationship between mother and daughter, and drove her "hopeless" mother back to her hometown.
A netizen who successfully refused his mother's "kind care" by slapping the table and arguing and snatching the door in the second trimester of pregnancy said: "You have to completely turn your face to win her awakening." ”
This netizen's mother is not good at taking care of people, nor is she good at housework. She is well aware that the care in the name of "for her good" will in fact only turn into endless accusations, judgments and manipulations.
It's also a swamp that many East Asian mothers fall into. In their growth and education, every word and deed of children is closely related to their teaching. They believe that they should take responsibility for their children's lives first than their own lives.
In contrast, the mother and daughter of the second aunt played by Liang Jing and Sun Qian are another idealized extreme. Mother and daughter can always share big and small things calmly like best friends, even if they play ** every day, they will not feel bored and burdened. They were praised by this session of netizens as the most noteworthy "new type of mother and daughter".
In their relationship, you rarely see aggression in the name of love.
The daughters of the new era advocate independent and independent choices. In their eyes, even if they don't get married, divorced, or dink, it doesn't mean the opposite of happiness. What they want to gain is the right to speak for themselves, and the property and space that are not bound by relationships.
Fireworks People" and "new mother" Meng Yunqing is the hope of many "daughters of the new era". She never asks her daughter to repeat her steps. Every time her husband gets drunk and persuades her daughter that "studying is useless, marriage is the most important thing", she will immediately grab her mobile phone and warn her husband to talk nonsense with her daughter.
She also doesn't interfere too much in her daughter's personal life. When her daughter wanted to move out of the dormitory and rent a house in the neighborhood where the boy she liked, she didn't belittle her daughter angrily, but gave a few necessary suggestions, and then paid a lot of money for rent.
She is able to provide financial support and also to practice the utmost respect spiritually. As a result, East Asian girls, who often endure the oppression and blame-style education of their parents, see in Meng Yunqing a kind of beautiful motherly "sample" - a mother who can have a dialogue with herself and listen to her mother carefully and inclusively.
Some people canonized her as a "dream mother", and felt that the "road to transformation" of East Asian mothers would be best referred to such standards.
The daughter who acts as a "new mother" is of course happy. Some people say that more than half of Tao Shuna's shining personality is due to her mother, who never pressures her and is stern.
Tao Shuna is the kind of "other people's child", lively and beautiful, with a smart mind that can read. She rarely has old rules in her heart, and she takes the initiative to chase whoever she likes. Having lost an interview at the institute because of her status as a woman, she would rush to find her mentor's theory.
The reason why the young girl wants a "new type of mother" like Meng Yunqing is that she also wants to live like Tao Shuna, confident, bright, and unfettered.
In comparison, the cost of living as a "new mother" itself is too much. In the early years, in order not to affect her daughter's learning and growth, Meng Yunqing supported herself for a long time in a marriage that existed in name only.
The husband is idle and does not seek progress, and has been married for decades, relying on his wife to support the family. He also rarely shares the affairs of the family, and his only pleasure every day is to use his wife's credit card to find friends to dance, eat, drink, and have fun.
Finally, Meng Yunqing looked directly at her own feelings and filed for divorce with her husband again, but after thinking about it, she gave up because "a large family of women, there can't be no man in the family".
What if something happens, the eldest brother-in-law is like a non-existent transparent person, and the third brother-in-law can't be counted on if he gets divorced. She simply sacrificed herself - "Anyway, after so many years, I'm used to it." ”
For a long time, her hardships were not known, including her daughter. On a business trip to Shanghai, she led her daughter to dinner with her friends, which was the first time she and her daughter quarreled. The daughter sensed her friend's affection for her mother from the dinner table, and she questioned her morality as a wife.
A daughter who has received a lot of tolerance and understanding, just heard that her mother was pursued by others, so she immediately made a decision and gave her mother a "moral ultimatum". She doesn't seem to care about her mother's true thoughts, nor does she care whether her mother has really suffered disappointment and hidden pain during the long years of marriage.
The imagination of the domestic drama "Fireworks People" on the "new mother-daughter relationship" is inevitably barren. It is not so much that this is a perfect mother-daughter relationship, but that the relationship between Meng Yunqing and Tao Shuna is a mother-daughter relationship that is more in line with the expectations of young people today.
This mother can provide the soil for the healthy growth of the child and nurture enough oxygen for the child, but she may not be understood and treated equally. Once the imbalance of power relations is recognized, it is easy to breed hidden gaze and construction.
If running is my life", everyone applauds the "reverse mother", thinking about it, it is also the same shape. Chen Ruohua, who has suffered from "maternal love" for a long time, said that if you want to defeat your mother, you have to become a mother.
So she fabricated a bunch of love histories for herself and hit her mother in a way that scared away the blind date. She used her mother's usual dislike tone and tone to "sour" the ugly silk scarf her mother wore, and sarcastically dressed her mother just to show the men in the square.
If running is my life
"Reverse mother" satisfies the imagination of daughters who have been wrapped and suppressed for too long to "take revenge" on their mothers. They are eager to complete the suppression and transformation of their mothers, and hope that they can get more say than each other in their relationship with their mothers.
But this may not be a better, more equal freedom.
The friendlier and fairer mother-daughter relationship that can be thought of is the two authors of "Classmates: Mothers and Daughters Reading Together" - a mother in her 50s and her teenage daughter. In their spare time, they read more than a dozen books together, recording each other's feelings and exchanges.
In their conversations, there are few preaching and admonitions, only mutual inspiration and independent thinking collisions.
When reading "Agarwood Crumbs: The Second Incense", they talked about the widow's mother who was extremely controlling in **. How meticulous is her discipline of her daughters? The newspapers that her daughters read every day had to be reviewed by her one in advance.
The mother who read the book asked her daughter, "What would you do if I were like the mother inside?" ”
The daughter replied, "I will leave you." ”
To this, the daughter received a response: "It makes sense to leave. ”