Sister Lan made an appointment on Wednesday to go to Zhongshan Park to make tea on Saturday.
Zhongshan Park is located in the center of Xiamen Island, was built in **, because of the memory of Mr. Sun Yat-sen, hence the name. In Xiamen in March, the temperature is more suitable for walking, but it is still a little cool these days. It is very suitable to go to Zhongshan Park with a baby, there is a children's world - Children's Island, and there is a zoo next to Children's Island. A few of us carried large bags and small bags and set them up in front of a stone table and stone bench in the small garden, and the children had a bite to eat and then ran to the children's island and the zoo.
Children have their own world, and our mom has her own paradise.
Lan is very good at life, I saw her take out a portable outdoor stove from the big bag like a trick, plus a delicate and small kettle, she also brought two large buckets of water, and then some tea, boiled water on the stove, the small tea leaves were gently put away, a few wisps of fragrance in the air wafted in, and the small tea room was hot.
Drinking tea, several mothers sat down around the stone table one by one, chatting and laughing, and enjoying the leisure of the moment.
Except for Lan, I and several other mothers met for the first time, and we quickly got acquainted, laughing that there were students from several elementary schools in Siming District. Lan also has a neighbor, a penguin, who brought homemade fried dumplings and beef patties.
Everything was ready, and I was amazed: it was so wonderful to be with women.
You might as well take a closer look at the women around you, especially those who have given birth to mothers, and you will find that they are all little experts in life. There is a high probability that the ten fingers will not touch the spring water when she is a girl, but it is different when you have children, and everyone will have a special skill.
When a woman goes from a girl to a mother, she becomes omnipotent.
In recent years, there has been a very hot topic on the Internet: What are the benefits of getting married?
As soon as this question was thrown, the parties didn't know how to answer it, their eyes rolled several times, and after a while, they still didn't think of any benefits to getting married. Actually, what are the benefits of getting married? It depends on how you are prepared to manage yourself in your marriage.
Marriage is not about turning two people into one, but about making two people better people.
I've known Arashi for nearly ten years, three or four times a year, and I've noticed that she's getting more and more relaxed over the years.
I still remember a few years ago, she came to talk to me, and she often talked about how anxious I was, how obedient my children were, and the conflicts with my in-laws, everything was terrible. At that time, I had just given birth to Dabao, and I was busy writing with the baby every day, and I, an outsider, was quite envious that she had in-laws to help take care of the child. It's great to have someone to help, at least you won't be too busy.
It wasn't until I gave birth to Erbao and lived with my mother-in-law for two years that I realized that it was not so smooth for the two generations to live together. No one is bad, but there are too many differences in concepts and living habits between each other, and there is no way to reconcile the contradictions caused by some inherent differences.
If you want to get along smoothly, it depends on who can compromise and have higher emotional intelligence.
I'm so tired! After my daughter was two years old, my mother-in-law came home, and I didn't let her come again, I'd rather be a little tired by myself, at least you can control everything, and you don't need to deal with too complicated mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships. Lan's solution to her anxiety was to quit her job and stay at home with her baby for several years, and now that her two children are older, she has also gone out to work.
Every woman will become extremely busy in marriage, no children may be able to be themselves as they want, after having children we have to really live like an "adult", at this time we are in vain with the previous generation of parents to exchange identities, we learn how they to run a home, the home to run a sound and impressive.
There are often contradictions, anxiety is everywhere, and if we want to go to the next level in our lives, we have to learn to mediate ourselves.
Young girls who are looking forward to marriage will take it for granted how happy they are to be with the person they love every day; But a woman who has really been through marriage will understand:In fact, marriage is to give you a chance to control yourself and use your strengths to build a home.
What is the atmosphere like in the family of origin? It's up to you and your wife.
If you want to live a good married life, there is another point that is very important, especially for women:You have to manage yourself well and jump out of the inherent circle around your husband and children. Whether you're a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, your own sense of abundance is the most important thing.
Among our mothers, there are two full-time mothers, and there are those like me who engage in flexible employment while taking care of their babies, and there are even those who open their own companies and become bosses. We all have one thing in common:He has a strong ability to control his own life
There are similarities, everyone is on the same frequency, and the topic is quickly chatting freely.
After lunch, when the tea was full, Arashi and Penguin took out coffee beans, as well as hand-poured small funnels, filter paper, etc., and several women began to taste coffee again. My nerves were tense in the morning, and it was hard to put myself at ease because my three-year-old sister was bullied by my six-year-old brother from time to time. Later, the child's father came, and I was not so anxious.
Although we didn't talk too deeply, I can guess that everyone still has a good marriage.
And while having a good marriage, he managed himself well.
You know how to live, not that there are no contradictions, but how to manage your life well while facing contradictions. Our group of mothers belong to people who have a very rich self in marriage, not that they don't care about their children and husbands, but in addition to this, we also have a richer spiritual self.
If a woman wants to feel happy in marriage, your happiness is not all about your husband, but also depends on whether you have handled your relationship with yourself.
How beautiful it is to get together this Saturday, a moment outdoors, drinking tea, coffee, eating snacks and takeaways, with the little ray of sunshine at noon in spring, several women are talking and laughing. Presumably, everyone who passes by will come to exclaim: Look, how beautiful these women are!
Whether a marriage is good or bad depends on not only the man, but also yourself.
Love yourself, make yourself better, have a fuller heart, and embrace a better version of yourself.
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