If you want to become a goddess, you must improve your charm. Attraction consists of multiple factor dimensions of subject and object. The subject refers to: your appearance, figure, clothing, knowledge, behavior, etc., while the object is the person you want to attract, his personal knowledge, preferences and expectations for women or love. Among the many factors that affect the level of attractiveness, body building, dressing improvements, etc., can be self-taught to a certain extent. However, this simple change in appearance actually requires a lengthy transition period and is slower than you might think. And the inner cultivation of knowledge and temperament is not something that can be achieved very quickly. Especially when it comes to knowledge, if you want to challenge someone whose academic qualifications and knowledge level are far superior to yours, you will hardly succeed unless you continue to study hard.
So, is there a strategy for enhancing attraction that can be easily learned on your own, simple and effective, and does not require any innate conditions or acquired educational qualifications? Yes, it's called: "Speak well". Don't laugh, are you really sure you can "talk well"? You must have had this problem: Why didn't I confess to him? Why didn't he listen to me? Why did the relationship with him end like this? Why is it so serious? Even if I fall in love, will I still be abandoned? Why am I being criticized for speaking harshly? He is always reluctant to communicate with me?
Whether it's love or marriage, "communication" plays a huge role in intimate relationships. Almost 70% of the cases we've dealt with are due to communication issues. The breakthrough point where we help repair and warm up relationships also starts with communication. Love requires mutual communication. Your love, your needs, your perceptions, all your expectations, are almost all manifested through communication. So, learning to say "yes" means that you have mastered the best way to properly convey love in words, to pray correctly in words, and to establish long-lasting communication with him in words.
What does dating mean and how to date someone you like? Next, I will explain in detail how to improve your charm and attractiveness through clever way of speaking.
1.In the case of multiple people, throw the question at everyone.
Many girls make this mistake easily. When more than three people get together, some people will grab a topic or question and chat all the time. And what they're chatting about isn't relevant to them, which can be especially embarrassing for the rest of the party. You can find a topic that everyone is interested in, take the initiative to leave a question for everyone, and then everyone can discuss it together and express their opinions. But special attention should also be paid here: do not touch other people's forbidden areas, and do not show off yourself, which will cause others to resent it.
2.When meeting for the first time, don't talk about personal issues.
When we first socialize, we often don't know what to talk about. To avoid an awkward situation, some girls may start talking about privacy, which they believe will shorten the distance between them. However, men are more sensitive to private topics than girls think. Once exposed to this topic, their defensiveness against others will intensify and they will even be reluctant to continue communicating with you.
So how should we talk?
A more appropriate suggestion is that you can take a self-deprecating approach. You can try to say something harmless or embarrassing. Take the initiative to make fun of yourself and laugh at yourself, not only can you make fun of the other party, but you can also quickly gain the favor of the other party. On the one hand, showing one's ugliness and embarrassment in front of others can satisfy the naturally lively psychology of others, so self-deprecation can make the other person happy. On the other hand, most people are reluctant to tell others about their shortcomings, but you are more daring to show yourself in front of others than others. It's like an expression of the other person's trust, so you're also likely to earn the other person's trust. Self-defeat degrades oneself and exalts others. It's easy for you to gain the favor of the other person while satisfying their vanity.
3.Information cannot be requested.
Some girls always like to ask questions constantly when chatting. They felt that they should not ask about other people's situations and vowed not to give up. If this kind of person is not very strong, or lacks heart, he will not take others seriously, let alone respect others. No matter who is at this time, if they are in such a situation of forced questioning, no matter what their attitude is, they will feel very disgusted in their hearts.
If you have to ask, you need to know how to share your attitude towards things and then ask the other person. For example: You want to know if the other person is planning to have a baby. You can put it mildly: I love children and think they are cute. If possible, I would like to have more children. Do you like kids too? A light-hearted start may remove the opponent's defenses.