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I have been talking for many years, my relationship is stable, and I am going to talk about marriage.
The first time I went to my boyfriend's house, his mother only gave me a 200 meeting gift, did she not pay attention to me?
I told my girlfriend about it, but my girlfriend said that I was "too greedy for money".
Should you want a "greeting gift?"
First time meeting parents,
How much should the man's parents give?
When the relationship between the two is stable and they feel that they can enter into marriage, they must go to both parties' homes to see each other.
At this time, they both communicated well with their parents, and the other party was the one who decided that they could get married, and they wanted their parents to help refer to it.
Before meeting, both parents have already learned about you and your parents' family through the description of their children.
If your parents agree that he will take you to the door, they will basically be satisfied with your family situation and willing to see you.
As for how many meeting gifts to give, it depends on how the other party's parents feel when they get along this time.
The thickness of the "greeting gift" does not necessarily represent the importance of the other party's parents.
First of all, "meeting" to seal a red envelope is just a recognition of you and a sense of ceremony.
After all, there is no engagement yet, and everything will be determined.
The money of the man's family is not scraped, and it is impossible to give you a very thick red envelope for nothing.
The man's family gave you a red envelope, which means that this meeting, the past few days, are very satisfied with you and recognize you as a daughter-in-law.
Secondly, the amount of "meeting gift" depends on the other party's family conditions.
If the other party takes out the "meeting red envelope", the amount is already a relatively large and objective sum for his family, it must be very, very important to you.
If the other party's family is very wealthy, but they give you a few hundred and one thousand, it is almost the same as sending you away.
Explain that the other party doesn't look down on you very much, and giving a red envelope is nothing more than taking care of your face and taking care of your son's mood. After all, your relationship is strong, and it is impossible to break up now.
How much to give depends on the other party's family conditions. According to his family conditions, look at the red envelope given to you and guess the other party's mind.
In addition, the man's family gives the girl a meeting gift, and the girl has to accept it, which is a respect for the elders.
When the boy goes to the woman's house, the woman's parents had better give the boy a red envelope. Don't covet this "greeting gift" to give people the impression of taking advantage.
The "greeting gift" conveys the recognition and liking of the elders for the juniors, so it is not necessarily the exclusive right of the woman.
Before marriage, girls must collect these 3 kinds of money
Before and after marriage, the quality of life will be somewhat reduced.
Especially after childbirth, it has a great impact on the economic conditions of girls.
Therefore, before marriage, don't fall in love, feel that asking the other party for money is too materialistic, and the two have a good relationship, so don't talk about money, it's not pure.
Facts have proved that if you don't talk about "money" before marriage, often the marriage ends badly.
To "talk about money" before marriage, one is to find out the details of the other party's family background, at least to be the right person, rather than to help the poor; Second, we must strive for our own interests, which is the confidence of marriage and the guarantee of ourselves.
These three kinds of money must be collected:
1) Meet and greet gifts
The greeting gift of meeting your parents for the first time represents the other parent's opinion and love for you. No matter how much, giving a red envelope is a kind of respect and recognition for girls.
After getting engaged or married, the first time you see the man's family relatives, you must also accept the meeting gift from the family elders.
The first is "courtesy exchanges", these are the money spent by the in-laws, and when they are recovered, the in-laws' money will not be lost, giving the in-laws an impression that they are considering their own families.
Second, this is also the "heart" of the elders to help the juniors and build a new home, so that the juniors can have some savings and become independent faster.
2) Engagement money
Many couples have fallen into the step of "engagement", talking about money but falling apart in their relationship.
In fact, whether you and the other party have the same view of money, it should be clear from the usual time to get along, whether the other party has money or not, and is reluctant to spend money for you.
Most of the engagement is not appropriate, either it is a flash marriage, and the relationship is too short; Either when you fall in love, you only care about love and don't talk about anything.
did not observe the other party's character and three views, nor did he observe the economic conditions of the other party's family.
So much so that in the end, either stupidly don't want anything, or quarrel for many years and love and become enemies.
Daily getting along should travel often, make shopping plans together, observe each other's consumption outlook, whether the other party has a sense of responsibility, and whether they are willing to you?
Most importantly, do you have the same view of money?
If the money negotiation does not go well, then you should stop the loss in time when you are in love.
If you have the same view of money, when you get engaged, you should fight for your own interests.
According to local customs, you should not miss a single point of your dowry. These are the confidence in your marriage to help you resist the storms of marriage.
If the dowry is a guarantee, the dowry is a sense of security.
only takes, does not give, has no right to speak in marriage, and even does not get the respect of the other party and his family.
Your own dowry is your own confidence, and you can straighten your waist in marriage.
What's more, whether it is a dowry or a dowry, it is a "reserve" provided by the parents of both parties to help the young couple set up their own family.
Therefore, it is best to find the right person to marry, and no one will take advantage of anyone.
3) Change money
"Call a brand new pair of parents, or even a little strange parents call parents."
For a girl, the future is full of uncertainty and confusion.
The man's parents sealed the red envelope when they changed their words, which is not only an emphasis on the girl, but also a solemn commitment.
This moment will be remembered by both parties, solemn and ceremonial.
The moment the girl changes her lipstick envelope, it means that there is an extra pair of filial parents, taking on the role of daughter-in-law, wife, and even mother, which is separate from the previous little girl.
These three kinds of money, for girls, are both symbolic of the transformation of the role identity; It also represents the heart of the man's parents and the importance they attach to the girl.
People are mutual, and when a girl feels valued by you, she will return the greatest kindness.
Only then can the family get along happily.
Of course, both men and women should not regard any "money" such as dowry and dowry as a means of making money.
When you want to make money, you have lost the essential meaning of marriage.
Every sum of money before marriage is the good wishes and hearts of the elders of both parties.
Don't use the slogan of taking advantage of the sky, asking for a price, not only to look down on yourself, but also to be sorry for the relationship between the two.
To get married, it is best to find the right family, without comparison and calculation.
The sense of ritual "concretizes the mind and feels the heart, so that you can manage your marriage with the greatest happiness and positivity."
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