Most people have always pursued the pursuit of starting a family, a quest that dates back to ancient times.
With the evolution of the times, more and more people have begun to pursue a free and stress-free life around us, and the Dink and the generation have become a hot topic in today's society.
The famous ** genius Li Jian is also a "Dink" family, and many netizens are condemning him for not understanding: How can you talk about happiness without children?
As a genius with huge influence throughout Asia, Li Jian's private life has often become a topic of debate.
Why did Li Jian choose to only get married and not have children? Does he regret that decision now?
In the general concept, a happy and complete life requires the composition of a family of three.
In Li Jian's view, raising children requires too much energy.
Children are not necessary for me.
Li Jian was very calm when facing reporters' questions.
As soon as this report was released, it caused many netizens to criticize Li Jian.
Someone commented online that don't be too selfish and think about your parents' feelings.
Some netizens bluntly expressed their sadness: How do you inherit your excellent genes?
Li Jian felt helpless about the overwhelming ** on the Internet, because his experience was far more complicated than everyone imagined.
Li Jian, who was born in an ordinary family in Northeast China, under the influence of his parents, likes to listen to ** since he was a child, and often composes his own songs.
When he was in middle school, Li Jian was influenced by Hong Kong and Taiwan**, and asked his mother to buy the first Kapok guitar in his life.
Since then, Li Jian has been completely immersed in the world of **, holding the guitar and practicing songs every day.
Li Jian's parents have always been worried about his future, because they always expected him to become a learned person.
However, this concern is obviously unnecessary, because Li Jian himself is very aware of the importance of learning.
Although Li Jian loves **, he has not neglected to study cultural classes, and his class grades have always been among the best.
Li Jian is always able to take care of ** and his studies, not only maintain his enthusiasm for **, but also not delay his studies.
Therefore, Li Jian has been the child of another family who has been frequently mentioned in the conversation of the neighborhood since he was a child.
Li Jian's parents often joked that seeing him so sensible, they predicted that he would become a singer in the future.
Li Jian has quietly planted a seed called a dream in his heart, the speaker does not know it, but the listener can feel the desire in his heart.
Li Jian didn't realize at the time how remarkable his bright future would be.
As the saying goes, ** will shine in the end.
Li Jian sang a song "Say a Word from the Heart" in the winter camp singing competition held by Tsinghua University, which amazed all the audience.
Li Jian lived up to expectations after the competition, won the first place in the country, and finally successfully admitted to Tsinghua University.
Li Jian already understood in his heart that ** has become a dream that he needs to chase all his life.
After Li Jian stepped onto the university campus, he still didn't forget to pick up his guitar.
Li Jian values the opportunity to study at Tsinghua University very much, so he usually needs to balance his professional studies with his career.
He is an excellent class president in the electronics department and is active on campus during the day; In the evenings, he picked up the guitar and practiced hard.
With his extraordinary IQ, he not only studied hard, but also focused on research, and achieved both his studies and his hobbies.
Li Jian often participates in various performance activities on campus as a singer.
With his talent, he won the first prize in the school song contest and has been famous on campus ever since.
Even during his time at school, Li Jian also organized his own ** meeting.
Li Jian became a popular figure on campus, and his legend filled every corner of Tsinghua University. That's it.
However, what is surprising is that this unruly ** genius will eventually fall one day.
Li Jian and his alumnus Lu Gengrong teamed up to form the group "Water and Wood Years" in 2001.
The first ** "Life with You" released by Shuimu Nianhua won almost all the gold awards.
With his unique voice, Li Jian quickly became popular all over the country.
However, the good times didn't last long.
Soon after, Li Jian and his teammate Lu Gengrong clashed over the ** concept.
In order to pursue the purity of the best, Li Jian took the initiative to break away from the Shuimu years and began to create personal works.
Hong Kong and Taiwan** are gradually declining, while the popular ** is beginning to become popular.
Li Jian is unwilling to follow the crowd, but still adheres to his own creative concept and is committed to creating first-class works rich in connotation and depth.
However, unsatisfactory, Li Jian encountered difficulties that were incompatible with the trend of the time.
Blessings and misfortunes depend on each other, and you can't have both. Li Jian's career was frustrated, and his family also suffered huge changes.
Li Jian's father was suddenly diagnosed with cancer and needed immediate surgery.
Li Jian was deeply annoyed at the moment, and began to regret his choice.
Li Jian believes that if he could concentrate on ** and achieve success in his career, then the situation of feeling so helpless in front of his father's hospital bed may not have happened.
After experiencing a major blow, Li Jian began to calm down and devote himself to creation.
He believes that under the magic of **, he can put aside the troubles of reality.
After experiencing this incident, Li Jian began to let go of his arrogant posture and began to learn to be humble.
However, Li Jian has always insisted on refusing to make any compromises in the field of **, he just silently created his own "niche**".
During this journey, Li Jian was very fortunate to be able to feel that a person who silently supported him was always behind him.
Behind every successful man is a woman who silently supports him.
Li Jian became acquainted with his future wife, Meng Xiaobei, at the age of ten.
Meng Xiaobei was only five years old at the time and was a cute milk dumpling.
When Li Jian first saw this little girl, he immediately liked her very much, and even named her "Little Shell".
Love is predestined, and everything has already been decided in fate.
A few years have passed, and Meng Xiaobei has grown up to become even better.
Meng Xiaobei, like Li Jian, has been praised by her neighbors as a model good child since she was a child, whether it is piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, they can play it with ease.
After Meng Xiaobei went to middle school, she learned that Li Jian was escorted to Tsinghua University, and her admiration for him was even deeper.
She made up her mind that she must be admitted to Tsinghua University.
After learning the news, Li Jian was very happy, and often took the initiative to invite Meng Xiaobei to open a small class tutoring together, which did not end until late at night.
With Li Jian's encouragement, Meng Xiaobei studied harder and was finally admitted to Tsinghua University with excellent results.
In the process of getting along, they gradually cultivated a very deep relationship.
After they enter college, the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend is naturally established.
Because of her beauty, Meng Xiaobei has been invited by many talent scouts and has been given the opportunity to enter the entertainment industry.
However, Meng Xiaobei was unwilling to accept the opportunity to get involved in the entertainment industry.
She is an extremely traditional girl, and there is nothing more important to her than her studies.
With her superior IQ, Meng Xiaobei successfully realized her wish and was admitted to Tsinghua University to study for a doctorate in sociology.
Since then, Meng Xiaobei has followed Li Jian closely.
Whether Li Jian is successful or at a low point, Meng Xiaobei has always been by his side.
Meng Xiaobei accompanied Li Jian in the rental house for seven years, until he finally ushered in the peak of his career.
When Faye Wong sang Li Jian's "Legend" on stage, everyone realized that the former genius would once again appear on his stage.
Li Jian continues to release new songs, whether it is "The Wind Blows the Wheat Waves", "Coming for You" and "On the Shore of Lake Baikal", etc., all of which have achieved great success.
Since then, the Chinese music scene has ushered in a new ** giant.
Li Jian proved his previous choice right with his own strength.
However, the ** genius made a decision that shocked everyone.
Li Jian believes that his life is just like what he sings in his lyrics, "luck is like a light boat, life is like a mountain".In his interview, Li Jian emphasized the supremacy of personal life.
Li Jian believes that when everyone first starts to get into education, they should be asked to put the collective good first and dedicate everything to the team.
However, if the interests of the individual are repeatedly violated or even disappear, then happiness will not be achieved.
Therefore, Li Jian believes that raising children requires a lot of time and energy, which will distract him from the creation of **, so they choose not to have children.
Despite Li Jian's own firm attitude, there are still many fans who are dissatisfied with it.
They felt that it was a pity that Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei had such excellent genes, but they did not leave any offspring.
Li Jian replied that he was not a giant panda and did not need to pass on his genes.
Li Jian's highly praised answer made everyone speechless at once.
However, the topic of "Dink" is becoming increasingly heated on the Internet.
Some netizens believe that it is a wise choice not to have children, and these people live very clearly.
However, most people still believe that a family's life is incomplete without children.
Someone said on the Internet: The more knowledgeable people are, the more reluctant they are to have children.
However, is this really the case? The reply of netizens is clearer:
It's not that they don't want children, but they are well aware of the difficulties of raising children and that it is not enough to provide for a material life. They want their children to be spiritually fulfilled and independent**, but this is a daunting task.
As Pu Shu said, the pain experienced should be relived after the birth of the child, is it really necessary?
I don't know that there is a saying, raising children to prevent old age.
Most people believe that when they are old, they must endure pain if they are unable to move their hands and feet, and if they do not raise children, they will not prevent old age.
Some netizens believe that in real life, if you meet too many selfish people, even if you have children, you may not be able to rely on them to support your old age, as long as you have money, you don't have to worry about starvation.
Some people don't think there's anything wrong with choosing Dink, but they hate the constant promotion of Dink ideas and attempts to influence others to make decisions.
Some are true dinks, while others simply "temporarily" choose not to have children.
The famous singer Alan Tam is one such person, he chose to live with his ex-wife for 15 years, but then suddenly regretted his original decision.
He had a child with his confidant in private, and then publicly returned to the family with his son to recognize his ancestors.
An example of this is Er Dongsheng, who has always adhered to celibacy (dink), but after nine years of marriage to his wife, he eventually broke his principles and gave birth to children outside.
What these people mean is that it's not that they don't want children, it's that they don't want to have children with you.
Everyone should be cautious about every choice in life and keep their eyes open.
There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is great. ”
We have always focused on maintaining the reputation of the family and caring about the harmony of the family, but we often neglect our own emotional experience.
Li Jian has presented us with too many surprises with his voice, from the Spring Festival Gala to The Voice of China.
Everyone has the right to choose their way of life, and a harmonious society can only be built if everyone's choices are respected.
No life is perfect, and there is no perfect marriage.
In life, no matter what choices we make, regrets are inevitable.
Everyone has only one life, and there are no assumptions to speak of. Listen to your inner voice, be brave enough to make your own choices, and live a life without regrets.
Li Jian