It takes a lot of hard work for an individual to succeed
It is not enough for a family to be happy by the strength of one person. Husband and wife should work together.
And the happiness of the family largely depends on whether there is a good virtuous helper.
The following historical story illustrates this point.
Xu Lingzi Xiaomu, a native of Tancheng in the East China Sea (now Tancheng, Shandong). A poet and writer in the Liang and Chen periods of the Southern Dynasty, Xu Ling was very talented and generous, but he was a very simple person in life.
He had no interest in running a business, so he shared it with his relatives for fun.
After Xu Ling became an official, he accumulated a sum of silver taels. Friends advised him to take out the money, buy a property, and invest in business.
Xu Ling disagreed.
He believes that once you do business, people will also change due to the change of the environment. More wealth, but less favor.
Therefore, Xu Ling's belief in sticking to the simplicity of life has not changed, and the consciousness of pure heart and few desires has become stronger.
Friends all think that Xu Ling is stupid to read, although the official is big, but he is less courageous.
Regarding other people's discussions, Xu Ling just smiled.
During the Taijian period of Emperor Chen Xuan, Xu Ling collected rent grain in Jianchang.
Anyone who lives in poverty can come and get rice. After a few days, the grain and rice were given to the people who were living in difficulty.
It didn't take long for Xu Ling's own family to have no rice to eat, so he had to sell his cattle, carts, and clothes to supplement his family.
Someone sarcastically said, "Why bother? Is this for the sake of a good name? ”
Xu Ling told his wife what others were saying about him, and the wife listened to her husband's words and asked Xu Ling with a smile: "In all fairness, what do you think?" ”
Xu Ling did not directly answer his wife's question, and said to his wife: "Don't you still understand my mind?" ”
In fact, how could Xu Ling's wife not understand her husband?
Speaking of which, the matter can be traced back to Xu Ling's wedding night.
Xu Ling's wedding night was spent chatting all night.
After sending off the last group of guests who had come to drink the wedding wine, it was already the middle of the night, and the bride was still sitting on the edge of the bed.
Xu Ling said frankly to his wife: "I'm a person, except for reading and writing, I have no strength, you and I will be with me in the future, you must endure hardships!" ”
The wife replied, "I am not afraid of hardship!" ”
Xu Ling was overjoyed when he heard his wife's answer. That day, Xu Ling and his wife talked heart-to-heart all night. Such as the nobility of the reader, the preciousness of family affection, the need to help others, and so on.
At that time, his wife thought that Xu Ling was just talking about it, and just echoed it. What his wife didn't expect was that Xu Ling was really a person who did what he said.
The wife admires Xu Ling's character very much, and gives full support to her husband's honest and honest behavior as an official and a righteous squandering of wealth.
Even if there is not even a grain of rice at home, she never complains, but shares weal and woe with her husband.
Shui Rutian said: Behind a successful man, there is always a woman who pays silently. It is not so much that Xu Ling is excellent, but that Xu Ling's wife is virtuous.
Whether a family is happy or not, whether a person is successful or not, depends on whether his half of the sky is virtuous or not, considerate or not, kind or not.