"Bao, the child is born, I have the child's surname".
Bao, do you want sweet soy milk or salty soy milk for your boyfriend's breakfast".
Yesterday you deleted me, I looked at the red exclamation mark and fell into a long contemplation, I understood, red represents passion, you want to marry me".
Seeing this, do you sigh: How can there be such a kneeling and licking person? Of course, the above quotations are only for entertainment, but they also reflect from the side how "humble" a boy can be when chasing a girl.
However, recently, the author has found some very subtle social changes, such as: fewer gifts for girls during the holidays, and more gifts for themselves; There are fewer people who chase after girls, and more people who retreat in the face of difficulties; There are fewer obedience to girls, and more pursuit of their own emotional value. Wait a minute.. This can't help but confuse many girls: why don't these boys "lick" anymore?
In fact, when the word "licking dog" did not become popular, "single-mindedness" and "enthusiasm" were more applicable to these boys. However, in the Internet age, new terms are constantly being updated iteratively, resulting in adjectives that originally sounded positive to become a kind of derogation.
The author believes that there are several factors in the continuous decline of the "licking dog" culture:
1. Feelings are mutual, equal.
Since ancient times, "male and female love" is a common phenomenon, every relationship has an invisible scale, if you want a lasting relationship, it is necessary to maintain balance, blindly flattery, tolerance, in the long run will have an impact on their own psychology, easy to produce a "pleasing personality" and even psychological distortion. This is also why many men and women take revenge after breaking up, because he will think: I have paid so much, why are you still like this? Therefore, equality is the basis for maintaining feelings.
Second, the test time is too long.
As we all know, in a relationship, the boy takes the initiative is the majority of the phenomenon. But when a boy spends months or even a year or two pursuing a girl without getting results, no matter how confused a person is, he becomes sober. "She's just enjoying the process of you chasing" "If she was attracted to you, she would have agreed, but she just saw that you were not bad, and it happened that there was no suitable marriage, so she didn't accept or reject you" ......The author believes that it is not a problem to give a certain amount of time to understand the boy, but it is a bit inappropriate not to take the initiative and refuse for a few months or even years, after all, the relationship needs to be managed by two people.
3. The pursuit of self-worth.
Everyone has the right to pursue self-worth, which is reflected in many aspects: self-esteem, satisfaction of individual needs, personal ability, etc. And when these boys can't get self-worth reflected in you, they may retreat from the difficulty, change a suitor, a good self-worth embodiment can make themselves full of positive energy and become positive, so with the awakening of more and more people's self-awareness and the pursuit of self-worth, resulting in the continuous decline of the "licking dog" culture.
Finally, we should note that everyone has a different upbringing and level of education. Some people may be willing to "lick", because he thinks that this is the embodiment of self-worth, and it is also a manifestation of perseverance and firmness, as long as it does not cause trouble to girls, it is "you love me". We should respect everyone's choices and decisions, and we should also encourage people to build healthy, equal, and respectful relationships.