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In this complex world, intimacy is like a ship sailing on the sea, and it is inevitable that it will encounter wind and waves.
When the news of your partner's extramarital affair hits like a thunderbolt from the blue, how do you choose? Do you leave, or do you stay? Is it change, or acceptance?
The Love Trap: How to Give Intimacy a New Life offers four directions for unhappy intimacy, and let's take a look at the wisdom and courage behind these choices.
1. Leave resolutely: wave your sleeves and don't take away a cloud
When the scales of love are tilted, some people choose to leave decisively. This is not only an emotional renunciation, but also a defense of one's own dignity. Leaving means that you have the courage to face reality and have the courage to start over.
Ms. Wang chose to divorce after learning that her husband was having an affair. "I can't tolerate betrayal, I deserve better love," she said. After the divorce, Ms. Wang rediscovered herself and not only achieved success in her career, but also met a man who truly loved her.
However, leaving is not an easy thing to do. You need to face the pressures of life and take on the responsibilities of the family on your own. But as Ms. Wang said, "Only when you take the first step bravely can you usher in a new life." ”
2. Stay and change: Let love be reborn
Faced with the betrayal of their partner, some choose to stay and try to change. It takes not only courage, but also wisdom and patience. Change means that you are willing to work hard for love and take responsibility for your family.
After learning that his wife was having an affair, Mr. Li chose to forgive and tried to change. He said: "Our love has gone through too many ups and downs, and I can't just give up. ”
With the cooperation of his wife, Mr. Li began to seek help from marriage counseling to learn how to better communicate and understand each other. After a period of hard work, their marriage gradually came out of the haze and regained their former happiness.
But change is not an easy task. You need to face your heart, you need to admit your shortcomings, and you need to learn to let go of the pain of the past. But as Mr. Lee said, "Love can only be reborn if you are genuinely willing to change." ”
3. Stay and accept: Let time dilute everything
In the face of their partner's betrayal, some choose to stay and accept reality. This does not mean approving or tolerating your partner's behavior, but choosing to face life's setbacks with a more forgiving mindset.
After learning that her husband was having an affair, Ms. Zhao chose to stay and accept the reality. "I can't change what happened in the past, but I can choose how to face the future," she said. ”
With her husband's remorse and assurance, Ms. Zhao decided to give this marriage a chance. She struggled to adjust her mindset and learn to let go of her past hurts and reinvest in her family and life. As time passed, their marriage gradually returned to its former peace and happiness.
But acceptance is not a negative choice. You need to have enough inner strength to face the cruelty of reality, and you need to be wise enough to deal with complex emotional issues. But as Ms. Zhao said, "Only when you are truly willing to accept reality can time dilute all the pain." ”
4. Stay and abandon adjustments: Let the situation worsen
The last option is to stay and abandon the adjustment and let the situation worsen. This is undoubtedly the worst option, as it not only fails to solve the problem, but also plunges itself into deeper pain.
However, in real life, there are people who do choose this path for a variety of reasons. They may be because they lack the courage to face reality, or they may have lost faith in love.
But in any case, abandoning the adjustment will only make the problem worse, which could eventually lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship.
Conclusion:
When faced with the dilemma of having an affair outside of marriage, everyone has the right to make their own choice. Whether you choose to leave or stay, you need to have enough courage and wisdom to face life's challenges.
Remember, love is not the whole of life, but life is made better because of love. May everyone find their own happiness in intimate relationships!