I am actually not familiar with Internet celebrity Lin Xiaobei, she followed my social ** account and added me on WeChat. When I was brushing people near Starbucks that day, I happened to meet her. As a result, Lin Xiaobei kept asking me how real the life bits and pieces I shared.
Lin Xiaobei admitted that he didn't read much, and hoped that I wouldn't fool her.
I laughed and said, how can the stories on social ** be all true.
I told Lin Xiaobei that what can touch your heartstrings is real.
Lin Xiaobei is a fresh and refined girl, after graduating from high school, she chose the road of part-time work, learned beauty and nail art, and with this craft, her life is quite nourishing. She doesn't have any big material pursuits, and her family doesn't have any burdens, so she lives a petty bourgeois life. Her boyfriend is her high school classmate, and the two have been walking hand in hand for two years, although there are occasional small frictions, but the relationship foundation is quite solid.
However, the two are in a long-distance relationship, working hard in two cities respectively! Lin Xiaobei said that sometimes he hits more than a dozen ** a day, which makes her feel a little annoying; Sometimes there is no ** all day, and it makes her feel lost. There are only a handful of times we see each other every year, and Valentine's Day and birthdays can only be celebrated by shopping for gifts and a few sweet words online.
Love cannot be in love forever, and the reason for separation is often to fight and work hard for a common future. Long-distance relationships require tolerance and understanding from both parties. Love is a thing that is picturesque when it is beautiful, but it is painful when it is cruel. But in any case, love has a cost, including the investment of time, emotion and money, and it is impossible for him to fly to you immediately to take care of you because of your little emotion, reality often does not allow it.
Lin Xiaobei said suspiciously, if he wants to do it but can't do it, there is just someone around him who can do it?
As a woman, many times she is vulnerable, especially when she is sick and wronged, and she especially longs for someone to be by her side. Lin Xiaobei's boyfriend is not rich and handsome, just an ordinary person. But when he knew that she wanted to eat seafood, he would go to the supermarket to buy it and make it for her even if it was raining heavily; When she wants to watch a movie or go out, he will take leave or skip work to accompany her; When she was sick, he would accompany her to the hospital and coax her to drink the bitter potion ......Gradually, Lin Xiaobei will always be the first to think of him when he is unhappy and bored.
Lin Xiaobei emphasized that she doesn't think that she is empathetic anymore, but sometimes she feels flustered!
In a long-distance relationship, there will always be some alternate characters around both parties, who will replace things that should have been done by the lover, such as accompanying you to dinner, shopping, watching movies, etc. Although they are not your lovers, they are closer than your girlfriends. There are long-distance relationships that have achieved positive results, and there are also those that end without illness. You don't feel like you love him or her, but the definition of love doesn't really matter.
I don't judge Lin Xiaobei's boyfriend and her relationship, and I don't guess whether the man next to her is interested in her. But I would like to emphasize that women should always remember to be kind to themselves. A man's mind is elusive, and maybe one day love will suddenly disappear. Women cannot live and love by imagination, but grasp the real things.
Love is not about what you say, but about what you can do; Not by what you once had, but by what you want now and in the future. It's not love that is sustained by memories and paintings, it's called an ex. It's impossible for anyone to comfort themselves when they've been hungry all day, saying that they were full the day before yesterday, so they're not hungry now!
A distant lover gives you a promise of the future, and the man around you can give you real care and care. How do you choose? Love itself has a price, and what kind of person you choose determines what kind of way to love and live. If a man only pays lip service to you but doesn't actually act, then you can ignore him! You should choose to be with the person who is willing to put in the real action for you.
There is no right or wrong in love, but you have the right and responsibility to choose. If you choose to be far away, you will suffer from loneliness and longing; If you choose to be around, you have to give up some of your freedom as a price.
I hope that all long-distance relationships can eventually break up peacefully and not owe each other, not because of empathy but because the waiting is too painful and the longing is too painful. May the protagonist of every love be kind to himself!