Long distance relationships tend to last as long as they last

The love is deep and long, and it is not as long as being by your side, and companionship is the most affectionate confession.

However, there is always a little helplessness in life, and some men and women have to face the dilemma of long-distance separation for a long time.

I recently received a private message from a reader:

She and her boyfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for more than a year, and they will be separated for even longer in the future.

She is a person who lacks a sense of security, and she is worried that this will make the relationship between the two weaker and weaker.

She really wants to know, how long can men and women endure long-term long-term differences?

@木有 26 years old

When it comes to this topic, I always feel a little guilty about her.

Previously, I had to move to another city for work because of my work.

Actually, at first, I wanted to refuse.

But considering my career development and our future lives, I feel it is necessary to build a solid foundation first.

She was also very supportive of my decision, so I went.

We've been separated for two years now, and it's not a short time.

It's really hard for me and I think about her a lot.

If it weren't for our better future, I really couldn't stand it for so long.

As long as I have free time, I will take the initiative to contact her, and I have never stopped every day for two years.

I know that there are definitely going to be problems in a long-distance relationship, and she thinks a lot.

If I can't reassure her, then I shouldn't choose a long-distance relationship.

Thankfully, we will be able to meet in a few months, as my request for repatriation has been approved.

Moreover, we also plan to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the certificate on the day we end the long-distance relationship.

@匿名 32 years old

Once, I firmly believed that the difference between men and women is a test of feelings, and a solid foundation of love can withstand the tempering of time.

However, two years of living away from home completely shattered my beliefs.

The taste of loneliness and longing for companionship made me struggle mentally.

Since he went to work 300 kilometers away, I am looking forward to his ** and WeChat every day.

But his neglect left me feeling helpless, and his loneliness and longing could not be understood by him.

He always ignored me in the name of work, which made me feel indifferent.

This neglect left me with an empty heart and began to look for solace online.

I met a strange man and gradually developed feelings for him.

However, this feeling made me feel deeply conflicted and guilty.

I understand that this is unethical, but I can't control my emotions.

Chatting and playing games with him every day made me deeply dependent on him.

He offered to meet several times, and I hesitated for fear of being discovered by my husband.

I'll admit that mentally I've cheated and I'm not sure when I'm going to take that step.

@outsider 24 years old

My boyfriend and I have only known each other for half a year, and the sweetness of the honeymoon period has not completely dissipated, but we have to start to bear the bitterness of being in a different place.

Since I am about to go to another province for graduate school, I love him very much, but I also understand the importance of his studies.

I often reassure myself that this is only temporary, and that when I graduate, we will be able to step into the future together.

But life is always full of surprises, and last month, a sudden suitor appeared to me.

He was my classmate, and every time I interacted with him, it brought me a new experience.

I understood that he was just a friend and that I had to keep my distance, but his presence really tested my resolve.

I told my boyfriend about my troubles, and his understanding warmed my heart. He said to follow his heart.

He came to our school, and we had dinner with the boy and showed us our wedding rings.

Since then, the boy has never contacted me again, and we have deleted each other's WeChat.

In this way, those troubled and tangled days passed, and I strengthened my belief in feelings.

I know that there will be challenges and ** in the days ahead, but I am convinced that I can stick to my original intention.

Love requires loyalty, and instead of losing yourself in the pursuit of others, it is better to be firm in your choice and protect true love.

@徐惜君 36 years old

My girlfriend and I have been separated for a long time due to work.

Fortunately, the distance between the two places is not far, and it is relatively convenient to meet each other.

Every weekend, we take the high-speed train to each other's cities, or she comes to me, or I go to her, and this way of getting together brings us a lot of convenience.

Every day, we will chat and play ** through WeChat, sharing each other's life trivia and recent situations, and this daily communication brings us a simple and beautiful sense of happiness.

When I'm busy at work or I'm playing games, I keep her informed so she doesn't get cranky.

While we all want to end this state of long-distance separation, there are a number of real-life factors that we have to deal with.

However, we are willing to work together to gradually reduce these impacts until one day we can truly come together.

Sometimes, life is full of helplessness, and we ordinary people need to make some compromises to make each other's lives better.

Recently, we also discussed this issue, and I was very touched by her willingness to move to my side, considering that my current job is not bad.

Therefore, long-term long-distance separation is not something that is unbearable for us.

Most importantly, we are willing to make some sacrifices for each other's personal interests.

There is one key point that is often overlooked:Distance may be a challenge to relationships, but it is by no means the fatal wound of love.

As the saying goes:"We are destined to meet thousands of miles away. ”

Although the long distance has brought many difficulties, it can also be regarded as a test of fate, and proper handling can deepen the relationship between the two.

However, I would suggest that if you are able, you should try to avoid long-term separation.

Short-term patience may not be difficult, but long-term patience is not so simple.

Love life is full of all kinds of **, and men and women in different places need to go through many tests.

This is not only a matter of trust and understanding, even if two people have a good relationship, long-term distance may make each other drift apart.

Although it is often said that "distance produces beauty", sometimes distance can also create rifts.

Therefore, if you really love each other, you must solve the problem of long-distance separation as soon as possible.

Finally, I would like to say this:Don't give up on your loved one easily, and don't use the distance as an excuse for your relationship to fade.

No love is taken for granted and smooth sailing.

The difficulties and challenges that the two overcome together are the most precious memories of love.