The attitude of many cheating men towards the mistress depends on the attitude of the wife towards the cheating man.
Whether a cheating man will give up an extramarital affair also depends on whether the original partner will give up the marriage.
So it's not that wives can't solve extramarital affairs, cheating men don't care about wives and marriage.
It's that wives care more about cheating men and marriage, so cheating men don't need to care.
Jiaxin has dealt with an extramarital affair case before
The original partner and Jiaxin said that her husband cheated on the mistress, and after being discovered, he had a very bad attitude, and she wanted to communicate to solve the problem, so that her husband could think about the child, and the relationship between husband and wife for many years.
broke off with Xiaosan, went home and lived with her, and the cheating man didn't pay attention to it at all.
No matter what the original partner says, he won't listen to it and continue to enjoy the extramarital affair.
This original partner changed to threaten to cheat on the man, if she didn't break up with the junior, then she would divorce.
originally thought that the cheating man would be afraid of divorce and then break off the relationship with the mistress, but the cheating man did not.
The cheating man hesitated for less than a week, and then continued to go his own way and fool around with the mistress.
This original partner doesn't understand, why is the cheating man so fearless, isn't he afraid of divorce?
Jiaxin has been in contact with many similar cases of extramarital affairs.
When a man cheats, his wife has a good attitude at the beginning, and she wants to solve the extramarital affair and doesn't want to embarrass the cheating man.
But the cheating man didn't appreciate it, so he continued to cheat with the mistress, and even clashed with the original partner.
The original partner felt that the soft one was not good, so he wanted to come to the hard one and threaten the cheating man with divorce.
thought that the cheating man would be afraid, but the reality is that the cheating man will not be afraid for two days, so he will continue to cheat arrogantly.
Wives don't understand what the psychology of cheating men is, why aren't they afraid of divorce at all?
In fact, cheating men are not really not afraid of divorce.
Most cheating men don't cheat for the sake of divorce
There is actually a basis for them to continue the affair, that is, it will not cause much loss.
This loss includes, the wife wants to divorce, needs to divide the property with the wife, or the wife makes a big fuss, resulting in the cheating man's reputation being damaged, and the wives make trouble with the cheating man's unit, and the cheating man's career has problems, etc., the cheating man is not afraid of loss, they are actually afraid of a lot.
It's just that all these losses will only arise if wives are determined to rectify cheating men.
In other words, whether a cheating man will be really afraid depends mainly on his wife's attitude.
If the wives do nothing, the cheating man is not afraid, because there is no loss.
If the wives will do something, such as a real divorce and a real quarrel, the cheating man will be afraid.
Just like this cheating case, the cheating man behaves obviously
When the original partner coaxed the cheating man, he felt that the original partner would not treat him well, so he had no fear
But the original partner later proposed to divorce, he actually had a change, and he was hesitant for a week.
During this period, he was paying attention to the attitude of the original partner, and determined that the original partner was just a threat and would not really do anything.
The original partner will not really choose to divorce, and the cheating man will have no loss, so he continues to cheat arrogantly, and the cheating man is not really afraid, but he believes that the original partner does not dare, and the attitude of the original partner makes the cheating man not afraid.
If this original partner wants to solve the extramarital affair, then it must be done
What are you saying now, threatening cheating men or anything, no one cooperates.
Because the cheating man has already determined that his wife will not divorce, and he will not make trouble that the cheating man will have losses, so the cheating man will continue to cheat and not take his wife seriously.
Then the wife wants to change the cheating man's perception of her, and the wife's attitude is that she will really divorce.
and collected evidence of cheating, and also consulted a divorce lawyer, and the wife prepared a few points of the divorce agreement.
When you find a cheating man, you don't threaten the cheating man, divorce if you don't break up with the mistress, but file for divorce cleanly, regardless of whether the cheating man broke up with the minus or not.
Dead set on cheating man, dead set on marriage, and just want to end this marriage.
And the wife doesn't say that it is good to get together and disperse, and it is obvious that she wants to take revenge on the cheating man.
The cheating man will be afraid, in this case, the original partner will do what he suggests, and the cheating man will not continue to have an indifferent attitude, and will begin to admit his mistakes, beg for forgiveness, it is impossible to divorce, and the mistress will soon be broken, and all kinds of guarantees will not cheat again, so I want my wife to forgive.
Therefore, it is not that the cheating man is not afraid, but that he depends on the attitude of his wives before he decides whether he is afraid or not.
Finally, Jiaxin reminded all the wives who were cheated on that a gentle attitude could not solve the extramarital affair.
If a cheating man can choose to break up because of his feelings for his wife, he will not cheat at all, if you want to solve the extramarital affair, your attitude must be firm, you have to make the cheating man afraid of you, have a sense of awe for you, he feels that continuing to cheat is not good for him, he will take the initiative to break up with the mistress.
And the clearer the bottom line of the original match, the more untouchable it is, and the less likely it is for men to cheat twice.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.