When people reach middle age, they have to talk about money first, and then talk about other things
When people reach middle age, they often go through a "money test".
Rich people may flaunt luxury, those who don't have money may be embarrassed, and honest people may feel torn between a few sides.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, the politician Guan Zhong once said: "Be honest and know etiquette, know honor and disgrace when you have enough food and clothing, and know the degree of service." ”
This sentence enlightens us that only with wealth can we pay more attention to etiquette, understand honor and disgrace, and stabilize various interpersonal relationships.
Although money is not the only measure of a person, we must be honest about money before we do anything else. Without wealth, all good words cannot be turned into reality.
When it comes to love, talking about money is like a litmus test.
When we first fall in love, we may think that as long as we love each other, life will be happy no matter how difficult it is. However, as we get older, we come to realize that love doesn't fill our stomachs. In poor families, there is a marked increase in contradictions.
It has been said that "80% of family conflicts stem from poverty." ”
I have a cousin named Reihua. She wants to do beauty after she gets married and plans to sell related products after she becomes beautiful to earn some price difference. To do this, she applied for 5,000 yuan from her husband and explained in detail what it was for. The husband was silent for a moment, and said with a gloomy face: "Where do I get so much money?"”
As a result, the conflict between Linghua and her husband continued to escalate, and the two sides blamed each other.
While some rich people easily take out hundreds of thousands, it is not uncommon for some poor people to not be able to take out even 500 yuan. When a man's pockets are empty, he is inevitably blamed;When a woman has been dependent on a man for her living expenses, it is natural to be looked down upon.
There is a famous saying: "No matter how romantic love is, if it can't solve practical problems such as eating, dressing, buying a house, sleeping, etc., it is just empty romance." ”
The relationship needs to be built on an economic basis, otherwise the relationship will become fragile and cold.
Talking about money is a prerequisite for filial piety to one's parents.
Hunan**" published such a story: Huang Cuiyun, a 21-year-old Hubei girl, fell in love with a Cili guy when she was working in Hunan. Despite the family's opposition, they stuck together.
At that time, they did not consider the issue of the guy's family conditions.
However, fate played a trick on them. When they returned to their parents' home for the first time, they had a car accident that left Huang Cuiyun paralyzed. Due to difficult family conditions and her own mobility difficulties, Huang Cuiyun has not returned to her parents' home for nearly 30 years after marriage.
Eventually, Huang's parents walked a long way from their hometown to be reunited with her.
As the saying goes, "Filial piety comes first." ”
For poor couples, the ability to be filial to their parents is limited. You may only be able to chat through **greetings, WeChat**, and occasionally send some gifts. Driving back to your hometown to pick up your parents can take days and cost thousands of dollars. For women who marry far away, the cost of returning to their parents' home is indeed high.
Wealthy people can go back to their hometown with gifts, take care of their parents when they are sick, and hire a nanny when they have limited mobility. Filial piety requires both "filial piety" and "smooth and smooth", both of which are indispensable.
Money is an indispensable medium of exchange in collaboration.
For middle-aged people, the main concern when going to any job interview is not the working conditions, but the level of treatment.
There are always those who, for the sake of a higher salary, are willing to do even hard work, even cleaning up the dirt.
If we don't think about the salary, then what is the point of work for us?After all, we all need to make ends meet, and we can't talk about "unpaid help" every day.
If you're an entrepreneur, your ultimate goal is to make a profit. This is the same regardless of the industry chosen.
Once, a friend and I contracted a fishing pond together. At the beginning, my friend said: "As long as you make money, the distribution is easy to negotiate." ”
However, when it came to the dividend at the end of the year, my friend proposed: "I am mainly responsible for the fishing pond, and I should take eighty percent." ”
I said, "It's only fair to distribute according to how much you invested in the first place." ”
After a few words, my relationship with my friend became very awkward.
As the saying goes, only by settling accounts can we maintain the relationship between brothers and sisters. Once there is a vague account in the cooperation**, it is likely to lead to dissatisfaction, and even no cooperation in the future.
When you reach middle age, no matter what social circle you are in, most of them are based on interests. If not, then the circle may not be attractive to you.
Money is a face in the relationship between family and friends.
Rich have distant relatives in the mountains" - when a poor person transforms into a rich person, he may have such a realization: "Why are there so many relatives in our family?" ”
used to be a lonely and few relatives and friends, but later they came to visit. The comings and goings of relatives and friends are becoming more and more pragmatic.
If you are penniless, you may make your siblings dismissive of you, or even deliberately avoid borrowing money when you need it urgently. All kinds of reasons for rejection make you feel very uncomfortable.
Work hard to earn more money without worrying too much about what your friends and family think of you, and don't easily bow your head and beg for others.
When you have wealth, you will live with dignity whether you are able to help your relatives and friends or not. It is important to understand that people naturally tend to cater to the powerful.
As people grow older, they gradually realize that no matter what aspect of emotion or lifestyle is involved, it is closely related to money, and reality is inevitably intertwined with money.
Sigmund Freud, a well-known psychologist, once said: "In a civilized society, people treat money and emotions in a strikingly similar way. On the surface, it seems to be serious, but in fact it is just hypocritical. ”
A person's quality of life is not simply determined by money and material, because behind money there are more things that cannot be seen directly but are profound.
Having an honest discussion about money, while a bit vulgar, can alleviate some of the annoyance. Freud's perspective reminds us that the real experience of life often transcends the monetary and material dimensions.