The proportion of sibling love is increasing year by year, and it will become a major trendWhy does my brother like my sister now?
Recently, I've noticed a striking trend – sibling relationships are becoming more common.
During this year's May Day holiday, I personally participated in three weddings, and surprisingly, each couple was a sibling relationship.
It is worth mentioning that the age gap between the two men and women in one of them has reached 7 years. However, this did not prevent them from loving each other deeply.
At the same time, the theme of sister and brother love in film and television works is also increasing.
Looking back on last year's "Blazing Road" starring Jin Chen and Wang Anyu, and this year's "Love Only" starring Wu Lei and Zhou Yutong, the story of sister and brother love is becoming more and more fascinating on the screen.
The data shows that in many regions of China, the proportion of sibling love is on the rise.
Taking Hangzhou as an example, in 2020, a total of 10,827 couples chose to register their marriage as sisters and brothers.
By 2021, that number had increased to 11,427 pairs.
In 2022, the number of sibling relationships between women who are 1 or 4 years older than men alone will reach 12,621, accounting for 19 of the total number of registered marriages31%。A survey conducted by Tantan APP shows that 90% of post-95 boys are more willing to accept sibling love.
It can be seen that in the current society, sister and brother love is gradually evolving into a highly sought-after marriage and love model.
Why is sibling love becoming more and more common nowadays?Why are young men more inclined to choose women who are older than themselves?
First of all, it has a lot to do with the rise of women's status in society.
In the feudal society of the past, the status of women was relatively low, and it was difficult for them to achieve economic independence, and they often relied on men for survival.
Before marriage, they are to submit to their parents;And once married, they also need to obey their husbands and in-laws.
This makes it difficult for women to dominate the relationship between the sexes.
However, with the development of society, people's perceptions have changed dramatically.
Women not only have the ability to achieve economic independence, but in some cases even surpass men.
At the same time, men also recognize that women can also have careers, and that gender relations are no longer necessarily reflected in the strength of men and the weakness of women.
As a result, many modern men no longer view women as stereotypes.
In their view, older women may have more financial power.
This is also similar to the fact that some women prefer older men, as older men may have more financial resources than men of the same age.
The improvement of women's economic status has also led to an overall improvement in their status in society.
Recently, a 32-year-old female master's degree was questioned by a man during a blind date event, which attracted attention.
In **, the female master, like everyone else, holds a sign and writes down her requirements.
It is understood that this female master has her own property in Hangzhou, has a good income, and her academic qualifications are quite good.
However, she was questioned by a man at the scene.
The other party said that the age of 32 is already beyond the ** marriage age of women, so her requirements are too high.
This is the stereotype that men in general have of women.
In **, the gentleman is obviously quite old, and his mind is still stagnant in the past years.
He fails to grasp that contemporary women are no longer constrained by age, and that they are financially independent enough to have more autonomy in choosing a partner.
In fact, this is one of the reasons why many women choose younger men.
Because compared to the men of the past, the new generation of men is more open-minded and more tolerant of women.
They no longer look at women through colored glasses, and they don't belittle women.
At the same time, compared with traditional men, they know how to appreciate excellent women, and can even accept that women surpass themselves in some aspects.
In the eyes of women, this is a great advantage.
Research data shows that "men's respect for women" ranks second among the top three criteria for women when choosing a partner.
It can be seen that in the eyes of women, men who know how to respect women are more attractive.
In addition to the above reasons, another reason why men prefer relationships with their sisters is closely related to the mature charm in women.
In the film and television drama "Love Only", Song Sanchuan played by Wu Lei is an individual who lacks maternal love.
From the time he was very young, his mother was extremely strict with him.
What's more, in a crucial match, the unexpected death of his mother left a deep psychological shadow on him.
This caused him to be haunted by the score of "18" every time he played. And Liang Youan, played by Zhou Yutong, just fills this gap.
Liang Youan is a professional woman who has demonstrated excellent business ability, emotional stability and a firm outlook.
More importantly, whenever Song Sanchuan's heart fluctuates, Liang Youan can always calm his emotions in a rational way.
Gradually, Song Sanchuan began to develop a sense of dependence on his older sister.
Of course, in this story, there are also some young girls who are pursuing the figure of Song Sanchuan.
The way they express their love is very obvious, always wanting to stick to him all the time, trying to express their feelings through money.
However, can these acts really be defined as love?Apparently not, it's just a liking, and it's a rather childish liking.
In contrast, Liang Youan's love seems more mature.
Studies by psychologists have found that within the same age group, men are usually younger in mental age than women.
The minimum difference in mental age is 3 years and the maximum difference is 7 years.
This means that women tend to be more mature than men of the same age.
As a result, older women provide a more secure sense of security for younger men.
Many young men compare mature women with women of the same age around them.
They found that mature women have a lot of charm that younger women don't have, and that's where the sisters excel.
In addition, psychologist Karen Honey has pointed out that men tend to be less adept at expressing their emotions than women.
They often hide their emotions deep in their hearts and bear them silently and alone.
In this situation, it will be easier for a mature sister to open their hearts and make them feel the warmth of the opposite sex.
Moreover, the sisters have also accumulated a certain amount of experience in relationships, and they know how to get along with men better.
This makes the men who get along with them very comfortable.
Especially when there is a disagreement between the two parties, the way a mature woman handles it is more conducive to maintaining the long-term relationship between the two.
One might think that women actually prefer mature men as well.
Although this phenomenon exists, many older sisters are infatuated with their younger brothers, but there is actually a simple explanation for this: love can only last if the relationship between the two parties is equal.
If the younger brothers have been staying in the childish stage and enjoying the care and dedication of their sisters as a matter of course, then such feelings are destined not to last long.
Therefore, a mature and long-lasting relationship often requires the joint efforts and management of both men and women.
Age is not an issue, the key is whether you are willing to grow and how much room you have to grow. Only then can such feelings be sustainable.