Have you ever had the experience of working all day and finally lying down to rest, only to be entangled in various thoughts and unable to sleep?I didn't do anything during the holidays, I lay at home and swiped my phone, but I felt dizzy and tired more than usual;I slept for a long time, but I had nightmares and became more anxious ......When we are tired, we often choose to sleep, lie down and rest. But I always feel more and more tired the more I rest. Why is that?Meditation expert Andy. Pudicom points out that this is because:Many people's fatigue does not come from the body, but from unconscious thoughts in the brain. Although sleeping can relieve physical fatigue, it cannot relieve mental fatigue. To be truly effective, you need to take control of your mind and live with mindfulness. Get rid of mental exhaustion and restore inner order. 
Psychologist Xu slowly once shared a case: Ke Yuan's work is very busy. As soon as she turned on her mobile phone every day, countless messages in the work group came to her face, which made her dizzy. What she longs for most is to give herself a vacation and have a good rest. So, on the weekend, she turned off her mobile phone, lay down from morning to night, and frantically made up for sleep. But when I woke up, I felt more tired, and I was still full of guilt. She asked Xu why this happenedXu slowly tells her that this is because:If we stop doing anything that consumes our brainpower other than dealing with "stressors". The brain thinks that the "stressor" is the only thing that matters. At this time, stress will always fill our brains. All along, we have fallen into a misunderstanding. I always think that rest is to let the body rest. But he doesn't admit that for "brain fatigue", sleep is not the most effective way to rest. In our brains, there is a set of "default network systems" called DMN. And when we have nothing to do, the brain activates the "default mode". In this mode, the brain consumes 55% more energy than usual. 
Think about it, have you ever had such a moment: when you come home from work, you immediately collapse on the sofa to catch up on the drama and play with your mobile phone. But while playing, I feel that I am wasting time, and I am more tired;Staying at home during the holidays, I wanted to take a good rest, but I always thought about the unfinished work. As a result, I didn't do anything, and I felt ......physically and mentally exhaustedThis is caused by mental fatigue. We think we're resting, but our brains aren't idle for a moment, and we keep generating all kinds of distractions. This hidden "brain wandering" is the real cause of our fatigue. 
Mihaly of the father of positive psychology. Chiksen Mihalai once divided leisure into two types: one is passive leisure, which refers to doing things that do not require thinking, such as swiping mobile phones, watching TV, playing games, ......One is active leisure, which refers to doing things that require concentration, such as reading, exercising, meditating, ......He found thatPeople who use passive leisure are more likely to have feelings of anxiety and irritability. Because once the brain is empty, it activates the DMN mode. Let's keep ruminating, reminiscing about the past and worrying about the future. Unconsciously being consumed of energy, makes us exhausted. 
Netizen @Lili used to work in a foreign trade company and was a middle-level manager of the company, and she was very busy every day. Later, she became pregnant with her second child and quit her job to become a freelancer in order to take care of the child. During that time, Lili slept until she woke up naturally. Everyone knows about it, and they are all envious. Lili said that the days after leaving her job were the most tiring. Without the constraints of the company, she always couldn't control herself, and couldn't help but swipe her phone and play games. I slept until I woke up late every day, but I still felt unmotivated. She is afraid of being abandoned by society, but she can't help but be distracted while doing things. Then, he fell into endless self-blame. Fortunately, she sensed her state in time and made up her mind to change. No longer have to live a messy life, but take the initiative to control your time:Go to bed early and wake up early every day, and concentrate on doing thingsWhen you take a break, you no longer blindly indulge in junk pleasure, but take the initiative to do what interests you. Finally, I got back to my old positive state. We often think that the best rest is to do nothing, but we ignore that the brain naturally loves order. When consciousness enters a state of disorder, it is most likely to be cranky and immersed in negative thoughts. To rest effectively, you need to turn off your brain's "automatic mode" and consciously take control of your attention and keep your mind in the moment. Mindfulness is the best way to find that state. 
What is Mindfulness?The Ten Minute Meditation gives this explanation: "Mindfulness is the unjudgmental connection with the here and now, that is, the ability to live in the present moment in its entirety, rather than filling your mind with all kinds of criticisms of the present moment." ”For a person to free themselves from anxiety and fear, one needs to be mindful. Don't exaggerate the uneasiness about the future, but put your heart and soul into the present moment and be open to everything. Stop judging and embrace all emotionsIn the book, the author recounts an experience of his own: while practicing meditation, Andy was in a constant hurry to get rid of sad emotions. He struggled to "fight" emotions every day, trying to ignore or resist them, always in vain. He complained to ** in frustration: "If I can't get rid of my sadness all the time, how can I be happy?.""* Say:That's because you're looking for the wrong happiness. True happiness is not the feeling that everything is perfect, but the ability to feel comfortable no matter what emotions come to your heart. ”After listening to the words of **, Andy woke up like a dream. In reality, we are always eager to be happy and want to get rid of negative emotions. As a result, we label emotions as bad and undeserved. When these emotions arise, we keep banishing them. But they ignore that emotions themselves do not cause distress, and resisting emotions is the key to internal friction. Only by letting emotions flow, accepting them, and seeing them, can we achieve inner peace. 
Stay awake and live every momentIn "One Man's Pilgrimage", the protagonist Harred has been immersed in the shadow of his original family because he was abandoned by his mother since he was a child. He lives a messy life every day, and he is also very cold to the people around him. Even his own son didn't notice that he was suffering from depression. Gradually, his life became worse and worse, and his life was exhausted. Until one day, he walked out of the house and embarked on a journey alone. It was only then that he began to really look at his own life: for the first time, he noticed the plants around him, which ones could be used to heal diseases and which ones could be used for cooking;For the first time, I realized that some things had passed, and some people were still ...... in front of meWhen he threw himself wholeheartedly into the present, he regained the courage to live. Many times, the most common mistake we make is to dwell on the past and worry about the future. But ignore that life is only in every moment. Living the present well will also compose good memories and build a distant future. Let go of your obsession and allow it to happenWritten by Andy. When he was meditating, Pudicombe was in a particularly good state for a while. He felt the gloom of the past be swept away. During that time, he was very excited, thinking that he had everything under control. But he soon discovered that this situation did not last long. The unpleasant feeling resurfaced. He was very confused and asked **. Say, "If you can give up the desire to always experience something beautiful, and at the same time let go of the fear of experiencing something unpleasant." You can have the peace you want. "A lot of times, our anxiety and exhaustion come from an excessive desire to control: to have happiness, to get rid of troubles, to have love and to be successful......But the script of life never shifts by our will. Backfire is the norm of life. Only by truly accepting this can we not be burdened by obsession. 
There is a clever analogy in the Ten Minute Meditation: If you have a large piece of white paper in front of you, and there are small dots at one end of the paper to the other end, you need to connect the two dots in a straight line. You'll find that it's not easy. If you're not careful, the lines will become wobbly. But if there is another dot next to each dot, you just have to connect the dots one after the other, and the line will be much easier to draw. If life is a blank slate, then "here and now" is like those little dots. What we need to think about is not how to make this pen to the end, but to live the "here and now" with awareness. Expect the good, but also accept that things backfire, control what you can control, and leave the rest to God's will. In this way, we can get rid of anxiety and exhaustion, and reap the joy and relief of our hearts.