In daily life, many people of the opposite sex often choose to use titles like "brother" and "sister" when interacting with each other, but in reality this is not appropriate.
Because the titles "brother" and "sister" have a certain ambiguity, if you don't properly grasp the proportions, the relationship can easily go abnormal.
Many men and women fail to set clear boundaries when dating, and men call women sisters and women call men brothers, which is a sign of abnormal relationships.
Therefore, in the process of dating between men and women, it is best to try to avoid using this ambiguous title, so as not to lead to a dysfunctional relationship.
If you want to maintain a long-term relationship with the opposite sex, you need to use appropriate titles, be sensible, and have clear boundaries in order to maintain a normal friendship.
Otherwise, once the sense of proportion is lost, the relationship between the two parties will become confusing, which will inevitably lead to a short-lived relationship that outweighs the losses.
Therefore, remind men and women that in life, if they are not single with each other, it is best not to use ambiguous titles, and being responsible for feelings is the attitude that adults should have.
In general, the use of terms such as "brother" and "sister" between men and women can disgrace the relationship and must be avoided.
1. It is easy to fall into ambiguity when using the title of "brother and sister".
In life, many abnormal relationships are caused by ambiguous titles, and "brother" and "sister" are the most typical of them.
Pure friendship is actually rare, and there are even fewer men and women who can handle heterosexual relationships reasonably.
If the distance between men and women cannot be grasped in the relationship, it is only a matter of time before the relationship crosses the line.
Especially for men, when facing beautiful women, they often have the desire to flirt, always regard themselves as "elder brothers", and have ambiguous connotations by calling each other "sister".
In the process of flirting, the intimate relationship between the two is constantly strengthened, and once the woman is unable to resist, it is easy to fall into this abnormal relationship.
Whether it is a colleague or a friend, you should avoid falling into this kind of ambiguous relationship, otherwise once the relationship goes sour, it will bring unnecessary trouble.
For example, Xiao Wang of the company is married, but he has always claimed that he is single and behaves very amorous.
When interacting with female colleagues, he doesn't pay attention to proportion, and often calls each other his sister. As soon as he has the opportunity, he will take the initiative to approach female colleagues and create all kinds of ambiguous atmospheres.
However, despite their cover-up in front of others, colleagues have long noticed that their relationship is unusual, and some older colleagues have even reminded him not to always call each other sister, which has a bad impact.
But Xiao Wang didn't care about this, he went his own way, and finally let his wife know.
In the end, Xiao Wang's wife even came to the company to find his so-called sister **, which made Xiao Wang lose face and greatly affected the relationship between husband and wife.
Therefore, it is important to be cautious when interacting with the opposite sex and never have an affair.
For the titles "brother" and "sister", it is best to avoid using them, and follow the principle and bottom line of different directions in order to maintain the necessary distance and make the relationship more durable.
2. Use "brother and sister" to refer to Yi Yue
When the opposite sex is dating, once the relationship crosses the line, it will inevitably have an impact on their respective feelings and eventually pay the price.
If you use the terms "brother" and "sister" for a long time, the relationship between the two parties will become closer and closer, and it will be easier to get closer in life.
Usually, this term should be used between couples to express their affection for each other. If men and women fail to pay attention to these boundaries, it is almost inevitable that the relationship will cross the line.
When both parties have their own feelings, once they let the other half know, it will inevitably feel painful, even if the two parties really have nothing, it will cause psychological pressure on the other half.
Feelings are intolerant of two-heartedness, and both men and women cannot accept that their lover is called "brother and sister" with other members of the opposite sex outside.
In order to have normal interactions, it is necessary to have clear boundaries, not to deliberately blur the relationship, let alone use this as an excuse to engage with impure purposes.
For example, Ms. Liu of the company has been married for five or six years, but has a male friend in the company, and the two have always referred to each other as "elder brother" and "younger sister".
Many times when I have intimate interactions with male friends at home, I call each other my brother, and the other party always calls her my sister, which seems very intimate.
Before she knew it, Ms. Liu's husband began to feel unhappy, so he often had conflicts with Ms. Liu. Whenever her husband questioned her, Ms. Liu always excused herself by saying that the other party was her male friend.
However, such an explanation was obviously not convincing, and Ms. Liu was even more disgusted, which eventually led her husband to file for divorce.
Ms. Liu felt aggrieved and thought her husband was irresponsible, but how could her husband tolerate such an intimate relationship between her and her male friend
The conflict between the husband and wife lasted for a long time, and although there was no divorce, the relationship between the husband and wife could not return to the good it used to be.
Therefore, when going to different places, do not cross the line and be sure to maintain the appropriate boundaries.
For titles like "brother" and "sister", it's better not to use them, wouldn't it be better to call each other by their first names?This allows you to keep your distance and respect each other's feelings, making the relationship more durable.
3. Use the title "brother and sister" and the relationship will eventually break down
In life, many people of the opposite sex have no sense of proportion when dating, which leads to the relationship crossing the line and eventually breaking down the relationship with each other.
People tend to crave when they don't get it, but once they get it, they regret it.
If the relationship of the opposite sex becomes abnormal, both parties will feel embarrassed in the subsequent relationship, and the relationship will eventually gradually drift apart.
How many of the men and women who often use the terms "brother" and "sister" make it to the end?Rarely, because there are almost no truly pure opposite-sex friendships.
Once the relationship becomes ambiguous and crosses the line, it may not be able to go back to the past, nor can it move towards the future, and can only end in regret.
Therefore, if you want to maintain a relationship with the opposite sex, you must have a sense of boundaries and not be ambiguous in your name and actions.
For example, the writer Zhang Xiaoxian wrote in "The Woman on the Bread Tree": "Affection is a burden that I can't bear, and love words are just an occasional lie." ”
Even in love, there are such emotions between men and women, not to mention ordinary heterosexual relationships, even if both parties have a good feeling, no matter how tacit they are in their hearts, they cannot cross the line.
Otherwise, in the end, not only will the normal friendship be lost, but it may also affect the feelings of each other, and both parties will be hurt by this ambiguous lie.
Heterosexual relationships are very delicate and sensitive, and the use of inappropriate titles such as "brother" and "sister" can easily turn the relationship sour, so it is important to avoid it.
It is hoped that men and women in reality can be cautious about their relationships, and only by knowing how to exercise self-restraint and maintaining the necessary boundaries can they maintain a normal heterosexual relationship.