Children grow up to be resilient, responsible individuals who need firm, friendly guides. If you want your child to become excellent, parents should not be stingy with their love, hug, encouragement, care and companionship for their child.
Have you ever noticed that sometimes, even if you scream in your throat, your child is still indifferent to your call?Sometimes, after your urging several times, it starts to grind. So I can sometimes understand the feelings of parents, but I still don't agree with understanding. After all, many times, the main reason is that the parents' practices are inappropriate.
So what can we do to solve the problem effectively?
First: Look your child in the eye when you talk to him.
Because the eyes are the window of the soul, when we want to talk to the child, try to talk to the child face-to-face, especially when you have important instructions or requirements, you need to let the child stop what he is doing to do what you say, you need to ask you to walk into the child, squat down, look into their eyes, and clearly convey what you want to say to the child. They will understand that at this point I need to stop my own business and do what my parents say.
Second: Don't talk to your child with bad feelings.
Children's world is actually very simple, they are also very focused when doing things, and many parents may also find that when children are focused on doing something, your shouting children may not really hear it. Therefore, when we choose to communicate with our children face-to-face, we should not think that the children have just shouted as if they did not hear them. We need to communicate with our children on an equal footing with a calm mind. At this moment, the children will listen carefully to what you have to say, and they will understand what the old mother and father are saying.
Third: Be as concise as possible when talking to your child.
Scientific research has found that the language center of the child's cerebral cortex is different from that of adults, they can't receive too much talk, you just need to express the simplest request to the child, the children are innocent and lovely, when they face their parents to ask for help for themselves, they are also very willing to help, over time, the child will also get used to the way parents and their own way of communication, over time will form a habit.
Fourth: Give your children a sense of security and respect, and they are also family members.
Many parents habitually order their children to do things, there may be some things that children are not happy to do, they go against their own hearts, to deal with parents, after a long time may not be a good thing. You can say to your child, if you think you are right, you don't have to listen to Mom and Dad, but you need to be responsible for everything you do, if you do something wrong, you can reflect on yourself, why you did it wrong, why Mom and Dad would let me do such a thing. We can allow children to question, and it is good for them to question us, and we can continue to develop our children's ability to think independently.
In short, communication is two-sided, we as parents must first set a good example for our children, don't yell every time, after all, yelling is useless, it is better to communicate with children in another way, the effect will definitely be better.