In modern society, marriage has become an indispensable part of people's lives. However, with the development of society and the change of concepts, more and more people have begun to face a problem: whether to drag on not getting married, or not being able to get married?This may seem like a simple question, but in reality there are many complex factors involved. This article will take this question from different angles and try to provide you with a comprehensive answer.
First of all, we need to be clear about what it means to be procrastinating and not being able to get married. Procrastination and not getting married, as the name suggests, is that a person is obviously of marriageable age, but he is reluctant to get married. This situation can be caused by a variety of reasons such as an individual's perceptions, values, and attitude towards life. Inability to get married, on the other hand, means that a person is unable to assume the responsibilities and obligations of marriage due to various reasons, such as economic conditions, health conditions, family background, etc.
So, which is more unacceptable to drag out not getting married or not being able to get married?There is no one set answer to this question as everyone's situation and needs are different. However, we can analyze this problem from the following aspects.
1.Social pressure.
In the traditional concept, marriage is seen as an important stage of life, a symbol of a person's maturity and stability. Therefore, many people face pressure from family, relatives, friends, etc., to get married as soon as possible when they reach marriageable age. In this case, dragging out not getting married can make people feel more anxious and uneasy.
However, with the development of society, more and more people have begun to realize that marriage is not the whole of life, nor is it the only criterion for measuring a person's worth. Therefore, for some people, they prefer to choose their own lifestyle rather than being swayed by the pressures of society. In this case, dragging out not getting married may not bother them too much.
2.Individual needs.
Everyone's needs are different, some may aspire to have a stable family, while others prefer to live independently. For the former, they may feel that dragging out not to marry is a sign of irresponsibility, as they believe that marriage is a process of shared responsibility and obligation between two people. For the latter, they may feel that not being able to get married is a helpless choice because they may feel that they are not ready to take on the responsibilities of marriage.
3.Economic conditions.
In real life, economic conditions are often an important factor in whether a person is able to get married. If a person does not have enough financial foundation, he may feel that he is not capable of taking on the responsibilities and obligations of marriage and thus choose not to get married. In this case, not being able to get married may make him feel even more helpless and miserable.
However, with the development of society, more and more people are beginning to realize that marriage is not a purely economic issue, but a process that requires two people to work together and run together. Therefore, for those who are not financially well-off, they may choose to work hard to improve their financial ability first and then consider getting married.
4.Health status.
Health is the cornerstone of a person's life and the foundation of marriage. If a person is unable to take on the responsibilities and obligations of marriage because of health problems, then he may feel that not being able to get married is a helpless choice. In this case, he may pay more attention to his health and try to recover his health so that he can have a happy family.
5.Family background.
Family background has an important impact on a person's marital concepts and values. If a person comes from an unhappy family, he may develop fears and resistance to marriage, and thus choose not to marry. In this case, he may need to change his concepts and attitudes through psychological, self-adjustment, etc., so that he can face marriage bravely.
To sum up, there is no fixed answer to the question of which is more unacceptable to drag out not getting married or not being able to get married. Everyone's situation and needs are different, so their perspective on this issue will be different. However, no matter what situation we are facing, we should be brave enough to face the reality and strive to improve our abilities so that we can have a happy marriage.
In this process, we can try to work on the following aspects:
1.Adjust your mindset: We should realize that marriage is not the whole of life, nor is it the only measure of a person's worth. We should choose our own lifestyle based on our needs and values, rather than being swayed by the pressures of society.
2.Self-improvement: We should strive to improve our financial ability, health status, psychological quality, etc., so that we can better assume the responsibilities and obligations of marriage.
3.Ask for help: If we feel confused and helpless in the face of marital problems, we can seek help from professional psychological counseling, family**, etc., so that we can better solve our own problems.
4.Establish good interpersonal relationships: We should learn to communicate and communicate with others and build good interpersonal relationships so that we can better deal with various problems in marriage.
In short, whether we are dragging our feet and not getting married or not being able to get married, we should all be brave enough to face the reality and strive to improve our abilities so that we can have a happy marriage. Only in this way can we truly realize the value of our lives and live a happy and fulfilling life.