Karen Mok's song "There Are So Many People in This World" has a beautiful melody and is a smash hit, showing the lost love and regrets to the fullest, which makes the audience want to stop.
Yes, there are so many people in this world, why am I still "single by strength?"."Do you need to get rid of poverty first?Or continue to wait for interesting souls in an embarrassing age where you can't get high or high?
It wasn't until I saw this "How to Hug a Hedgehog 2" that I realized that soul mates do not exist, and life partners can never be separated. After all, there is no such thing as a 100% suitable couple, and there is no lover tailored for you.
This book is completed by the authors Duan Xinxing, Lv Kaiqi, and Xie Xingfu.
Mr. Duan Xinxing is a professor at the School of Public Administration of China University of Mining and Technology, and a Ph.D. in Developmental and Educational Psychology from Beijing Normal University
His representative works include "How to Hug a Hedgehog: Personality Recognition, Acceptance and Dedication in Love and Marriage", "Compulsory Course on Love Psychology", etc., and won the 2007 National Advanced Individual in College Student Mental Health Education and the 2016 Jiangsu College Student Mental Health Education Outstanding Contribution Award.
Whoever you are will meet
Whose parents are anxious and matchmaking everywhere. Some people fall in love at first sight, and some people talk about it and break up. The reason for this can be answered by attachment theory in psychology.
So, do you know what kind of attachment relationship you belong to?
In this book, the author arranges and combines according to the degree of anxiety and avoidance, and obsessive, respectively, has four attachment personalities: secure, obsessive, fearful, and avoidant.
Secure attachment person.
In infancy, I firmly believe that I am worthy of love and value, and others are also worthy of love and trust, so I will not be suspicious when dealing with romance after **, and it is the most suitable of the four personalities to manage the relationship between lovers.
Obsessive attachment person.
When he was a baby, he was afraid of being abandoned by his parents at any time, and his mother's fear when he left and the joy when he came back always caused him to suffer from gains and losses. ** There is always a lack of security after that. He is often suspicious in the name of love. There is a lack of trust in each other, and most of them are women.
Fearful attachment person.
In infancy, the heart is full of contradictions, on the one hand, it longs to be close to its parents, and on the other hand, it chooses to avoid and refuse to be intimate. The ambivalence of immediacy leads to anxiety and rejection when you grow up, which is what we often call screwing.
Avoidant attachment person.
Also known as dissociated attachment, they are independent, have a clear sense of self, are not dependent on others, refuse to be near others, and hate intimacy because their parents are hot and cold about their self-appeals during infancy.
Although they want to be cared for and loved, they are always worried that they are falling too deep, so they can fall in love with someone quickly and comfortably after ending a relationship. It is mostly male.
Seeing this, do you have a decent explanation of the difficulties in the previous intimate relationship?Before marriage, I knew that it was cold and hot, but after marriage, I judged two people
The book "Intimacy" says ". .We usually project all the unmet needs that we have not been able to get since we were young to that special person, expecting that our needs will be met in that person. But there is no one in the world who can meet all your needs and fill what you have lacked since childhood. The author believes that whoever you are will meet whomever you are.
Whether you are a Chiconi single, a confused single, a missed, tangled, immersive single, or a narcissistic, suspended, socially phobic, or virtual single, in this book, the author has made a detailed interpretation of their respective performances and feelings.
Everyone is eager to find a tailor-made other half, and the author believes that just the right love is actually not something that can be seen at a glance, but is obtained by getting along slowly.
People crave a 100% suitable partner as much as they want a 100% fulfilling life, which is out of reach.
Instead of envying other people's marriages and looking up to other people's happiness, it is better to take a step forward from the state of "one person is just right, and two people are redundant", after all, although love has a providence, it also needs to be artificial.
2023 is coming to an end, and the Spring Festival is quietly and uninvited. When you visit relatives and friends, there will be a large number of unmarried young people who are about to be urged to marry.
If you are single and want to find your significant other but don't know what type you fit into?
If you are in a relationship, but because of the intimacy, you have all kinds of conflicts and do not meet your expectations?
If you are married, you are not satisfied with your current marriage, but you don't know how to solve the problem, and you have no way?
You might as well take a look at this book "How to Hug a Hedgehog 2", and I hope everyone can have a sudden encounter and unexpected joy.