Hello everyone, I am a mother of two. In this world of love and challenges, I wear many hats, playing the roles of wife, mother, migrant worker and so on. I know the hard work of raising a child, and I have experienced the joy of being a first-time mother. However, what I want to share with you today is that as a mother of a second child, why I killed or did not persuade me to have a second child.
Talk about physical challenges. From pregnancy to childbirth to breastfeeding, every stage is fraught with challenges. I remember when I was pregnant with my second child, I suffered from severe morning sickness, which I had to throw up several times a day. The pain made me feel hopeless, and for a while I even wondered if I would be able to get through it. And when the baby was born, I was faced with breastfeeding and night awakenings. These physical exhaustions made me deeply experience the hardships of motherhood.
Psychological stress. Having a second child is not only a physical exhaustion for a mother, but also a psychological pressure. This pressure comes from a sense of responsibility to the family, expectations of children, and questioning self-worth. I often worry about whether I can give my two children equal love, whether I can educate them well, and whether I can create a better future for them. These worries make me feel anxious and uneasy.
Economic pressures. It takes a lot of time and money to raise a child. From buying baby products to paying for school fees, from daily expenses to medical expenses, these all cost a lot of money. For me and my husband, we are already under a lot of financial pressure, and the arrival of our second child will undoubtedly add to our burden. Even though we work hard and save money, we are still overwhelmed by the financial pressures.
I resolutely said that I am a mother of a second child, but I will not persuade me to have a second child. This is not because I am selfish or irresponsible, but because I know that raising children is difficult and difficult.
I want every family to be able to make a decision that suits them based on their actual situation and needs. Instead of listening to someone else's advice. Whether you choose to have a second child or not, the most important thing is to cherish and love your child.
Every child is a unique individual who needs to be guided and nurtured with our hearts. No matter what the situation, we should give them enough love and support so that they can grow up healthy and happy.