As long as the parents are around, the family will not be separated.
This tradition has been practiced in China for many years, especially in large families, where brothers are reunited as long as their parents are alive. But in "The Family of Gold Powder", after Jin Quan's death, the old lady divided the money and wealth among others, and soon after, her children also moved to other places and lived their own small family life.
The traditions of the Kim family are passed down from generation to generation, and they have many ancient family rules, so as long as Mrs. Kim is still alive, the Kim family usually defaults to not separating the family. It's no wonder, because she was a very cultured woman when she was in her mother's family. However, it is shocking that Mrs. Jin had already violated this rule before Jin Quan died.
The tradition of "parents are here, not separated from the family" is actually more about satisfying the expectations and emotions of parents. In traditional Chinese culture, people like a lively family atmosphere, especially the elderly, who are more inclined to reunite with their families and enjoy a harmonious life. It also reflects the filial piety of the children and their blessings. However, Mrs. Jin has four sons and three daughters, and she is not only determined to separate the family, but also chooses to live alone in Shanxi. Behind this, she was disappointed in her sons and the Jin family, as well as her deep regret for the dissolution of the family.
For the past thirty years, people have respected fathers and sons, and for the next thirty years, people have respected fathers and sons equally.
This sentence profoundly reveals the sophistication of Chinese society. Jin Quan has passed away, and if the Jin family wants to continue its former glory, or if Mrs. Jin wants to live a carefree and wealthy life, then it all depends on the ability of the sons.
Mrs. Kim's life is full of wealth and glory, she has grown from a young rich woman to a woman who married Jin Quan, and has lived with Jin Quan at home and abroad, she has seen all kinds of worlds and enjoyed countless happiness. However, her life was not happy. After Kim Quan was appointed prime minister, her wealth and status reached its peak. There were servants at home to serve her, a vehicle to pick her up when she went out, and around her, there were always people who flattered and supported her. All this is due to the Prime Minister, and it is enough for her to enjoy life with peace of mind.
One day, Jin Quan left, although Mrs. Jin felt very sad, but she was already an old woman with children and grandchildren, she was an insightful person, and she would not collapse and lose confidence because of this.
As long as her sons give enough support, she still has the ability to live a good life and continue to live it energetically. For example, in Dream of Red Mansions, Jia's mother and Kang Kangjian are like wealthy old women without any troubles, who eat and drink at the right time, while their grandchildren stay by her side and spend time in a relaxed way.
Although Mrs. Jin aspires to become Jia's mother, the Jin family does not belong to the Jia family, and her sons do not have the ability to support the Jin family like Jia Zheng, so Mrs. Jin did not get this position of Jia's mother.
He has four sons, three of whom are already working in the Yamen, the eldest son is working in ***, the second son is working in the Salt Bureau, and the third son is working in the transportation agency, they are all excellent employees, promising and wealthy.
Despite their excellent work performance, the three sons suffered financial losses every year, and at the end of the year, they brazenly demanded that their mother pay the bills.
In the past, the father of a prime minister struggled to make ends meet in high places, but now that the umbrella has suddenly disappeared, and his sons are also struggling to make ends meet, Mrs. King is extremely uneasy.
Jin Yanxi is the youngest son in the family, and although he neither goes to school nor works, he suffers financial losses every year. This means that none of his four sons will be able to support themselves, let alone support the entire Kim family, which is just a dream of his.
In the Kim family, the presence of her husband makes everything lively. Mrs. Kim, as a woman of that era, was dependent on her husband all her life. She doesn't worry about the future of the Kim family, she just needs to be an idle wife and enjoy her glory and wealth as her husband's career progresses.
Now, her husband has died, her status has plummeted from her former high position, and the door of the Kim family has changed from busy in the past to deserted now. This huge psychological shift is difficult to calm down, and coupled with the sudden death of her husband, this feeling of loss and emptiness can easily break her.
At this moment, Mrs. King is most eager to be comforted and cared for by her children, and she is most eager to see positive changes in her sons, which will bring her not only a little comfort, but also a glimmer of hope.
The children of the Kim family did not do what their mother had hoped for, because of the changes brought about by their father's death. They work hard to change themselves, become stronger, and strive to support the Jin family and create a happy old age for their mother, while the children of the Jin family still live a happy life.
Mrs. Kim was very disappointed by the behavior of her eldest son, Jin Fengju, and although he had some moderation and avoided going out to cause trouble, he did not take any substantive action. He just did nothing at home and completely obeyed his mother's instructions, which was neither obedience to his mother nor filial piety to his parents, but he did not understand anything, he did not understand anything. When he needed his mother's advice on something, he seemed irresponsible, and he didn't show the mind that a family member should have.
The second son of the Jin family, Jin Hesun, is busy with various affairs day after day, and it is really not clear what he is busy with. And his second daughter-in-law, as a typical representative of the new school, insisted on living separately.
Since the death of the father of the third son of the Kim family, Jin Pengzhen, he has been thinking about how to divide the family and how much money he can get. His third daughter-in-law, Wang Yufen, was very shrewd and worried about any small losses, so she spread rumors and right and wrong, and almost nothing was triggered by her. She knew that if it weren't for the cold heart, there wouldn't be such a big change. Leng Qingqiu's secret return to her parents' house was carefully selected by her, and she made a big deal about it, completely forgetting that she only saw Leng Qingqiu when she was secretly out. Leng Qingqiu's premature birth was ridiculed by her as a joke, and she had no sense of family honor at all, but she was stirring up trouble at home, worried that the Jin family would disperse too slowly.
The youngest son of the Jin family behaved abnormally, and he mingled with the playmates White Lotus and White Yuhua during his father's filial piety, going out to dance and play cards, and having fun outside all day. After returning home, he and his wife, Leng Qingqiu, had an argument and a fight, which caused the Jin family to fall into chaos.
Mrs. Kim's sons not only did not undergo any changes, but became even more unscrupulous because of the absence of their father, completely ignoring the future of the Kim family and their mother's feelings. The daughters-in-law and daughters even accompanied the mother to eat and chat, so that the mother's loneliness was alleviated. The sons suddenly disappeared, and the youngest son, Jin Yanxi, was nowhere to be seen for several days, which made Mrs. Jin feel very disappointed.
Mrs. Kim was deeply disappointed in her sons, but she was unable to change that. The only thing she can do is to break up the family so that her sons can be self-reliant and let them feel the hardships of life. Maybe that's the meaning of struggle, and it's not impossible to achieve something one day. After all, the Jin family's connections still exist, which really reflects the hearts of their parents.
Mrs. King had a very beautiful vision, so she disbanded all the servants, divided her property, and let her sons move out of the house one by one, go to their own little family alone, and start their own struggle.
When we distribute our wealth, it means that in the future we will live independently of each other. We are all aware of our wealth, ability and longevity, which means that we will also adjust accordingly for a better future.
The fact that Jin Pengzhen initially chose to stop riding in a car and instead switched to a rickshaw and began to carefully plan for his future is undoubtedly a positive start.
Working closely with the couple, Kim began to make careful calculations and make detailed plans for their small home.
The relationship between the boss Jin Fengju and his wife has stabilized and there are no longer any contradictions. They were united, Jin Fengju also began to work seriously, and Wu Peifang also helped her husband check the account books, and soon discovered the financial problems. This is the first thing that Jin Fengju and Wu Peifang have worked together, and it is undoubtedly a positive sign.
Jin Yanxi, the fourth son in the family, did not want to work hard with his father to live a small family life, but chose to squander as much as he wanted, spending even more than his father. Eventually, he seems to be no longer constrained by the outside world, and goes out to squander as if he has a grudge against money. The father is a very intelligent man, and he knows his son's mind. One day, I realized that I was getting less and less money. I wanted to find a way to make some money, but instead of going the right way, I went to curry favor with Bai Xiuzhu, who was abandoned by him. I tried to reconcile with Bai Xiuzhu and use her brother's influence to go to Germany, completely ignoring my wife Leng Qingqiu and not caring about her life and death.
On the night of the Jin family's fire, Leng Qingqiu left silently with her children and never returned.
Faced with the consequences of the complete dissolution of the Kim family, as well as the breakdown of her youngest son's family and the hopelessness of the future, Mrs. Kim felt deeply powerless.
Although Mrs. Kim's sons may not be capable, she still longs to see her children and grandchildren unite to maintain the harmony of the Kim family. However, in the face of the current ** and chaos of the Jin family, she felt powerless and unable to change the status quo. All she was left with was deep sadness and disappointment, and an unspeakable helplessness.
All kinds of emotions came to her heart, making Mrs. Kim feel hopeless about the future, and Mrs. Kim, who had lost hope in life, chose to escape.
She firmly chose to live alone in the West Mountain, where she fasted and chanted Buddha, feeling a purity of heart that seemed to be invisible to the eye.
She initially chose to settle down in that place and fasted and chanted, feeling at peace in her heart. However, when several of her daughters went to visit her, her mood became emotional again. In the process of chanting the Buddha, she could not maintain her inner peace, began to think crankily, and burst into tears during the conversation. She confessed to her second aunt that her life was short, which also reflected her determination to insist on living alone in Xishan, that is, the attitude of "out of sight and out of mind". Later, before her two daughters went abroad, she specially asked Chen's mother to tell her daughters not to visit her in Xishan again, nor to say goodbye, so as not to feel sad.
Mrs. Kim's real desire is to be cut off from the outside world, to no longer care about worldly things, and no longer to care about the problems of her children, such a decision is a rejection mentality that she cannot change after disappointment and helplessness.
It is heart-wrenching for an elderly woman who even has grandchildren to put her children in such a predicament.