My name is Zhang Ting and I am 40 years old. Our family is a typical three-generation family, and I live with my husband Li Tao, my son Xiaojie, and my daughter-in-law Xiaoyu, who has just married. For outsiders, our family should be happy, but this is not the case.
I still remember the day my son came home with Xiaoyu, and the shyness and smile on her face made me feel a burst of relief. Xiaoyu comes from an ordinary family, hardworking and simple, and her arrival adds vitality to our family. However, I always felt an indescribable distance, as if she would never be able to truly integrate into our family.
The story begins in the spring when the son and Xiaoyu get married. Everything looked wonderful, but slowly, I noticed some unusual signs. Xiaoyu always maintained a conservative posture and didn't dare to communicate too much with me. Whenever I tried to close the distance with her, she always avoided her.
Time passed quietly, and the marriage between my son and Xiaoyu didn't seem to be as I hoped. The relationship between them faded, and I became an outsider in the family. I tried to talk to Xiaoyu, but she always avoided my questions and just smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, I know you are for our good." ”
One day, I came across an article on the Internet with an eye-catching headline: "It turns out that a daughter-in-law can never become a daughter because of this!".After reading the comments of netizens, I was speechless. "Driven by curiosity, I opened the article and found that it was full of sharing all kinds of family trivia. Some are conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, some are communication problems between husband and wife, and more are the helplessness of mothers like me to their daughters-in-law.
In the comments of netizens, I saw many people who had similar experiences with me, and some shared ways to resolve conflicts. Some suggested more communication, some advocated mutual understanding, and others felt that their daughters-in-law needed to be given more freedom and respect. I couldn't help but think deeply that maybe the problem was with me, not with the light rain.
So, I decided to take the initiative to have a sincere conversation with Xiaoyu. We sat in the living room, and I broke the usual silence and opened up to her. We talked a lot, including her expectations for her family, her plans for the future, and what she thought of me. It turned out that she didn't deliberately alienate me, but because I kept giving her too much expectation and pressure, making her feel like she couldn't breathe.
This conversation brought us closer together, and I understood why a daughter-in-law could never become a daughter. Perhaps, the problem is not with her, but from the pressure and expectations I have given her invisibly. We need more understanding and respect, not too much interference and criticism.
In the days that followed, I learned to let go and give Xiaoyu more space and respect. Our relationship gradually improved, and the family returned to its former tranquility and harmony. Through this experience, I deeply realized the importance of communication and understanding in family relationships. Perhaps, only when we truly let go of prejudices and are willing to understand each other, can the family truly become warm and happy.