I don't know if you have heard of a saying, that is, "the firstborn child can't be beaten, it's here to repay the favor", it must be superstition to repay the favor, why can't you beat it?And many old people adhere to this point of view.
Is this a superstitious statement?This makes people confused, what is the real reason, don't worry, let's look down slowly.
My friend recently told me about his troubles, which made me very curious, my friend said that his wife was pregnant some time ago, which is a happy thing, I just wanted to bless, but my friend was very distressed and said: "They have just been married for less than two months, and the couple has no plans to have children, and the couple's dream of traveling to Beijing and Yunnan will also be affected."
Because my friend's wife's career is in the development period, and she also has a clear plan for her life, having children is a matter of the future, and she can't affect her career because of this, so she decided to hit the child as soon as possible.
With the support of his wife's mother and his father, the young couple decided to kill the child first, and then actively prepare for pregnancy when they wanted a child in the future, but this was strongly opposed by the mother-in-law, who felt that the child was here to repay the kindness, and it was a blessing for the family.
Because of this incident, the two families had conflicts, and the friends were also in distress, and for a while, they didn't know what to do was the best choice.
1. It is easy to miss the best childbearing age
Nowadays, young couples get married relatively lateGenerally, when you get married, you are after the age of 25, and when you are pregnant with your first child, you are just at the best age for women to give birth, whether it is physical fitness, or the genes of men and women are at the best time.
2. The harm is great
Whether it is an experienced doctor, there is a risk of failure in the operation, and the uterine injury on the body is certainly unavoidable, and you may lose your only child and not be able to have your own children in the future.
Moreover,**The psychological and physiological harm is very large, once the baby is conceived, the mother already has feelings for the fetus, after all, the first child is of extraordinary significance, and it is likely to produce serious psychological problems after being beaten, and even nightmares, leaving a psychological shadow.
3. It will affect the relationship between husband and wife
If the first child is wanted by the couple and the other does not want to stay, this will inevitably lead to a huge conflict, and it is generally the boy who feels that his financial ability is not enough, or he is not ready, and does not want to keep the child.
But for the first child, the girl's feelings are of great significance, she feels that this little life is a part of herself, and the pressure on the child is even tantamount to killing a life.
If there is a contradiction because of this, it is likely to become a contradiction point in the quarrel in the future, and it will also leave a shadow that the two of them will not erase for a lifetime, and this influence will linger.
Generally, the elderly will feel that the first child conceived by their children must be kept, this child is sincerely in line with the parents, because this is a sense of mission, is a small life, is the crystallization of the love of two people, can be said to be of great significance, for the elderly at home, but also the sense of comfort of future generations, and do not want this child to leave themselves.
There are many little lives left every day, and there are many people who have difficulty wanting their first child, because they are pregnant without getting married or getting pregnant without planning to be parents, so they are forced to make the choice of having a child, which in itself is unreasonable.
Because if you want to have a child, you generally have to start preparing for pregnancy, and if you don't want a child but are pregnant with a child, it is generally not a way for everyone to accept, so it has a bad reputation.
But, saying that "the firstborn is here to repay the kindness", such a statement must be superstitious, because the firstborn has nothing to do with repaying the favor, but the purpose of saying this is to warn people to keep the first child and not regret it later.
In fact, not only the first child, no matter how many children there are, killing a child is a harmful behavior to the body and psychology, and it can also cause a series of physical problems and even cause inflammation.
If you are not ready to have children, then you must take precautions and do not let this little life comeIf you are not married, then the boy must be responsible, and if you can't give the girl a future, don't ruin the girl's innocence;Girls must love themselves, they can't give themselves over easily, and loving him doesn't have to be given to him.
The birth of life is a very wonderful thing, since there is the first child, this is not easy to do, we must cherish the little life, as for the firstborn child is not to "repay the favor.""Well, it's up to us how we look at it.
Finally, do you think the first child is really here to "repay the favor"?