Now there is a new question type for women who "don't have children is selfish", "A mother who doesn't breastfeed is selfish and doesn't love her children." Capital offense!"You haven't complained that this question is beyond the syllabus and can't do it, reproductive cancer, straight male cancer and the Virgin Mary Party are about to jump out and blame these mothers, and many comments are "You don't breastfeed when you give birth, why do you give birth?"."In the same way" you get married and don't have children, why are you married?If you fall in love and don't get married, why do you fall in love?You're so good that you don't fall in love, are you sick?Are you sick and are you still alive?"Conclusion: Live = Breast Milk This is the legendary "divine logic". There was even a "breastfeeding teaching": "If you don't breastfeed, are you still worthy of being a mother?"."Before I had a baby, I thought so, is a mother who doesn't insist on breastfeeding a good mother?Perhaps, such a mother is not worthy of letting her child call her mother!But later, after I gave birth to a child myself, the eldest fed him until 13 months, and he didn't want to eat breast milk anymore, so he ate more normally and guaranteed to drink two meals of milk powder every day. When I arrived at Erbao, I weaned him at 7 months because of my health. At that time, due to physical reasons, I needed surgery, but I really couldn't help it. These two feeding experiences have made me no longer stick to my original point of view. 
Add**Comment, no more than 140 words (optional) First of all, some babies just don't like to drink breast milk. There are some children around me, after adding complementary food, there are many people who eat less breast milk. Mothers insist on feeding their babies until they are one year old, and then they never eat again. Who can you blame in this case?Is it to blame mom for not breastfeeding?Breastfeeding the baby with her scalp is considered a good mother?Secondly, there is no way to continue due to physical reasons. Like me, when Erbao was 7 months old, I had to have surgery due to physical reasons, and I really couldn't wait. Could it be that I insisted on feeding for more than 1 year and until I was 2 years old to be considered a good mother?I don't think so!Children are important, but so is my health!Finally, some mothers who want to keep in shape because of professional reasons or personal needs, do not want to let their figure go out of shape, so they choose not to breastfeed, and start to work after childbirth, and strive to return to work as soon as possible. The breastfeeding period is the first period for the mother's recovery, and you can do Kegel exercises in the application of the mobile phone, repair pelvic floor muscle relaxation, improve postpartum urine leakage, recover while taking the baby, and be a healthy hot mom after giving birth. Coincidentally, there is such an example around me, because of pregnancy and confinement, the whole person has gained 30 pounds, and her work needs to maintain her figure. Therefore, the baby can only be weaned 2 months after giving birth, and the remaining months of prenatal check-up should be used to recover the figure, and strive to return to work as soon as possible. You may think that this kind of mother is really selfish!But what you don't know is that she's a single mother, and if she doesn't go to work, who will feed the kids?One time we were chatting, and she cried so much that she told me that she wasn't breastfeeding and that she wasn't a good mother. I shared with her my experience of breastfeeding Erbao for 7 months, but she still couldn't forgive herself and fell into the whirlpool of emotions. 
Add ** note, no more than 140 words (optional) Later, I shared with him a quote from Professor Xue Zhaofeng, which roughly means that the companionship of parents to their children cannot be measured by a single condition. Parents who can't play the piano use the money they earn to hire someone to teach their children to play the piano, which is also a kind of companionship. Telling fairy tales to children is a kind of companionship, and I use the money I earn to take my children to Denmark, which is also another kind of companionship. Although you can't insist on breastfeeding, you use the money you earn to buy milk powder for your child, which is also a manifestation of maternal love. Breastfeeding is what every mother wants, but if reality forces us, we don't need to be too ourselves. She was in a slightly better mood and didn't continue to cry. I'm not comforting her, I'm just helping her sort out that what she did is actually not wrong, and there is no need to blame yourself so much. 
Add ** note, no more than 140 words (optional) The 2001-2010 "Outline for the Development of Chinese Children" pointed out that the breastfeeding knowledge coverage rate of 4-6 months after giving birth needs to reach the standard of 85%, but in fact, the domestic breastfeeding rate of 4 months has only reached 42About 7%, and the first-tier cities are even lower to 8%, which is far from enough. What does this mean?There are several reasons to think about: 1. Lack of preconception education and lack of correct understanding of breastfeeding;2. There is a lack of social public health facilities and few maternal and infant rooms3. Insufficient maternity leave and less working hours;4. The family is not supported and cannot continue to feed;5. Breastfeeding guidance is insufficient, and there is no psychological counseling. Yes, after becoming a mother, it seems that the problem of breastfeeding naturally comes to the mother, but this should not be the mother's own business, and it also needs the support of family and society. If you can't continue breastfeeding due to physical, social, or family reasons, you don't need to blame yourself too much. Because there are some problems that we can not completely overcome individually. In particular, "breastfeeding mothers" need multi-faceted support to persevere. But if there is an imbalance in one area, it may make breastfeeding no longer possible. I don't think there is a mother who doesn't want to breastfeed, but there are always reasons or that that we can't continue to breastfeed. At this time, you don't have to blame yourself too much, and after weighing it, you can make a decision that suits you. It is undeniable that breast milk is the baby's natural ration, but if you really can't provide it, please adjust your mentality, and choose the right feeding method after in-depth communication with your family. There is a long road to parenting, and there is many, many more things to do.