"No face, no money, not good to people, and not tall, then I can't look down on such people!”
Just like you, don't even pay for it!”
yes, so you're single!”
Yes, if I'm single, I deserve to be single, and you deserve to be single. ”
I can choose, I can have a lot of choices!”
This is a dialogue between brothers and sisters, competing against each other, full of gunpowder.
In 2018, a documentary called "Refining Love" came out, which solved the current situation of countless older single women, and it was embarrassing to watch.
One of the protagonists of the documentary is called Hongmei.
Hongmei was born in Shandong, 29 years old this year, and is a North Drifter.
As an urban white-collar worker, she has achieved a small success in her career, which is the envy of many people.
However, because he was busy with his career in the early years, he was put aside by his love and marriage.
Now Hongmei is about to run for three, her career has stabilized, and under the pressure of her parents, she has also begun to embark on the road of blind date.
However, the blind date intermediary is not optimistic about Hongmei, they believe that in the current blind date market, there are more women than men, and the 29-year-old Hongmei has no advantage.
Blind dates again and again ended in failure.
The Spring Festival is approaching, Hongmei took the car back to her hometown and faced the pressure of her parents to urge her to marry.
During the Chinese New Year in my hometown, there are indeed many people who come to tell Hongmei about matchmaking.
But Hongmei's request made it difficult for such "matchmakers": they asked to work in Beijing, it was best to have a car and a house, and their income should not be less than their own!
Such a request not only scared off many people, but even the brother who was divorced with a baby couldn't stand it.
The elder brother thinks that his sister is too realistic, and he thinks that when looking for a partner, he should pay more attention to the other party's character and the interests of the two.
Because of their different concepts, the brother and sister often fight over marriage and love issues.
In the eyes of Hongmei's old father, in the countryside, whether you can't get married when you are old, or you get married and divorced, it is a very shameful behavior.
Therefore, when the old father saw that his two children were all occupied, he was so sad that he couldn't do it.
Later, on a blind date, Hongmei met a tall and handsome boy.
Hongmei was satisfied with his impression, but after contact, she found that the two people's concepts were too different.
This boy thinks: Today's women have too strong a sense of independence, and many things do not depend on men, and he thinks that instead of this, there is no need to get married, it is better to play their own games.
Hongmei feels that no matter how strong and independent the girl is, it will not affect the other half, and she hopes to find a man who can be attached and emotionally single-minded.
During the blind date chat, the boy asked Hongmei a question, he said: "What if there are conflicts and disagreements between the two after they get married?"As Irito said, the man cheated. ”
Hongmei was confused when she heard this, saying that she didn't understand it very well, she felt: as long as she gives the other party enough trust and space, the other party will not do this kind of thing.
The other party sneered after hearing this, and felt that Hongmei's idea was too naïve and naïve.
Hongmei was so angry with the boy that she cried, and the two parted unhappily.
Hongmei still adheres to her mate selection standards and love values, but there are very few who can fit her in reality.
I don't know if she has found her satisfactory other half or lowered her expectations and compromised with life.
The documentary "Refining Love" is a very common issue that resonates with many urban women.
When women reach a certain age, they say that they face much more pressure on marriage and love than men of the same age.
Their pressure comes from their parents and from the secular society.
In the metropolis, there are too many people like Hongmei who have a successful career but a distant marriage.
You may question why it is so difficult for them to find a partner to marry when they have a smooth career and work?
On the one hand, there are some people who are really too demanding.
At the same age, it is undoubtedly difficult to find a husband who is equal to his strength.
Many women who have successful careers often don't understand this and are unwilling to give in.
Of course, there are also some people, because they have seen through the nature of marriage, they feel that marriage may not be able to achieve luck and life value.
Therefore, this part of the people instinctively resists marriage.
They practice non-marriage or dink life, and do not want their lives to be bound by marriage or children.
It's just that sometimes due to the pressure of parents and elders, I have to deal with it.
Actually, Brother Nuan wants to say:
In modern society, love and marriage are not necessarily everyone's necessities.
For a woman, whether she chooses to move towards marriage and family, live a traditional life, or insist on being free and alone with her soul.
This is worthy of understanding and respect, because life is short, and you have to live your own life and life.
No one can understand your pain and misfortune, and it is difficult to truly touch the surprises and joys of your life.
Live your own life well, and be less cold-eyed and accusatory, this is the kindness that the world should have!