Home is the harbor of people's souls, and it is the best place for mental illness. Psychologists believe that time spent with the mother is equivalent to six sessions of psychological counseling. However, some people have been nurtured by their parents since childhood and have found a sense of belonging at home;And some people grow up to run away from their families. A girl posted a chat history with her mother on social platforms, which showed the two trying to repair their relationship, but in the end they gave up. Why is this happening?Only those who have experienced it can truly understand. The girl posted a chat record with her mother, revealing the fact that mother's love only stays at the level of words and cannot withstand any temptation.
Once the girl was working in a foreign country, her mother sent a message to greet her, asking about the girl's financial situation and telling her that she could talk to her family if she encountered difficulties. She also deliberately emphasized that she is not good at communication, but maternal love is still there. The girl replied that she had saved some money before, which was enough, and she would report back to her family when she found a job. From this conversation, it can be seen that the conversation between the two has a polite and detached feeling, not like an intimate mother and daughter. However, this faint relationship and superficial commitment gives a glimmer of light in life.
Later, the girl really encountered difficulties, she wanted to borrow 2,000 yuan to pay the rent, promising to pay it off next month. I remember that my mother once said that when you don't have enough money, you must tell your family, because it is not easy to live outside. The girl resolutely opened her mouth to ask her mother for help, but her mother didn't say anything, just sent a **. The theme is: what your parents don't owe you, you owe your parents. This ** is in great contrast with the previous care. The girl understood what her mother meant, and said that she would find a way, and her mother replied indifferently to whatever you wanted. The girl didn't understand why the previous promise was so contradictory, and why the mother backed down when she really needed helpWas the motherly love she received limited to a verbal promise that could not be tested in the face of the slightest temptation?Through the chat records posted by the girl and the comments of netizens, we can also see that this is not an isolated case, and we can also understand the psychology of parents. Those who are selfish always think that others are just as selfish as they are.
Under the girl's **, many netizens shared their verbal promises with their parents. They don't want to take responsibility, but they want their children to know that they love them. However, this kind of love is always at the level of words and has no real meaning. For example, a mother should be happy to give a girl a birthday gift of 10,000 yuan, but her mother keeps complaining that she is poor and has no money. The girl wisely transferred the money to her mother, but the mother said that it was not her intention and did not give it again. Saying and doing are completely inconsistent. The girl also mentioned that after buying a car and a house on her own, her parents always said that if they had said it earlier, they could have given her more money so that she could buy a better one. It sounded good, but they never gave her a penny, but instead took more than 400,000 from her, and she also paid the annual insurance premium. Even after working, the girl handed over all her salary to her family, but when she needed money, she couldn't even get 2,500 yuan, and she was blamed. It even has to be reconciled, which is chilling. However, we cannot simply listen to the rhetoric of one side or the other. Some parents believe that the girl is actually not sensible. In her eyes, the help of parents is taken for granted, and not being able to help her means not loving her. However, Mom felt that it was enough to give birth to her and raise her. In the eyes of the mother, they are all selfish, so there is a conflict. One is unwilling to give, the other is unwilling to reciprocate. This also shows the way of thinking of parents, that is, it is hard enough to raise a child, and now the child needs to reciprocate and keep making money for the family. However, there is a great deal of uncertainty about this expectation. Therefore, parents will remind their children through verbal promises, show affection, and hope that children will be more considerate of the family. This also lays a good foundation for the need to borrow money in the future. That's why there are so many parents who only make verbal promises but don't actually take action. At the end of the day, it's a selfish mindset. Everyone only thinks about themselves, does not think about each other's difficulties from the perspective of the other, and is unwilling to make a little sacrifice on the original basis. The growth environment of the family can sometimes really have a great impact on people, and poor couples mourn everything, and poor family conditions often lead to the estrangement of parent-child relationships. Few parents who struggle in their daily lives can give their children a rich spiritual world. Although money is not everything, conflicts often occur in money, try to break free from the predicament and move towards a better life.
This article reveals the warmth and coldness in the family, as well as the contradictions that come with it, from the perspective of a family's parent-child relationship. The author believes that the quality of family conditions is closely related to the parent-child relationship, and whether the family can provide material and moral support has an important impact on people's growth. At the same time, the author also points out the contradiction between the selfish mentality of parents and the lack of practical action for children who expect help from their parents. Finally, the author advises people to strive to get out of their predicament and pursue a better life.
Personally, I think this article gives a side to the problem of parent-child relationship in a family. Indeed, the family environment and relationships have an extremely important impact on personal growth, and money issues often lead to parent-child conflicts. However, this article only gives a picture of one family, and we cannot get a complete picture of the situation of a specific family, so it is not possible to generalize. The complexity and diversity of family relationships make each family unique. In a parent-child relationship, both partners should understand and respect each other, be willing to give for each other, and balance personal needs with family responsibilities.
Finally, I think that the discussion of the parent-child relationship in the family should focus more on how to improve and strengthen the family relationship, rather than just emphasizing the warmth or coldness of the family. Every family has different difficulties and challenges, and solving them requires joint efforts and communication between both parties. At the same time, we should also focus on social support and resources outside the family to provide a better environment for growth and support for everyone.