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In real life, women are basically in charge of each of our families, and women have the final say in big and small matters, especially when feminism is serious. But if a woman is too worried, not only will her efforts be thankless, but she will cause the whole family to be disgusted and disliked.
In fact, a woman with real brains and IQ will do what she should manage and ignore what she shouldn't, because she understands that the more she manages, the more she will work hard, so the more she doesn't care, the cleaner she is, and the better her life.
1. Less involvement in the housework of relatives and friends.
In daily life, many women are overflowing with compassion. Especially when some people see that their brothers and sisters are not doing well at home, they want to reach out to help. But doing so may not make others grateful. You may even get yourself in trouble. Some help, it's really not that simple, but there will be ***
For example, my eldest sister saves her own food and money to pay for her brother-in-law's children to go to college. But the child only occasionally contacted on WeChat. After graduating from college, I basically don't have much contact with my eldest sister, that is, I greet him every New Year's holiday. Every time the eldest sister talked about it, she was in tears and felt very cold.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, the tens of thousands of yuan that were sent to him at the beginning were also the eldest sister's pension money. I knew that he was like this now, so it was better to bring it and go out to travel by myself, so that he would be happy, at least not be idle and aggrieved.
In reality, a woman who is really good will be a little more selfish. Won't sacrifice yourself. She will use the money for herself, for her own children. Instead of being used to help others solve life problems. In this way, the possibility of being angry is avoided, or even no gas at all.
2. Being too nervous about the worries of relatives and friends.
Some women, especially middle-aged women, like to talk to others about something, and talk about something back and forth several times, for fear that the world will not know.
When you meet such a person, don't be brought into it, his troubles, you can't solve them, you can't solve them, no matter how much persuasion or less persuasion, it will not solve the problem. Don't give them ideas and fight for grievances. Not only could the problem not be solved, but it made itself into a mess.
In fact, a woman with intelligence and intelligence will not be swayed by these things. I have been in contact with similar situations and found that some women, when they encounter troubles, especially housework, just like to find someone to talk to vent. But he never tries to solve it, he doesn't communicate with his family, and he makes himself feel like a resentful woman every day.
Therefore, a smart woman will not care about other people's emotions. Because she understands that everyone has their own emotions and feelings, and her task is to take care of their emotions and feelings. She doesn't affect her mood because she believes that only she can decide her emotions and feelings.
3. Don't care what others say about you.
Each of us does not live in a vacuum, we all have advantages and disadvantages, even if you do well, some people are not used to you, and some people point fingers at you, this is human nature.
Each of us has our own rhythm and way of life, and we can't change ourselves because of the evaluation of others, because a wise woman knows that only she can be responsible for her own life. So she understands that if she cares too much about the evaluation of others, she will live a very tired life.
I have a female neighbor, 55 years old this year, retired for 5 years, my wife died at an early age, when he was alive, his relatives came and went more frequently. Since the old man's death, she seems to have been estranged from her in-laws' relationship, and some people talk about him behind his back, saying that she is unkind, but she doesn't think so.
She retorted: The old man is gone, I don't need to look at other people's faces, I eat and drink my own, I don't have to live in those things every day, it's rare to be idle. I haven't done anything immoral, I can't stop what others want to say, but I can just be comfortable.
The words of the neighbor are not rough, it is not easy for people to live, and it is even more difficult to let others say hello, since this is the case, live yourself.
In short, a woman with a brain who knows how to maintain a kind of grace and wisdom in life, and at the same time understands that there are certain aspects that should be maintained with a careless attitude. This "3 regardless" attitude not only reflects her wisdom, but also makes her better and better on the road of life, and has a lot of blessings.