"If you do all the right things, disaster will happen. "No matter how kind you are, try not to do these three kinds of good deeds.
We often meet well-wishers in life who will lend a helping hand in our most difficult times. This warmth alone is enough to make us remember it for a lifetime. While kindness is a virtue, we must also remember that all kindness is not fruitless and must be sharp. Being nice and fruitless will only make others think you're a bully. As the saying goes, "Good things make trouble, and evil happens." Most importantly, try not to do these three good things.
1 Help didn't come to fruition.
Kind people always take the initiative to help others. When you see someone experiencing difficulties or difficulties, you will be the first to lend a helping hand. But in fact, there is an end goal to help, and you can't help others without the end goal. If this situation continues for a long time, it will lead to dependence on others, which will not only affect others, but even bring a lot of trouble and pain to yourself.
For example, it is understandable to help a colleague at work, once or twice. But over time, colleagues take these tasks for granted. As long as they have something to do for the time being, they will leave all the work to you. When the time comes, not only will you not be able to do your job well, but you will also have to work overtime to help others.
2.Excessive interference in the private affairs of others.
In the process of communicating with people, you will encounter some questions and problems. After all, everyone's growth environment and ideological level are different, and it is normal to encounter such a situation. When some people see a friend have a problem, their first reaction is to help them solve the problem, or even extend a helping hand to the other person. For example, friends' family problems, friends' privacy issues, etc., in fact, these are people's private affairs, and there is no need to interfere too much.
Frequent interference in other people's private affairs can lead to unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings. It can even lead to a deepening of contradictions between each other. In this case, we should take care of ourselves and not interfere in the privacy affairs of others. Even if someone asks you for help, you shouldn't help easily. Because these things are someone else's business, and they must be solved by man himself.
3. Always save people who are inactive.
In our lives, we often see lazy people. These people have nothing to do every day, and they just want to spend their days in vain, one day at a time. For such inactive people, there is no need to pay attention to it at all. Because they are not good at solving problems on their own, their first reaction when they encounter problems is to ask others for help. Even if you tell them countless truths and give them countless favors, they will be taken for granted and will not have any gratitude.
This seemingly useful thing actually fuels their arrogance and laziness. For this type of person, the first thing to learn when encountering things is to take responsibility for themselves, rather than asking others for help. Plus, if you help such people regularly, you develop their dependency, which means that no matter what problems they have later on, as long as you help them, they will immediately think of you. They may even ask you for help a second, third, or even umpteenth time, which will also cause trouble and trouble for themselves.