I saw a hot post a few days ago, which made people embarrassed and helpless.
The subject has just gone through the resignation procedures and is in a very depressed mood. In order to save money, the subject moved to a house rented by a friend, thinking that he could split the rent evenly.
In the subject's plan, she wants to find a job near the newly rented house and work hard with her friends.
But to the subject's surprise, one day her friend suddenly told her that she was not ready to renew the lease and planned to move to her boyfriend's house to live together.
The subject was stunned on the spot.
I've known each other for 20 years, and the subject doesn't know anything about his friend's future plans.
She didn't know that her friend was getting engaged, and she didn't know that she was going to live with her boyfriend, and she didn't know any clues.
In the eyes of the subject, she and her friends are friends who talk about everything.
Although the subject knows in his heart that what he wants to do when his friend enters another stage of life is to bless her, his heart is more uncomfortable than not being able to find a job.
After the post, it evoked the memories of many netizens, probably everyone has such a person in their memory.
At the bottom of the post, netizen @阿伟笑长's comment poked at the pain point:
People are born alone, and no one can be with them all the time. ”
Yes, there are too many unspeakable things in life, maybe you encounter something, maybe at a certain point in time, even the best friends will unconsciously run in a completely different direction from you, and then drift away.
As in the book "Dear Andre", Long Yingtai said to his son:
Life is like a road from a wide plain to a forest.
On the plains, companions can walk in groups, pushing forward and squeezing happily, and frothing with each other;
Once in the forest, where grass and thorns stand in the way, the situation changes, and everyone concentrates on his own path and looks for his own direction
Netizen @老洪 had a high fever once, so he took a picture of the ** that was injected in the hospital and sent it to the circle of friends, wanting to seek some comfort.
Soon there was the first comment "Pay attention to the body".
Netizens took a closer look, and the message was left by a friend who had been separated for many years, but was once very good.
Netizens were very excited when they saw it, and quickly typed the words in the input box, "You finally appeared, I thought you had evaporated from the world."
At the moment when they were about to send, netizens stopped, and this frivolous tone seemed to be no longer suitable for each other, so netizens deleted and re-edited a sentence "I'm very happy, you are still thinking about my friend".
But after thinking about it, I felt that I was very hypocritical, so I deleted it again.
Later, the netizen sat in a daze for a while, and only replied with two words "thank you".
The moment it was issued, those good memories came to the hearts of netizens.
In those years, they played crazy together every day, skipped classes, and drank.
In those years, they cherished each other and promised to be good friends for life.
However, in the past three years, there has been no hatred with each other, no tearing, and no betrayal, but this is how they slowly chatted from the top to the occasional greetings in the circle of friends.
Cai Kangyong said such a passage in "Wonderful Sayings":
Never put friendship on an incredible level, some friends are people who bring good things to themselves at a stage, enjoy each other and don't ** each other
I think so. Most friendships are phased, and even if they come in a turbulent time, it doesn't prevent them from leaving the scene.
In an episode of the "Longing for Life" variety show, the guest asked a question that had been bothering him for a long time:
I don't know if you have that kind of friend?It's the kind that had a good relationship when you were a child, but because your career is getting better and better, he feels that the distance between the two of you is getting farther and farther away, and then he himself is alienated from you. ”
After listening to it, He Jiong, who was on the side, calmly told the other party:
Accept that this is the norm.
Although I have a lot of friends and I care about the people around me, I have never had the luxury of keeping anyone for the rest of my life.
Some people come to him, and he will accompany you for a while. ”
It is undeniable that adult friendship is mixed with too many factors, and any one factor is enough to make a friendship slowly fade or even disappear.
Hundred Families Help Plan On Zhihu, the answer to the question "How does good friends fade", the most liked comment said: "Why no one admits that it is the gap between social resources and status that has widened;He can't understand your anguish, and his hesitation is a disguised show off to you.
The two of them had nothing to say, they could only reminisce about the past, until the past was chewed repeatedly, light and tasteless, and because of the situation, they were afraid of being accused of power, and they had to barely maintain the affection of praise.
Many friends who were in trouble when they were young can only be remembered;Many people who are bonded because of kindness are only suitable for repaying kindness.
A friend is someone who needs to exchange opinions, not just feelings. ”
Everyone has their own path they want to take, and perhaps the differences between each other are highlighted as they walkMaybe as we walk, we both grow into different versions of ourselves.
If the friendship began to gradually move away from you, perhaps forgetting each other in the rivers and lakes is the greatest respect for each other.