I saw a hot search post "My best friend suddenly blocked me", which couldn't help but make people sigh.
The subject was very puzzled that his very best friend suddenly blocked him, but the two had neither quarrels nor other abnormal behaviors.
After thinking about it for a long time, the subject remembered the application for studying abroad with his friends.
At first, the two said that they would apply to the same university, but the subject's intermediary teacher suggested that the subject try the university because the subject had a one-year work experience background.
The subject did not consider the University of Buzzos Aires at first, because the schools he attended were not on the list of Bristol, but he heard that having work experience could reduce the average score appropriately, so the subject applied with the attitude of trying.
Unexpectedly, the subject applied for the University of Buenos as he wished.
In fact, the subject also asked his friend to consider Buda before applying to Buda, because Buda was definitely better than their original school, but his friend did not receive Buda's offer.
The subject thought that she had broken her promise, and felt deeply sorry for her friend, and she didn't know what to do for a while.
After the post, there was a lot of discussion.
Among them, netizens @restart the 327th day of their lives, which attracted the likes of many netizens:
If it's a true friend, it should be happy for each other, although it's really lost that I didn't apply, but my friend will be happy for her if he has a better development, and he can be a good friend not in a school. ”
But here's the sad truth: the people closest to you are often your enemies. Gu Long's words pierced the darkest part of human nature that many people do not want to see.
There is also a related concept in psychology called relative deprivation.
It is said that when people compare their situation with some kind of standard or some kind of reference and find themselves at a disadvantage, there is a sense of deprivation.
This feeling, in turn, can lead to negative emotions, which can manifest as anger, resentment, or dissatisfaction.
In other words, when people see that you are living so well, it is easy to reflect that their life is not so good, and then they will resentment and dissatisfaction with you.
Most of the time, no one around you really wants to see you live better than they do.
When cross talk actor Yue Yunpeng was 13 years old, he left his hometown alone to drift north. To survive, he worked as a security guard, worked as a waiter, and even cleaned toilets.
In the days when he was at the bottom of the society, he suffered all kinds of cold eyes and grievances.
But fortunately, while working as a waiter in a restaurant, he met the most important person in his life, his chef Guo Degang.
Under the guidance of the master, coupled with his own unremitting efforts, Yue Yunpeng finally came out and made many people remember this star in the cross talk world.
However, Yue Yunpeng said in an interview:
After his success, every time he returned to his hometown, he felt very uncomfortable. ”
Because, he found that no one in the whole village would talk about his goodness. Not only that, when everyone mentioned Yue Yunpeng, they looked disdainful.
Even, there are people in the village who say sarcastically:
We don't love him, but it's just that we are lucky, and when we meet a nobleman, in fact, he has no strength. ”
I remember that there is such a sentence in "Refuse to Be Mediocrate":
Many times, why are we jealous of other people's success?It is precisely because you know that you can do something but you are unwilling to do it, and then you become angry at your own laziness and incompetence, which can only be balanced by jealousy and slander. ”
Sadly, jealousy is an emotion that not only hurts others, but also delays oneself.
Because those who can't tolerate better than themselves in their hearts usually won't have a good life themselves.
On the contrary, you can only benefit from being tolerant of those who are better than you.
Maggie Cheung once said a sobering sentence:
For a beautiful woman, I will admire her, not envy her.
Appreciating the beauty of others makes me more beautiful;Being jealous of other people's beauty will make my heart dark and my face look ugly."
Yes, get along with people who are not as good as you are, and you will get weaker and weaker;On the contrary, try to get along with people who are better than you, and you will get better and better.
Someone who is weaker than you, even if you stand tall in front of him, you can't Xi learn much more;And people who are better than you always have some advantages that you don't have, these are exactly where you can improve, and they are also the space where you can be strong.
Edmund Burke once said, "The man who stands across from us is the most important person in life." ”
Jealousy is part of human nature, but in the end, it's just because a person's pattern is too small.
People with a large pattern tend to see the good of others, and they will learn to Xi the good of others.
Learn to be a big-picture adult, appreciate those excellent people, put aside personal prejudices, and you will eventually meet a better self.