Eating is not just a simple three meals a day, it often contains another meaning.
Some people use eating as an opportunity for emotional communication, where the family gathers to eat and talk about the sweetness and uneasiness experienced in life and work, and the long-accumulated panic in the heart through the flow of intimacy.
Some people see eating as a value exchange, through eating to get more resources and information, on the one hand, you can increase self-awareness, broaden the channels for obtaining relevant resources, on the other hand, in order to talk about cooperation, after the banquet, talk about work, is a sense of sophistication.
When eating, it is not only the meaning of simply filling your stomach, but also what kind of people you eat with, there are also special arguments, after all, people's time and money are very precious, and participating in a meaningless dinner table is a waste of life in disguise.
People with high emotional intelligence have long begun to refuse three meals, and life can be easier without putting too much pressure on themselves.
Middle-aged people should understand that the friends they made in their previous lives will eventually be broken off because of differences in life and concepts, and it is normal for the originally close friends to become casual friends in the circle of friends who do not even boast about it.
If you recall the good things you have experienced in the past, you must forcibly organize a dinner, thinking that a simple meal can bring the relationship back to the most wonderful moment, which will undoubtedly put both parties in an awkward situation.
A reader once shared such a story:
When I was in junior high school, I had a good friend who somehow stopped contacting me.
Coincidentally, they met a few more times, and they connected with each other for a few days or so, until the two could get used to talking about the topic of common memories, and the dinner was even more speechless. After a short time together, the two return to their respective lives again and no longer intersect.
At different stages of life, the need for friends is also different, the good friendships of the past do not necessarily apply to the present, some people are separated, and they wish themselves happiness, and they don't have to deliberately keep it.
Some people on the Internet say that the relationship between friends is actually very fragile, that is, the person who wants you to live well, but does not want you to live better than her.
When a person is very jealous of you in his heart, but he has become your guest, not only will your kindness not be understood by inviting such a person to dinner, but will make the other person feel that you are showing off, that you look down on him, and will humiliate him by inviting him to dinner;
If you say something inappropriate at a dinner party, the person who is jealous of you is more likely to be overwhelmed, which can lead to unnecessary misunderstandings.
When getting along with people who are not as good as yourself, you should have an attitude of respecting the fate of others and give up the feelings of helping others.
If she wants to use your power to change her current terrible life situation, wait for her to come to you and offer your help in a way that she can accept.
Don't take the initiative to invite the other party to dinner, say your thoughts at the dinner table to help, it is easy to hurt the self-esteem of others, when the other party is very jealous of you, you will feel that your behavior is charity, and it is inevitable that you will not consider it at the dinner table after enduring your temper for a long time.
Relationships between people are warmed up by interpersonal attraction.
On the basis of mutual recognition, open up the relationship, whether it is friends or lovers, since they can come together, they will have almost the same habits, or the same ideas, not passers-by, you can see from the dinner table.
If a person doesn't cook well, when eating, only order their favorite dishes and don't care about the taste of others in their presence;When you see the food you like to eat, you eat it, turn it over with chopsticks, and you don't care about the feelings of others at the table, which is enough to show that such people are more selfish in their daily lives.
Of course, it could also be that the emotional intelligence is not enough to realize that there is something wrong with this behavior, and if you mind, it means that the current state of your relationship does not match exactly.