Someone once said, "All failures become insignificant in the face of self-defeating." "Indeed, there is no absolute criterion between failure and success, and the two are interchangeable. Unfortunately, some people gradually lose themselves in a life of wealth and eventually can't start over. Sima Guang once said: "It is easy to go from thrift to luxury, and it is difficult to go from luxury to thrift." "Starting from nothing, gradually becoming rich, and going through many hardships, eventually falling into poverty;When the life of wealth continues for too long, forgetting the hardships at the beginning, it is difficult to turn over. Through Chen Jingji's experience in "The Golden Vase of Plums", we can clearly see the huge gap between getting rich and becoming poor, and the profound impact on life.
First of all, from rich to poor: the rich and noble families have relatives and friends, and the poor are not cared for. Chen Jingji looked pompous as soon as he appeared, his father was a wealthy businessman in Qinghe County, and he was related to Admiral Yang, the head of the 800,000 forbidden army in Tokyo. "Since childhood, he has been smooth and clever, and he has been old and romantic. Love to wear Ya Green out of the oven silver, backgammon lining. Pipa, sheng, zheng, pipe, projectile and horse-walking. "This vivid description is impressive. In the unique family conditions, he is very popular on any occasion. Even Ximen Qing loved him a lot, and even married his daughter Ximen to him. However, once his father's fortunes declined, he lost the blessing of Ximenqing and truly fell into poverty. ** vividly depicts Chen Jingji's predicament: "The house has also been sold, the capital is gone, the head is gone, and the guy is gone." A few concise words profoundly outline Chen Jingji's embarrassing situation. Crucially, he lost his head. He was once revered, but now he needs to bow to others. Yang Dalang, a ruffian who once owed debts, could not recover it after Chen Jingji became depressed. He no longer has a shelterer, and even the maid next to him died of illness. In desperation, he was forced to go to the beggars' gathering place, the cold shop. However, even there, the beggars showed no mercy when they saw him, and even teased him. The reality of weak human affection made him feel helpless. The people who had spoken to him were silent, and they all avoided him when they saw him from afar. It's an unpleasant taste, like freezing the soul.
Secondly, from diligence to laziness: poor for a while, poor for life. Chen Jingji experienced a period of hard struggle, especially after his father was imprisoned, he went to Ximen Qing's house. He wakes up early and is greedy for darkness, knows how to keep accounts, and his room is clean and orderly. Although there are some non-divisive thoughts in his heart, he will restrain himself. In terms of doing business, he also has some experience, after all, his father-in-law Ximenqing is a businessman, and he has benefited a lot from it. However, when he came to the cold shop and was arranged to be a husband, he felt unable to adapt. After spending a long time in the rich life circle, he has become lazy. On the way to the watch, he often dreamed of wealth and Pan Jinlian's love for him. When he woke up, he burst into tears and complained about how miserable his fate was. Just when he was in trouble, his father's old friend Wang Xing'an reached out to help. Based on the old relationship, Wang Xing'an gave him clothes, silver, etc. twice, and arranged for him to do a small business. Every time he accepted, Chen Jingji was always respectful and willing to start over. However, once the money was in hand, he quickly rushed to the Qinglou and the hotel and squandered it. Wang Xing'an suggested that he go to Yangong Temple and live a simple life there as an apprentice. However, Chen Jingji took the opportunity to be lazy and colluded with the monks in the temple to make money. After having money, he did not consider engaging in a legitimate career, but had a close relationship with Feng Jinbao of Qinglou. He boasted to himself: "My sister, you don't worry, I'm fine now." However, in the end, he did not usher in middle age and has never experienced a normal life. Some people say, "I feel uncomfortable not going to work for one day, I feel bored if I don't go to work for two days, and I'm a little scared if I don't go to work for three days." This shift is known as the "holiday syndrome." The shift from directing others to doing the work themselves is embarrassing for many. As a result, some people would rather go hungry than look wealthy. Although poverty in life is not unbearable, once you are in trouble, and you are worried about losing face, the situation becomes even more difficult. Look at Wu Dalang, who sells cooking cakes on the streets and alleys every day, and can also feed his family. If it weren't for Pan Jinlian's greed and lust, Wu Dalang might have been a handicapped figure. Everyone has hands, and it's all about how you use them. If Xi get used to pointing fingers every day, then the hands become useless. Only by taking the initiative and putting in some effort can you turn your hands and feet into tools for wealth creation.
A good life should be continuous and upward, not extravagant and indulgent when you are rich enough to a certain extent. Wise people can inspire their children and grandchildren to live a simple life in old age, constantly striving to earn wealth and make families prosperous for generations to come. When life falls into the situation of "becoming poor and lazy", if you want to turn things around, you must make hard efforts. Self-discipline is key: find good Xi. People have habitual thinking, and after persisting in a certain behavior for a period of time, they will develop Xi. During the trough period, it may feel hard at first to keep working hard to make money, but after a while it will gradually become easier. Back to Zero: Dare to start over. Even if you have nothing, as long as you go out and make a little money, it is a kind of wealth. Starting from scratch, just like the situation of many years ago, reusing the experience of the past is bound to achieve twice the result with half the effort. Borrowing: Achieve counterattack with the help of others. If someone expresses sympathy for you, you should accept it without hesitation and don't refuse it because of face. If a former subordinate invites you to participate in something, you should also gladly accept it. Bow your head once, and it may be an opportunity to change your fate. True success is a state of continuous improvement. Don't be discouraged when you're poor, don't be publicized when you're rich, and always keep your original intention. Life is full of ups and downs, wealth does not matter, and the spirit is always the same.