What is Loving Child?To love a child is to be able to accept everything that happens to a child.
Parents are not the instructors of the children, the parents are only the helpers in the children's lives, we should never think about changing the children, only wait for the children to change automatically.
As he continues to grow, he will structure his own three views of the world and social principles, he will have his own ability to take responsibility, and he will learn to be sophisticated in the process of interacting with others.
We often self-righteously let our intellect blind us and not pay attention to the child himself, but only the way the child behaves.
For example, in the summer camp curriculum, some children have a very active personality, and when you ask him to share, he will be very positive;Some children are very introverted, reluctant to speak or express, and they may know very well in their hearts that there are touches, feelings, and gains in their hearts.
If we define a child as a good student, if the child basically does not express, we think that he is a bad child, will these children be ignored by us?Once every child is labeled negatively by us, we will neglect his development.
So,All the negative things you say about your child, as well as the shortcomings you focus on, will make you neglect this child more and more.
Only we can see that every child is interpreting his own life in his own way, and all his appearances today are the fate script of his own choice.
Only when we see this clearly will we truly be silently accompanied, blessed and correctly guided.
In the process of building a strong relationship with the child, we can accompany the child to experience what the child wants to do.
We want our children to do it, and when they refuse, we have to accept it.
Only when we have established a strong relationship of trust with our child will we have the opportunity to guide him correctly. How to guide children correctly?We need to ask the children what they think about it.
When there is a cognitive bias in his views and thoughts on a thing, or a personality loophole, we should give him some examples of life, and then let him see what kind of result such wrong values will bring him, and what kind of price will be paid for wrong behavior!
We must learn to use the most authentic stories in life to guide and influence children.
We often say that there are more than three solutions to any one thing happening.
The first way to solve the problem is to put yourself in your shoes.
From our own point of view, we will seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
Second, we put ourselves in the shoes of others, from the perspective of others.
We empathize and empathize.
Third, we will find a balance from the perspective of Taoism.
So there are more than three solutions to anything that happens.
Love your child, never think about changing your child, you can't change your child, all you can give is some good companionship, positive guidance, and then wait for the child to change automatically.