Life is always full of ups and downs and ruggedness, people are not perfect, everyone has some shortcomings and deficiencies to a greater or lesser extent, but not everyone can bravely face their own shortcomings and shortcomings, many people will even try their best to cover up, they are keen to brag about themselves, exaggerate their advantages, and some even make something out of nothing, making up some of their own nothingness at will, so as to satisfy their so-called vanity.
Many people in the face of other people's criticism, the first reaction is to refute, will find a lot of reasons and views to refute the other party's statement, they do not seriously analyze the other party's criticism is reasonable, whether the other party's suggestions are worth adopting, but subconsciously to oppose and deny the other party, and even guess whether the other party's intentions are hostile, this subconscious approach is actually a kind of dare not face their own shortcomings performance, from a psychological point of view to analyze, this is also a manifestation of inferiority complex.
Although most people hope that they have no shortcomings, but this is unrealistic, our Chinese education philosophy and education system make many people think that it is disgraceful for people to have shortcomings, if people know that they will feel embarrassed, especially in public exposure is more shameful, so many people dare not admit it, dare not face it, if this shortcoming is exposed, it may also cause very serious consequences.
Under the guidance of this kind of thinking, many people deliberately conceal some of their defects and deficiencies, but in this way, people will feel a great mental burden, which is a great spiritual burden for many people, always worrying, always worried that their own shortcomings have been discovered, under this psychological pressure, people dare not show themselves truly, always worried about being ridiculed and despised by others, people will not feel happy.
Therefore, for their own shortcomings, we should have a clear understanding, your own shortcomings are best known to you, you must also clearly realize that others also have their own defects and pain, for anyone, adversity is inevitable, anyone's life will definitely experience a certain moment of failure, there may be work setbacks, career bankruptcy, family marriage failure, loss of loved ones, and even serious accidents, there will always be some bad luck inadvertently come to the door.
Therefore, we should not be ashamed of our own shortcomings, but should look at our own shortcomings with an open mind, face these shortcomings, do not feel inferior and ashamed, and even put them on the table** When you are brave enough to show your shortcomings and be able to make up for them as much as possible, then you will unload your heavy psychological burden, and constantly adapt to frustration and pain, maybe the frustration and shame you thought at the beginning were devastating, but after these experiences, you will find that you have reached a higher level of realm, you may also find that the shortcomings that caused you pain at the beginning are not so terrible。
Therefore, people who constantly face up to and reflect on their own shortcomings, and constantly experience setbacks, will stand at a higher level and realm to examine themselves and others after adapting to the tempering of setbacks, so as to form a strong calm and calm mentality.
No matter how the wind blows or the waves blow, it is better than a leisurely stroll. To have such grace, you must first face yourself and overcome your shortcomings, if you are afraid of mistakes, afraid of ridicule, and can't bear contempt and ridicule, then your weaknesses and defects will be more obvious, the more constraints you will have, the more you think of others' contempt and shame will become more and more obvious, and eventually, you will be overwhelmed by your own shortcomings and unable to move forward.