Today, the two surnames are married, and a contract is signed, and the good relationship is forever, matching the same name.
Look at the peach blossoms on this day, the family is harmonious, the melons are long, and the life is happy. I would like to make this oath and write it in the biography of the wild goose, remember the alliance of red leaves, and record it in the mandarin duck spectrum.
It's the most precious bond in the world and the sublimation of human relationships. Since then, the two families have become in-laws and have become the closest relatives.
In modern society, there are certain rules that need to be observed in the interaction with the in-laws. The principle of "three immovables and two non-touches" of our predecessors is worthy of our in-depth study and reference.
Once a family relationship is established, both parties will see each other as stakeholders and take it for granted to use each other's networks.
When he was young, his in-laws helped each other, and some of his in-laws took the initiative to help with farm work, leaving a good memory of the two families getting along harmoniously.
When people are old, they should no longer rely on their in-laws, so as not to become a burden to the other party. It's not that they are disliked, but the traditional Chinese belief that relationships need to be two-way interactions, and that there are contacts to stay close, otherwise the relationship will gradually drift apart.
In old age, the web of relationships between the two parties has become intricate. If you always try to take advantage of the relationship between your in-laws, it seems to be a bit of a sense of overstepping.
When we are young, we are usually busy with our own things, but if you need help, our in-laws will also lend a hand. This is because we all have common interests and are willing to support you.
If you disturb frequently just for the sake of human affection, it may hurt the feelings of the two families, and even cause conflicts, leaving a bad impact on future generations.
At a Fudo Glass wedding, both couples will try their best to make each other feel happy and will not hesitate to drink alcohol. In this festive atmosphere, people often can't help but want to drink more.
This is the joy of celebration, a milestone in the growth of children, and it is natural to taste a few more bites. Even in the family gatherings that follow, there is no need to persuade you to drink, and it is natural to drink a few more glasses because the body has already adapted.
As you get older, people around you may advise you to cut back on your alcohol consumption. As an in-laws, if you still strongly discourage alcohol, you may be accused of disregarding the health of your relatives.
Over the years, we have gone from "new" relatives to "old" relatives and have learned each other very well. Except for a drink at the beginning, you can give enough respect in the future and enjoy the party to the fullest.
Don't let persuasion become a sinner for the ages, drink in moderation and enjoy the happy time.
In modern society, people's pursuit of money and profit is very strong. In the early years of marriage, both parents will do their best to support the young couple and will therefore give them as much financial assistance as possible.
As you get older, it is necessary to save some pension funds for yourself. Or, out of human selfishness, you may want to secretly save a sum of money for your children, just in case.
When you are strapped for money, don't hit the idea of your in-laws, which will not only make the relationship between the two families awkward, but also lead to a rift in the relationship between the young couple.
No matter how tight the financial situation is, you can't easily borrow money from friends and family. Unless the other party offers to help, and signs a clear loan agreement and abides by the loan regulations, it may bring unnecessary trouble and risk.
It is not strange to have many people, and the more complete the rules, the more solemn they are", this sentence warns us that no matter what we do, we should abide by certain rules and etiquette. Only in this way can you show your own quality and cultivation and win the respect and trust of others.
Therefore, we should pay attention to our words and deeds, so that we are consistent with our words and deeds, and be above board. In this way, we can gain a foothold in society and succeed.
Keep a certain distance and boundaries, even if it is in-laws, and be clear about their respective family boundaries. Young people can move around more, but elders should maintain a moderate level of independence.
When you are a family member for the first time, you may wish to send some special products to show your friendship. In the future, young people should be allowed to be independent and filial, and frequent movement will inevitably touch each other's privacy.
Every family has their own troubles and may just complain in private. If you publicize these things, won't you tell others about your own ugly things, causing conflicts between the two families?
Regarding the housework of our in-laws, we should maintain certain boundaries, do not interfere or meddle too much, and do not spread or give advice at will. After all, they are a family, and how to solve things is their internal affair, and we should not interfere too much.
Always remember that it is very important to maintain a sense of boundaries.
Respecting the boundaries of boundaries is the boundaries of the individual, and not violating the boundaries of others is the brilliance of human nature, especially for getting along with relatives and families.
From ancient times to the present, Chinese seem to have always had a comparative mentality. Compare the advantages and disadvantages of children, compare the abilities of men, compare the quality of life, and compare the high and low status ......It seems that this whole life has been spent in comparison.
You can compare yourself to other people, but you can't compare yourself to your in-laws.
Whether your life is good or bad, it is not suitable to share it with your in-laws. In front of your in-laws, it's best to mention your weaknesses more to highlight your in-laws' strengths.
Historically, there has been no one who has not longed to hear praise, and the same is true of how in-laws get along with each other. Of course, it is not advisable to hate the poor and love the rich, no matter what, the two families have become in-laws and should face difficulties together.
If there is always dissatisfaction with the poverty of the other person, then the relationship may have come to an end.
There is a kind of in-laws who are always outspoken about each other's shortcomings, even on inappropriate occasions. This behavior can push the relationship to its limits and may even lead to a breakdown.
Elderly people sometimes improvise and say something they have heard from others, but they don't know that they have violated the other party's bottom line. Even if there are no outsiders present, it is difficult to accept it in my heart, which will definitely affect the relationship between the two families.
After becoming an in-law, especially after getting older, you should respect each other, abide by etiquette and rules, talk about things, and worry about nothing as much as possible.
There are a few things we need to do when proposing. In ancient Chinese weddings, the Three Books and Six Rites were an important part of the process, and each of them had strict rules, so we must take them seriously and not take them lightly.
In modern society, although many traditional Xi customs have been simplified, door-to-door visits are still an essential link. Even between couples in free love, both parents usually need to meet.
Especially before getting married, the man's elders must go to the woman's house to propose marriage, so you need to pay attention to the rules of the door.
When you visit for the first time, be courteous, don't care about status, and have plenty of gifts. Sufficiency here does not mean that the more precious the better, but rather that the "quantity" should be emphasized.
Customs and Xi vary from place to place, and some places require six gifts to be brought when proposing, so you can't just give five. In some places, even numbers are considered auspicious, so they cannot be singular when giving gifts.
When it comes to gift-giving, different places have different Xi. Some places require meat, eggs, milk and other physical objects, while others are simpler, as long as the name or packaging is festive.
There is also a special situation, if the woman has elders in the family, then the gifts to be given need to take into account the needs of the elderly.
In the process of pursuing the woman of our choice, we need to show humility as a way to show that we are serious about the relationship. At the same time, understanding the other party's situation in advance can also show our rigor and reliability, and increase the other party's trust in us. "
In the process of proposing, we need to respect the local Xi customs, Xi which are not only about the number of people, but also about etiquette. Each place has different rules for procuring relatives, so we should not stick to our own opinions, but should follow local customs and Xi.
When proposing at the woman's house, if you are just about to go out to eat, you should try to avoid staying for too long, so as not to bring too much psychological pressure to the woman's family.
If the woman has this custom, and the man is not allowed to show up when proposing, then the man's parents must go to the woman's house to discuss the marriage, and the woman's customs must not be violated.
Not everything has to be done by the woman, but it has always been the Xi that has always been the case. Before the end of the children's wedding, the woman's status is higher, so that the marriage can be happy.
Avoid talking about your children's shortcomings in front of your elders, especially the man's family. Don't mention your own children or the other daughter's issues, instead, emphasize the compatibility of both children.
Praise the good in women, and the other person will also respond in favor of the good in men, so that the atmosphere of the conversation will become pleasant. This is conducive to further communication, otherwise it will become a complaining conference, and the marriage may be ruined if you are not careful.
Conclusion: Marriage is a crucial decision in life, and it should not be taken lightly or lightly. We should respect and pass on the wedding ceremonies that have been precipitated and streamlined through history.
The relationship between children originates from children and exists for them. As you grow older, it becomes especially important to enjoy the filial piety of your children and feel the peace of your family. And those unnecessary comparisons and trivial matters can be dealt with by young people.