Maybe it has something to do with age and the reason for the wandering, but I have a lot of friends. Of course, I know that the core of this problem is that this "friend" is the kind of friend that is difficult to replace, and I just want to decipher why this is happening from my own perspective. At different stages of my life, in different places, I have been a core friend to some people. After that, there are always friends who will be replaced for a variety of reasons, including childhood playmates, classmates who went to and from school together, teammates on the college basketball team, work partners, and ...... who shared interests"There is no feast in the world that will never be dissolved. "Eventually, they were all blown away in the wind. "No, most of them are still in touch, but we know each other very wellWe're no longer in the same relationship that we used to be talking about, and we're spending more time with new friends, closer friends. How did these things happen?
Childhood playmates, childhood classmates, we have been separated for a long time, and the common fun at that time was also used to evoke memories and laugh in each other's eyes. The reasons for the separation from other friends are basically similar, they go to different places, have different lives, their understanding and cognition are also changing, and at some nodes, they will naturally devote themselves to new environments and interactions. I will make new discoveries, new possibilities, and I will recommend them to my friend, who will not necessarily be interested, and will I lose interest because of this?Am I going to be on the same frequency with him all the time?Do you want to hold on to what you have?No, because I know that this kind of friendship can become a bond, and people are always individuals, living in groups that are constantly expanding their boundaries.
This is how I choose and treat my friends, and I should also accept the fact that I have been replaced by others in the eyes of my valued friends. In my opinion, this is a "natural" property, in accordance with the law of the development of things. When you just realize the bias and shift of the focus of your friendship, you will inevitably be reluctant, incomprehensible, a little lost or complaining, but calm down and judge according to the specific reasons, you will find that the occurrence of things is actually very reasonable. Reasonable is easy to accept. In a sense, friends belong to the level of "sensibility", and sensibility is actually the most prone to change and shift. And the so-called sensibility can actually try to use reason to analyze, friends are often a kind of "need" and "help", these two words are not snobbery in the real sense, but more refer to emotional value. 
When a friend you value very much has a better friend, it actually means that you have a new "need" and need some kind of "help", for example, someone can talk to him about a deeper topic, so that he can have better communication in the field of interest, and so on. From a friend's point of view, I'll be happy for him and I'm sure he can understand if the same thing happens to me. Otherwise, what kind of friends are we?Of course, I will still cherish this friend, and I will also be curious about his new friend, and I will judge whether I can become friends with his new friend. Whether it's befriending his new friends, or whether it's because I have more time and energy to meet new people, it's a good thing, and our boundaries are broadening. If you draw the ground as a dungeon, you will only see the sky at the mouth of the well, and you will think that that is all there is to it, try to open more maps, go around and around more, accept changes, and enrich your life.
So, it's good to be friends as long as it's good, it doesn't matter where you are. The most important question is always whether you are in the first place in your heart, this is not selfishness, but you should never put others at the center of your position. You yourself are the center, and it is others who are constantly rotating around you, and the so-called position changes.
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