Why do you dislike your partner and can't do without him at the same time?This problem may seem common, but there are many reasons behind it. Today, we're going to dive into this topic from a psychological perspective and reveal the two main reasons for it. Emotion
First, let's understand the fact that human beings have an innate desire for security. This sense of security may come from material abundance, or it can come from emotional stability. When we get along with our partner, this quest for security often becomes a subconscious motivation for behavior. Even if we are unhappy with some aspect of our partner, we will still choose to stay because we are afraid that change will bring greater uncertainty and insecurity.
So why do we have this ambivalence?One of the reasons is "dependency". Human beings are inherently dependent, which makes us dependent on others in our lives to meet our own needs. Even if we are unhappy with our partner, we still rely on them for some of our needs, such as emotional support, life care, or financial support. This dependency makes us reluctant to give up on our partner easily, even if we are unhappy with them.
In addition to dependency, another reason is "emotional inertia". When we spend some time with someone, we get used to their presence, and this habit gives us a sense of psychological comfort. Even if we are unhappy with our partner, this emotional inertia can make us reluctant to change the status quo easily. When we consider breaking up with our partner, we often choose to stay because we are afraid of losing that comfort.
With these two reasons in mind, let's talk about how to solve this problem. If you find yourself disliking your partner and not being able to live without him, then you need to think hard about your inner needs and emotional state. First, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to work with your partner to improve your relationship. If you think that there is still a possibility for the relationship to develop, then you can try to communicate deeply with your partner to understand the other person's feelings and needs, and find a solution to the problem together.
If you find that the relationship is no longer improving, then you need to be brave enough to face the reality and consider whether you want to end the relationship. If you decide to end the relationship, then you need to communicate openly with your partner and express your feelings and decisions. In this process, you need to stay as calm and rational as possible to avoid making regretted decisions because of emotion.
In short, the situation of disliking your partner and not being able to do without him is a complex problem that needs to be considered and solved from multiple angles. By gaining insight into our inner needs and emotional state, we can better handle this issue and make decisions that are best for us. At the same time, we should also realize that there is often no absolute right or wrong choice in life, and we need to learn to take responsibility for the results and responsibilities of our choices.