Article** Huaizuo.
Some time ago, my dad was sick, at first I thought it was a stomachache, but then I went to the hospital to check and found that there were gallstones and appendicitis, so we were hospitalized from 1231 dwells to this day.
Currently, the surgery has been done and my dad is recovering. My brother and I take turns taking care of it, and we should be able to be discharged from the hospital this week.
The recent escort has given me a lot of different feelings, and I will organize and record it through today's article.
My parents are getting older, and my biggest wish is to hope that they are healthy. When I took my dad for a check-up that day, he came out with an ultrasound and told me that it was bad and that the problem was not small. At that time, I could clearly feel a crackling in my heart, and the cold sweat on my back instantly burst out, but I still tried to ask him calmly what was going on.
He said that he had gallstones and might need surgery.
I breathed a sigh of relief and said you scared me to death, gallstones, not a big problem.
After I was successfully admitted to the hospital, the doctor gave my dad a painkiller injection to temporarily stop the pain. On the day of the operation, we waited outside, looking at the big screen while waiting, and many times we saw that we were in the middle of the operation, and waited until the end of the operation, when the horn was called, we ejected up and waited at the door of the operating room.
I have to say that the painkiller pump is really easy to use, it can be managed for two days, and it can basically help the patient survive the initial pain. That thing can be added or not, it is an option, and when the anesthesiologist asked me, I said that I had to add it. My dad told me the next day that he forgot to tell me about that thing, but I didn't expect to add it. I said that needless to say, I will try to use as much as possible for you what can help you suffer less.
During this time in the hospital, my dad looked a little older, weak, gray-haired, and unable to speak. Fortunately, I can see his gradual recovery recently, from the initial difficulty of getting up, to today I can go out for a walk in the morning and evening. When he chatted with me, he would talk about the two years he had seen a doctor in the hospital, about the scene when he took my mother to see a doctor in Taiyuan more than ten years ago, and about his experience of breaking his leg and recuperating in Yangquan when he was in his twenties.
Like turning a page, he talks about his illness, but he turns the page on his life.
After listening to it several times, my other feeling is that time flies so fast. I think my dad used to be a teenager, in his twenties, and he was so high-spirited that he fell down the stairs while running because he was busy playing poker with his co-workers. Thinking that when he was hospitalized at that time, there should have been many colleagues who went to see him, accompanied him, and maybe played poker in the ward. Now in his sixties, his temples are gray, and his youth has long passed.
While he was lying on the bed, I sat quietly on the side. It was really boring to meditate for a long time, so I opened Jin Yong's martial arts and read "Heaven and Dragon Slayer". Talking to my dad about Jin Yong's martial arts, he said that when he was a child, he was also a fan of Jin Yong, and he basically watched Jin Yong's works. We talked about Zhang Wuji, Zhang Sanfeng, Guo Jing, and later talked about "Water Margin" and "Romance of the Three Kingdoms". These classic works can also become a bridge for us to communicate.
Eventually we stopped chatting because it was so funny, and my dad said he laughed so hard that it hurt.
There is a TV in the ward, sometimes my dad can watch TV, and I continue to watch Jin Yong's **. From this little thing, I found that people need a lot of spiritual products to enrich themselves and fight boredom. TV series is a spiritual product, and it is, in essence, it can meet people's spiritual needs. People live in this world, and their material and spiritual needs need to be satisfied.
There wasn't much to see, but when my dad wanted to say something, he would talk to me about some of his old days. Even though he has said it 800 times, I will still listen quietly when he says it again. After all, people are the loneliest when they are sick, and it is also a comfort to say something and have someone to listen to. I think of the scene when I had a cold when I was a child, and I especially needed to be accompanied by an adult, and when I saw no one around, I would call my parents or grandpa. With loved ones there, there is a sense of security, all the time.
It reminds me of One Hundred Years of Solitude. In fact, through all the stories in that book, what is permeated is the loneliness that people cannot get rid of for life. How to say, it would be better to have someone to accompany you.
Family can give people strength.
When my dad was wheeled into the operating room, he was very weak. After signing the notice taken by the doctor, I read it silently in my heartHope the surgery goes well and everything is fine.
It was then that I understood why many people burn incense and worship the Buddha. I used to think it was superstition, but now I see, people's hearts really have to find some sustenance. Science can indeed solve many problems, but people's feelings and spirit need to be sustenance, and they need to be carried in some other ways.
As I walked back and forth in the corridors, I saw a lot of small sticky notes on the wall for blessings, some of which said that they wished for the smooth birth of their children, and some of them wished that their families would be healthy. After reading them one by one, I felt layers of resonance, and tears kept rolling in my eyes.
Life and experience bring people different feelings at different stages. Those things can't be touched by imagination alone, when you really experience them, and when you really live them.
In addition, I think about the carefree nature of our young age, which was really the happiest time of our lives. At that time, we had not grown up ourselves, many burdens had not fallen on our bodies, and our parents were relatively young, and they basically carried everything they could. It's a pity that this kind of happiness is often realized later, and after a certain stage, we will really know the goodness of that stage.
If you push it from this logic, the present may be the best.
When I hit ** with my family, my dad will ask Hengheng (my son) every time, it seems that this is really a next-generation parent, the old man is worried about the child, and he will be very happy when he sees the child. I'm too, and even though children are really tiring sometimes, I just want to see them every day, and it's hard to describe how happy I feel when I see them.
Including when I watched "Heaven and Dragon Slayer" today, I actually found resonance in it. Zhang Cuishan, Xie Xun, and Yin Susu fell to ** Island, and with the birth of Zhang Wuji, the relationship between the three of them and the angle of thinking about problems have changed. In the past, Yin Susu was ruthless and regarded human life as a mustard, but after having a child, even animals were reluctant to harm him. At the same time, the three of them love Zhang Wuji very much, think about his future, and don't want him to stay on a desert island for the rest of his life.
All literature is learned by people, and the focus of good works is to show the total number of people from various scenes.
Take this paragraph as an example, even if you haven't read it, you can think about how they will leave the desert island, what they will encounter after leaving, and whether they will be happy or dangerous when they return. There is also an important point, that is, Zhang Wuji was loved by his parents and father-in-law, and he did not understand the world since he was a child, and after he arrived in the Central Plains, in the face of all kinds of deceptions, what stories would evolve in him. Although we all know the plot, when we return to the origin at this moment, and then look at Zhang Wuji's later choices and performances, we will understand it more deeply.
My dad doesn't like Zhang Wuji very much, saying that Qiao Feng is still powerful, more decisive, and more manly. I said that Zhang Wuji is very real, removing martial arts and identity, that hesitation, more like an ordinary person. He has gained a lot of fame and fortune and high positions, but he has never been greedy, even if he is often plotted, he does not take it to heart.
This is actually not a nest, but before he was ten years old, his relatives around him gave him the greatest love and security. These things shaped him and protected him, so that he was still full of hope for life in the face of various difficulties.
Love and companionship may be the most precious things parents can give their children.
We were waiting to be discharged from the hospital for the past two days, and my dad also talked about the difference between the city and the countryside. It can be seen that he still likes the countryside, and the planned life in his later years is to stay in the village, carefree, and simple. I just listened and understood, so I didn't want to judge. For the people who have been living in the village, the countryside is indeed their root and the origin of their life coordinates.
Let me see, it is not easy for people to find a way of life that suits them, after all, we are surrounded by judgment, black and white, full of constraints and compulsions. has lived a hard life all his life, and he has long been far away from his original self and played various roles given by others.
My dad said that he didn't like to drink, his ability to deal with people was average, and he didn't make any money, so that's all he had for life. From another point of view, whether he is good or bad, he has at least lived according to his mind most of the time, which can be regarded as a kind of smoothness. Nowadays,I want him to maintain that basic ability to be happy, it's already good.
When I was in my twenties, I wanted to be far away from my parents, thinking that that was freedom, independence, and a good man's ambition. Now I cherish the time I spend with them, and I feel that the family is lively, chatting and eating together, which is the greatest happiness. Actually, I need them more and want to be with them more, but I've changed.
I became more talkative, and I began to listen to my mother's advice to wear more autumn pants, wipe my hair before going out, and I didn't talk back anymore, and I got used to thinking twice as much as possible before speaking. I lost the freedom I understood in my twenties, and began to become a mother-in-law, full of daily fireworks, and no longer pursued the independence that I admired at that time.
My family is my bond, and a stable daily life is my greatest happiness**.
Every day when I went out to the hospital, I would tell my mom that there was nothing wrong and that my dad would be discharged soon. After I went, I had a brief handover with my brother, and then he went home to rest and replaced me with my dad. Including my brother coming from Taiyuan, it also made me feel like a family reunion. What was once the most ordinary has now become a luxury.
Life is really unpredictable.
Finally, I would like to leave my most sincere wishes, I hope that everyone's parents are in good health and all the best!
Best wishes.