I don't know when I started to become less fond of posting on Moments and not looking at Moments.
It seems that after graduation, everyone's circle of friends becomes boring.
Xiaoxiao, who shares her life with Moments every day in college, has closed her Moments directly since she was going to take the civil service exam, and when I asked her why, she told me mysteriously that because the competition was too fierce, she didn't want to be caught by others with pigtails.
After being successfully admitted, Xiaoxiao reapplied for a work account, and there was no circle of friends in that account.
But when Xiaoxiao was in college, she would share her joys, sorrows, and sorrows in the circle of friends, who she met today, what she did, and all kinds of ......
After you didn't post on Moments, I feel that I am far away from you. "I laughed when she went on a business trip to my city last week and had dinner with me.
After graduation, I opened the chat box to chat with my classmates, and I had a deliberate sense of closeness, and the circle of friends was an effective way for me to maintain my emotions.
It can't be helped, we're all like this now. She smiled mischievously at me and went back to her college days.
Before, a girl in our unit posted a circle of friends who went shopping after work, but an old colleague in our unit joked that she was still not saturated at work, and now that girl doesn't post on Moments anymore. ”
I barely dropped my jaw when I heard this.
I see you haven't posted a lot of moments lately?Xiaoxiao asked me rhetorically.
Indeed, compared to me, who used to have a circle of friends almost every day, now I don't have one a week.
Because I always go out to travel, there are many friends in the circle of friends who posted at the beginning to praise themselves, until last year, after posting the ** of mountain climbing, a primary school classmate who has not been in touch for a long time suddenly came to me and asked me why I was always outside, don't I need to work?
At first, I just thought she was curious about the nature of my work and just wanted to reply, but she told me:
It's really a bump in to see you playing outside every day. I go out early and return late every day, and when I go home and open the circle of friends, I see your various positions, do you know that because of you, I haven't opened the circle of friends for a long time. As a result, it was still you when I opened it today, and it was really annoying. Can you block me?”
After she finished speaking, she blocked me directly.
I haven't been in touch with her for a long time, we added WeChat, or she took the initiative to add me in high school, and since then it has only been a friend in the circle of friends.
But I didn't expect her to feel bad because of my circle of friends.
But actually, that's part of my job.
Since then, whenever I want to post on Moments, I will subconsciously block some unfamiliar people on the list.
Over time, I felt tired.
In addition, I am also busy at work, and most of my energy is focused on real life, and I subconsciously forget about the circle of friends.
And it seems like you haven't written a small article in the circle of friends for a long time. ”
Xiaoxiao continued.
I was stunned, as if yes. And I haven't even discovered this fact myself.
Why?Seriously, sometimes I feel like I've lost my desire to express myself in the world.
Wouldn't it be terrible for you to lose the desire to express yourself as an article?”
Actually, it's okay, I'll post it on other platforms. I replied vaguely, but skipped the topics.
But Xiaoxiao was right.
After writing too many articles, I feel that what I want to express has already been expressed, and sometimes it is not very interesting to write again.
The most important thing is that sometimes I feel that I used to always charge in the circle of friends, although I am hot-blooded, I am also extremely naïve.
And I have become a calm adult in everyone's eyes.
When I talked to another high school classmate about this topic, she gave me a different answer.
She was admitted to South China University of Technology in the college entrance examination, and then studied for a master's degree and a doctorate.
Since her junior year, her time to update her circle of friends has slowed down, and there won't be much in a month.
I have less time. ”
She pushed her glasses and told me.
And I'm used to telling people when I'm done now. Otherwise, if you say it before you start, you will subconsciously feel that this thing is almost done. This kind of thing is terrible for a researcher like me. ”
So she always accomplished something big quietly and quietly. For example, after she returned to China, she sent a ** as an exchange student in the UK;
It was also after the master's and doctor's degrees were guaranteed that everyone learned about it.
She is probably the person who everyone calls "doing big things quietly".
And more people, for my question, the answer is basically the same.
I don't have time to go out and play, and my life is boring. ”
In a sense, it is for this reason that I no longer open the circle of friends.
Every day in college is stepping on the road of youth, and every day is wonderful and happy. And after graduation, I was always unable to face the economic independence that flew towards me.
For example, taking the subway in the morning is always shoulder to shoulder, and getting off work at night is tired.
With such a life, it is difficult for people to cheer up and post a circle of friends. Even if it is to be sent, it is a complaint about life.
Moreover, in recent years, more and more people have said that people who post on Moments can't hide things in their hearts, and in order to make themselves more in line with the "adults" in the eyes of the public, they picked up the mobile phone, thought about it and put it down.
But in fact, what if I think about it, what if I am a person who has no concentration?
How boring would the world be if everyone had a face?
My circle of friends is more for my future self, in order to tell my future self, what was my mood at this time. And not just to please someone.
So, I won't block anyone next time.
If you don't like me, you should choose not to watch it yourself, instead of blaming me.