Hello everyone, I'm Mu Muxue!
Because of the cold weather, Mr. Zhou's business was not very good, and now it is even worse.
And I do self-writing, the data during this period is also super poor, every day I see the previous day's data feedback, the mood falls again and again, and the motivation to write will also be affected.
I often see the words of encouragement from the teacher in the writing group, and I will be inspired, but when I am faced with the bleak data, I will fall into a kind of self-internal friction.
It's the kind of feeling that you write a lot, and you still don't have any positive feedback, and you don't see hope.
Recently, I have been trying my best to get myself out of this self-internal friction.
Sometimes I feel like I don't have any great strengths and I don't have much ability, but fortunately I have a strong ability to heal myself.
Even if you fall to the bottom, you can pull yourself up.
I think that this kind of self-healing ability is something that every girl should have.
Because in life, we will always encounter all kinds of difficulties and setbacks, and if we don't have enough confidence and courage, we can easily be defeated and lose ourselves.
Therefore, I would like to share with you some of my own experiences and experiences, and give 6 suggestions to girls, hoping to help you.
When you are confused, you should think about it and review it
Life is inevitably confused, and at this time, we may not know where our direction is, and we may not feel the value of what we are doing at the moment.
But don't give up at will, feel inferior and give up, calm down and think about what your problems are.
Review what you have done before, and then find a breakthrough point from it, find problems, and solve problems.
When we get busy, we don't have time for internal friction and confusion.
There is a saying that goes like this: "Look at yourself and keep improving yourself." ”
In fact, many times, we may be confused by the authorities;But when we learn to think, to review, and to look at the overall picture, we will suddenly realize.
Just like the dilemma I have encountered in my recent writing, if I knew the rules of the self-leading platform and treated it with a long-term, global vision, I would not be entangled in the current data is not good.
Instead, they will work hard to do a good job of content and polish their writing skills.
Therefore, when we are confused, we must think about why we are in such a predicament, and then find a breakthrough from it.
When you're alone, discipline yourself and manage your time
Many people like to be accompanied by people in life, especially many girls, no matter what they do, they like to be with others.
But in real life, people will inevitably have times when they are alone, and it is impossible to have someone with us all the time.
At this time, we need to be self-disciplined and make good use of our time alone.
Don't be lazy, don't be passive, and don't be afraid to be alone.
Russell once said:
"People's indulgence is instinct, and self-discipline is practice. ”In fact, solitude is a good time for us to add value, and by making good use of these times, we will not only not be bored, but will live a very fulfilling life, and can improve ourselves and surpass others unconsciously.
When it's difficult, persevere, and if you get through, you'll see a bright future
Writer Robert. Payne. Warren once said:
"Don't carry it, carry it to the end, either you are strong, or the difficulties will really pass. ”There will always be difficult times in our lives, when we encounter difficulties, when we suffer setbacks, when we lose confidence, etc.
At this time, don't give up easily, don't compromise at will, don't doubt yourself, but face it bravely, respond positively, and strengthen your beliefs.
Persistence can help us overcome difficulties, resolve crises, break through bottlenecks, and create miracles.
There are many times in life that are difficult to endure, but once we get through it, we will become different and stronger.
Helen Keller said
"A person's life is only truly lived if he somehow makes the world a better place. ”Persistence can make us like the spark of life, not afraid of the obstruction of darkness, not afraid of the blow of wind and rain, not afraid of difficult tests, just to light up our own light.
When the trough is low, accumulate strength and prepare for the future counterattack;
In our long life, we will encounter all kinds of low points, and we may temporarily lose the motivation to move forward.
But at this time, don't sink into decadence, don't complain, don't give up, but adjust your mentality, sum up your experience, and prepare to go.
Nietzsche said:
"Maybe you feel like your efforts are always in vain, but there is no doubt that you are getting closer to the apex every day.The effort at the trough is to prepare for the counterattack in the future, remember this, and then do the current thing in the down-to-earth area.Although you are still far from the apex today, you have accumulated the strength to climb the peak tomorrow through today's efforts. ”
The accumulation of strength in the trough period can make us like a spring, not succumbing to setbacks, not being discouraged by failures, not stagnation due to troughs, just to meet our own peaks.
When you are bored, read a book and constantly update your knowledge system;
If you find life boring, go read a book.
Swim in the ocean of words, experience a different life, and feel a different fun.
Reading can help us increase our knowledge, expand our horizons, improve our literacy, and enrich our lives.
As Bacon said:
"Reading enriches, discussion makes witty, and notes make accurate. ”Reading allows us to be like a sponge, not to reject any information, not to give up any opportunity, not to be satisfied with any achievement, just to absorb our own nutrition.
When we immerse ourselves in the world of books, we will no longer feel bored in life.
We can selectively read our favorite books according to our hobbies.
In your free time, you can exercise and keep your body healthy.
Zeng Guopan once wrote in his diary:
"Walk often, muscles and bones always move. ”Exercise is always the best medicine for life, in your spare time, instead of doing nothing and wasting time, it is better to do something that is beneficial to your body.
Go for exercise to keep our body active and healthier.
Exercise not only helps us strengthen our body, but also relieves stress, improves immunity, and slows down aging.
For example, when I have time to write, I often spend an hour or two at the computer, and my shoulders and neck will be very stiff.
Proper exercise can relieve physical discomfort and make me more efficient in writing.
There will always be all kinds of emotions in life, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes calm, sometimes excited.
These emotions are normal, they are all part of life, they are all an experience for us.
But we can't let these emotions control us, but learn to control them.
The above 6 suggestions for girls are some of the methods I have summarized based on my own experience and perception, and I hope it can help you.
Remember, we are our own masters and don't be swayed by our emotions. When you encounter difficulties in life, when you encounter difficulties, you must learn to heal yourself.
The above encouragement!
It's not easy to code words, if you feel that the content inspires you, I hope you can spend 01 second to give a thumbs up, your affirmation will always be the motivation for my continuous output, thank you!
Author: Mu Muxue, a self-leading writer who focuses on personal growth and is trying to run to freedom, may we become a better version of ourselves through hard work and live the life we yearn for.