My husband and I had just gotten married and moved into his parents' house. My mother-in-law is okay with me, but my sister-in-law has always been hostile to me.
That day, I was packing up in the living room when suddenly my mother-in-law walked in in a huff.
If you dare to do this again, I'll let you sleep on the street!The sister-in-law pointed at her mother-in-law and shouted menacingly.
We both couldn't help but be stunned for a moment, not knowing what was wrong with my sister-in-law. Usually she doesn't have any opinions about her mother-in-law, but this time she suddenly broke out.
The mother-in-law finally reacted and said with some anger: "You kid, you dare to let me sleep on the street?".Do you know that I am your mother?”
The sister-in-law did not show weakness, and sneered: "Yes, I know that you are my mother, but what kind of mother are you to me?"You only know how to spoil my son every day, and you never care about me, a mother-in-law like you, I'd rather let you sleep on the street.
Although my sister-in-law's words were a bit excessive, I can understand her feelings. Whenever we sat together as a family, my mother-in-law always left me aside, only thinking about competing for her son.
No, a few days ago, someone at home sent a lot of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, and I handed it to my mother-in-law and said, "Mom, this is yours." ”
The mother-in-law immediately waved her hand and refused: "Don't do it, give it to you." ”
I knew if my mother-in-law was disgusted with these things, so I followed her advice and took them back to my room.
I really want to figure out, what exactly am I doing wrong?Why is my mother-in-law so indifferent to me?
I can't help but think of how much my parents loved me, they always put my needs first, while my mother-in-law always ignored me.
In this home, I don't feel at home, I'm just an ostracized character.
All the while, I endured it in silence.
But today, my sister-in-law's words ignited the anger and dissatisfaction in my heart like a fire.
I stood up, looked at my mother-in-law and said, "Mom, listen, I'm a daughter-in-law, but I'm also your daughter-in-law, you can't just favor your son."
The mother-in-law's face changed, she was no longer as aggressive as she was just now, and she said with some guilt: "You are right, I really didn't treat you well, I will correct it in the future."
The sister-in-law was no longer excited, she looked at her mother-in-law and said, "Mom, you have to remember if you promise." I don't want to see my sister being left out in the cold all the time.
The mother-in-law nodded and turned her gaze to me: "I'm sorry, I will treat you well in the future." ”
I watched her eyes soften, and the resentment in my heart gradually dissipated. In the family, everyone has their own emotions and needs, and we should respect and tolerate each other.
This is a new beginning, and I hope that our family can get along well and build a warm home together.
After a while, the atmosphere at home gradually improved. My mother-in-law's attitude towards me also changed, and she began to care more about me, help me with household chores, and even give me some advice on life.
Although I am very happy about this change, I still have doubts about my sister-in-law's attitude. After all, she used to be hostile to me, and I don't know if she has really changed.
On a weekend night, my husband and I were about to go out for a walk, and suddenly we received my sister-in-law's **. Her voice carried a hint of anxiety: "Eldest sister, can you come over for a moment?"I have something to discuss with you.
I was a little confused, but I agreed to her request. We hurried to my sister-in-law's house and met an anxious sister-in-law.
Big sister, I'm really desperate now. The sister-in-law said with tears in her eyes.
My heart tightened, and I hurriedly asked, "Sister-in-law, what happened?"Why are you in such a hurry?”
The sister-in-law said in a trembling voice, "It's my mother-in-law!."She's crazy!She took my passbook away and said she would return it to my parents!How dare she hurt my family like this!”
I was also very shocked to hear my sister-in-law's words. Such an incident is really unbelievable, especially the change in attitude of my mother-in-law before, which made me start to trust her.
I patted my sister-in-law's hand and took her back to my mother-in-law's house. The mother-in-law sat in the living room, looking a little dazed.
The mother-in-law was stunned, and then said with a pale face: "I ......."I don't remember taking it. ”
This made me even more confused, I knew that my mother-in-law was a very responsible person and would never do such a thing.
The sister-in-law said reluctantly: "You dare to lie to me!."Where did you hide your passbook?Give it back to me!”
I hurriedly grabbed my sister-in-law and motioned for her to calm down. Then, I turned to my mother-in-law and said, "Mom, if you really have any troubles and unhappy things, you can tell me that we can find a solution together and not come to this point."
The mother-in-law raised her head, her eyes flashed with tears, and she said in a trembling voice: "It's me who is confused, I ......."I've always felt sorry for you.
I don't think you've ever treated my son well, and you've always felt that you're a foreigner and unworthy of being our daughter-in-law.
When I heard this, my heart was filled with guilt. It turned out that my mother-in-law's previous indifference was not because of discrimination against me, but because of her own inner conflict.
I held my mother-in-law's hand tightly and carried the burden of the family on my shoulders. I said, "Mom, it's all my fault. I've always wanted to be a good daughter-in-law, but I may not have done it.
I'm sorry, we are all family, and we should understand and tolerate each other.
My mother-in-law raised her head, her eyes filled with tears, and she hugged me tightly: "Child, it was me who was wrong, we were all wrong.
The sister-in-law watched us reconcile, and also let go of the knot, she said: "Sister, I'm sorry, I went too far before, and I want to get along with you too."
We shook each other's hands, sat around, and the family decided to start over from that moment on. We know that solving problems is not achieved overnight, but as long as we are sincere and respectful of each other, we will be able to get out of the shadow of contradictions and create a warm and harmonious family together.
I thought that the relationship with my mother-in-law would improve, but soon after, a new conflict appeared.
One day, I was cooking at home and happened to make my mother-in-law's favorite braised pork. I finished cooking and put it on the table, and I was about to bring other dishes, but I saw my sister-in-law sitting at the table at some point, eating braised pork.
I was stunned for a moment, but I didn't expect her to eat it first. The dissatisfaction in my heart swelled up all at once.
Sister-in-law, this is made for my mother, you can't eat it first. I said with some annoyance.
The sister-in-law looked at me indifferently and was noncommittal. I sensed her obvious disdain.
This time, I'm no longer silent. I walked up to my sister-in-law and said firmly, "Sister-in-law, you are also the daughter of the family.
The sister-in-law sneered and pursed her lips disdainfully. I found the disdain and ridicule in her eyes, which made me regret it, why did I always get at a disadvantage every time I fought with her?.
I went back to the kitchen, in a state of indignation. During this time, I have been pursuing justice and equal treatment, but I have always been ridiculed and ignored by my sister-in-law.
When I got back to the table, I saw my mother-in-law sitting there with a sad face. I sighed softly and decided to take a different strategy.
Mother-in-law, are you usually a little indifferent to me?I asked tentatively.
My mother-in-law looked at me, and a trace of guilt flashed in her eyes: "Maybe." ”
I continued: "I'm not trying to compete with you for favor or take your place. I just hope that in this family, we can treat each other as equals and everyone should be understood and respected.
My mother-in-law listened to me and was silent for a moment. "I used to be a daughter-in-law, and I know what it's like to be left out.
I'll try to change. She said solemnly.
I looked at my mother-in-law and suddenly had a glimmer of realization. Maybe I've been emphasizing my rights and interests, but I've ignored that my mother-in-law also has feelings and needs.
At this moment, the sister-in-law broke our thinking, "Don't expect her to change, she will only blindly favor their father and son."
I looked at her, and a sense of determination sprung up in my heart. No matter how provocative she is, I will no longer be passive.
In the next step, I will try to find my place in the family, maintain my bottom line, and at the same time hold on to my dignity.
A few days after the mother-in-law promised to make corrections, the atmosphere in the house seemed to have calmed down a bit. My mother-in-law started to take the initiative to participate in household chores and occasionally cook with me.
However, the mother-in-law's change did not last long. That night, I was cooking dinner in the kitchen when my sister-in-law suddenly barged in and shouted at me with an angry face, "Did you steal my things?"Why can't I find it?”。
I frowned, a little confused, how could I go and steal her things?I looked at her calmly and said firmly, "I didn't steal your stuff, are you sure you didn't misplace yourself?".”
The sister-in-law didn't give up, "I'm sure it's you!."You've been jealous of me and want to frame me!”
Hearing these words, my mother-in-law also rushed over, and she was obviously a little flustered when she watched the two of us arguing. She leaned over to her sister-in-law and tried to settle the dispute, "You two don't quarrel, I believe it must be a misunderstanding."
The sister-in-law angrily pushed her mother-in-law away, "You also believe her?"Why are you always on her side?”
My mother-in-law was helpless because of this situation, she looked at me and hesitated for a moment, and finally chose to believe my sister-in-law.
Seeing my mother-in-law and sister-in-law ignore my words, the anger in my heart was aroused. I don't tolerate anymore, I don't keep silent anymore.
I sneered and said to my mother-in-law, "Since you all believe in my sister-in-law so much, let's search carefully and find out where her things have gone."
My mother-in-law was so enraged by my remark that she decided to look into it to prove me wrong. So, she and her sister-in-law began to search carefully.
After some searching, they found nothing. The sister-in-law looked at me with some doubts and remorse, and whispered, "Maybe I remembered wrong, I'm sorry."
I said no more and turned to leave the kitchen. Disappointment and anger mingled in my heart, and I felt haggard.
At night, I lay alone in bed with a lot of thoughts. I didn't want to give up, but I began to wonder if I could change the status quo of the family.
Perhaps, I can try to seek outside help and find a proper way to resolve the conflict. I can try to confide in my confusion and worries, or I can seek professional advice.
Although the road ahead is still difficult, I firmly believe that as long as I have the courage to face it, the family conflict will be resolved one day.
The road ahead is full of unknowns, but I am willing to go on with determination. I believe that as long as we treat each other with sincerity, mutual understanding and tolerance, we will be able to create a harmonious and warm home.
After a few months, the relationship between me and my mother-in-law improved, and she began to care more about me and treat my sister-in-law and me as equals as possible.
However, despite the apparent easing of the conflict, new problems in the family began to emerge.
One day, my mother-in-law suddenly had a bad cold and needed bed rest. My sister-in-law and I took turns taking care of her, but the sister-in-law showed signs of resentment with this responsibility.
Sister, you see that you have been a daughter-in-law for so many years, and you haven't admitted it yet, how can you put down your body and serve her so easily?The sister-in-law said in a stinging tone.
I feel a little wronged, it's not that I don't admit it, but I want to work with my mother-in-law to build a more equal and harmonious family.
Sister, you misunderstood. I didn't do this to please my mother-in-law, but I wanted our family to be united and harmonious.
The sister-in-law pursed her lips and didn't say anything. But I could feel the dissatisfaction in her heart.
To ease the tension, I decided to invite friends and family over for a small party.
On the day of the party, I prepared a hearty meal and my family and friends gathered happily. When the sister-in-law saw such a scene, she seemed to be in a much better mood.
In the evening, everyone sat around and chatted. The conversation between my sister-in-law and my mother-in-law gradually became harmonious, and I was secretly glad in my heart.
However, it was at this time that a ** broke our peace. **It was a relative of my mother-in-law who called, saying that the old man in their family suddenly became seriously ill and needed an emergency**.
With a sense of kindness, I reminded her, "Mom, it's so late, it's not safe on the road, I'll go with Miss."
The mother-in-law hesitated for a moment and nodded. We helped my mother-in-law pack her luggage and got into the car together.
Along the way, I looked up at the starry sky and thought about the entanglements of my family. I hope that our family can get rid of conflicts and move towards harmony.
It takes time and effort to work it out, and all members need to be actively involved.
Upon arrival, we take care of my mother-in-law's loved ones and ensure that they have access to professional medical care.
Back in the car, my sister-in-law thanked me, and although she was reluctant to admit my kindness on the surface, there was a hint of gratitude in her words.
On the way home, I thought about what I had been through. Home is a warm haven, but it is also a place full of trials.
Home is a place where family affection gathers, but it also means that everyone should work hard for family harmony.