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This article is 2600 words, a deep understanding of a 30-year-old girl.
A first-class life is not about being rich, but about being aware!
First of all, being rich is a result, not a process.
Secondly, if a rich person is not smart and wise enough, these wealth is not earned by his hard work, and he does not have the experience of this process, he will still easily feel pain and emptiness, such as: rich second generation (some, not all, don't bar).
Because, for what is at his fingertips, a person will not know how to cherish and obtain hard-won. Whether it's wealth or preference. Human nature is like that.
I saw an up master at station b, he specializes in interviews, and he also interviews some rich second generations. The rich second generation in our impression should be very rich, both materially and spiritually.
But that's not exactly the case.
Some rich second-generation girls are very confused, living under the halo of their parents, without the trouble of survival, but they also have no executive power, especially the rich second-generation girls who look average or lower and whose parents are divorced.
What do you spend money for?Fill the emptiness in your heart. Their predicament in marriage is no different from ordinary people.
Is this a kind of sadness?Not pretty, very rich, very empty, no personality charm that particularly attracts the opposite sex, guess what, what is a man marrying her for?How realistic this society is.
A life of abundance can also abolish a person (and of course, this is also a minority).
On the other hand, ordinary people do not have a good starting point, but the feeling of relying on their own down-to-earth efforts, the feeling of watching their ideals be realized step by step, the feeling of having a lover around them with light in their eyes, and the feeling of hearing a sweet "mother" when they get home and seeing the dinner prepared by the elderly, this feeling, is not happy?
Whether it's perceiving happiness or achieving a career, awareness is the starting point for the better.
Be aware of timeThe clock is ticking.
Whether we are aware of it or not, no matter how we spend it, time is passing, minute by minute, day after day, year after year.
And the way we use time determines the quality of our lives.
It's not that you have to have a full life arrangement, you have to be very full and have a sense of gain to be not wasted, and this kind of life may not be too tight.
A good life should be relaxed. But you have to be aware of it and plan your time. Take your current life as the starting point for change, do what you love, and slowly improve.
It was also from writing that I realized that I was 30 years old, and I had 2 30 years to go, and my life was coming to an end. I want to cherish and arrange my time as much as possible, create as much value as possible, and get closer to the life I want.
My main job is to work, I have a baby at home, I want to write and do a side job, how can I make good use of my time?
Because I want to accompany the baby to bed early (now it is very sticky, and she won't sleep if adults don't sleep), the baby has a physical examination at the age of 3, saying that her height has not continued the previous growth trend, and her height has grown slowly. On a cursory thought, it must have been a late sleep.
can only accompany the baby to sleep early, this is the consciousness of being a mother.
Lie in bed at 8:45-9 o'clock, that is to say, except for the time to eat, wash dishes, bathe, and bathe the baby, there is 1-1 after work5 hours available as I slept early at night and I slept for half an hour at most at noon. In this way, 3-4 hours of a day belong to me.
Sleep lazily on weekends (too happy thing), take the baby out to play, occasionally go back to her parents' house, and the rest of the time is scattered, try to use it for reading and writing. The main thing is that with a baby, all the time is reduced to fragments, and her needs have to be dealt with at any time.
How much room I have to grow depends on this time.
But at least I realized it and I was determined to get better.
Be aware of emotionsIt is very important to be aware of emotions, transform emotions, and be a person who is stable at the core, not easy to lose control, and not easy to collapse.
A little thing happened in the morning. Not happy.
The parking space in the community is tight, and the spacing between the buildings is narrow, so they are all parked on the side, and the cars are parked like temporary parking spaces on the side of the road (I didn't shoot **, and I will develop the Xi of taking pictures to record life in the future).
I was going to drive out to work, and then I saw a bicycle and a battery car parked between the front of my car and the butt of the car in front of me.
The bicycle and the battery car stopped in front of my car, and I couldn't reverse the bike, so I had to move the two cars to the side first, which wasted at least 3 minutes. The front of the battery car is locked and cannot be adjusted. And it's so heavy that I can't move it.
On the way to the car, I kept visualizing myself:
What are you doing?I'm angry.
Why are you angry?Obviously, there is a lot of open space behind the building (because the elevator is installed, so the private car will not stop behind), enough for bicycles and battery cars to stop, why should it be stuffed in the gap between the two cars?Have you considered the feelings of office workers?In the morning, the time is tight, if you are not careful, you will be late, and you have to move the bicycle and battery car, who can be comfortable on this stall?
So, whose problem the hell is this?Well, it's someone else's problem, you shouldn't park your battery bike and bike between two cars.
But after all, it is a public parking space in the community, if people just want to park their bicycles and battery cars in front of their garages, is there a problem?
Well, it seems to make sense.
After doing this combing, I entered the office door, and I was fine, and I solved it.
Be aware of negative emotions and sort out your thoughts clearly, and you will know whose problem it is.
If it's someone else's problem, then don't bear the cost of negative emotions. Because we can't control what other people think, say and do. We can only manage ourselves. If it's my problem, I should change instead of getting angry.
Whenever you feel a negative emotion, whether it's anger, sadness, impaired intimacy, or whatever, ask yourself: Whose problem is this?
Thinking in this way, you will have a higher tolerance for mistakes in life, you will be more peaceful, and you will be less likely to get angry.
Awareness positioning
Only by being aware of one's position in life and the workplace can we strive for the direction of our efforts and change can happen.
What stage of life are you in?Married?Unmarried?Trying to get pregnant?Parenting?
What kind of level do you stand in the workplace?How much room is there for development in my own work?How to strive for upward development?What skills are still needed?What abilities?If you want to start a second career, what do you need to work on?
What am I good at?What are you not good at?In what ways am I more adept?What is the area where I am more likely to shine?How to do the work and make money as easily as possible?How to conform to nature, avoid shortcomings, and maximize your own value
Have you considered these questions?
It is important to know that the allocation of time and energy is different at different stages of life, and the weight of family and workplace is also different.
But only if you have a clear status quo and benchmark your destination, such as: get married within 3 years, be promoted in the workplace within 5 years, earn xx million a year, have requirements for yourself, and have a clear path, you will adjust yourself, find a way, strengthen your actions, and get closer to it. Otherwise, it is like driftwood on the river, floating to **count**, whether the fate is good or bad is all in the will of God.
Write at the endAwareness is not easy.
For the vast majority of people from ordinary backgrounds, especially girls whose parents can't help, the age of awareness generally comes to 30 years old. Boys are under pressure to marry a daughter-in-law, buy a house, buy a car, and save for a bride price, and they will be aware of it earlier when it comes to making money.
Singer Li Jian said: It is not correct to stand at thirty, and it is difficult to stand up at thirty. Young friends, don't be too anxious, it's good to be able to stand at forty.....
Maybe the society's standards for the world are too high, maybe the self-awareness and spur are too harsh, maybe it's just because of the trend of involution, and you can't be slow when you see others being fast.
The requirement of 30 years old is not material achievement, but the maturity of the mind, the development of the mind. At the age of 30, it is the starting point of awareness, and there is a great future ahead of it.
I didn't want to get married at the age of 26 (sooner or later) because I felt that my free time would be delayed to take the civil service exam.
But I'm glad now, getting married and having a baby at the right age, after 4 years of marriage running-in, 3 years of exhaustion and collapse with a baby and child-rearing, and 5 years of intermittent civil service preparation, I should mature faster than my peers.
I still have the heart, I haven't been defeated yet, I'm still very tenacious, get up, and start a career.
Sorachi Hideaki "Gintama":
There are a lot of sorrows in life that can't be washed away by tears, so really strong people laugh louder the more they want to cry, and move forward with laughter with pain and sadness.
May the more we lose, the braver we become.
Above, all encouragement.