In the delicate and complex ecosystem of the workplace, every interaction with leaders is a self-evident test. And to help the leader buy things, I heard the sentence "The money was transferred to you, remember to collect it".It seems to be just a small thing, but it contains deep interpersonal and psychological mechanisms. People with low emotional intelligence may instinctively refuseNo, not muchBecause he received the money, he seemed to be stingy, and if he didn't accept it, it showed that the leader took advantage. How do you respond appropriately?People with high emotional intelligence will seize this opportunity to express themselves and deepen their relationship, and how to respond has become an art.
The underlying logic of communicating with leaders can not stay on the surface of emotional intelligence skills training, but also from the perspective of psychology and sociology, so as to treat this relationship from a new perspective.
As far as the scenario of "when the leader says" the money has been transferred to you, remember to collect it", we should first not be "preconceived", put ourselves in the first place, feel that we have received money, that is, we are stingy, and do not think that the leader is unhappy after receiving the leader's money. Because leaders are not necessarily really rare this little money, this money, can be collected, but how to collect it depends on the art of speaking.
OneUnderstand the "gifting" psychology of leadership
This behavior of leaders is actually a manifestation of a "gift" behavior, and they express their recognition and trust in their subordinates through transfers. Here, the leader doesn't really care about the dozens of yuan, but cares about whether you accept this trust or not. People with high emotional intelligence will understand the meaning behind this, and they know that this is an opportunity to build and strengthen relationships.
IIThe art of responding with high emotional intelligence
People with high emotional intelligence will subtly answer: "Leader, your trust is the driving force of my work." It's not a trivial matter, but since you've transferred the money, I'll strictly follow the company's rules. ”Such an answer not only shows his sincerity, but also shows respect and compliance with the company's rules and regulations, and more importantly, conveys the importance of trust in leaders.
IIIPractical strategies and tips
1) Accept the transfer generously, and then express gratitude and confirmation with the leader: "Thank you for the trust, I just checked it and have received it." Rest assured, I'll take care of it to the end. Such an answer not only shows gratitude for the care of the leader, but also shows his sense of responsibility and efficiency.
2) While expressing gratitude to the leader, subtly express yourself: "Leader, your efficiency is really admirable, this little thing does not have to trouble you, but I understand that this is an investment of trust, and I will handle it properly." This is a way to show your independence, to praise your leaders subtly, and to deepen your relationship.
3) Emphasize the spirit of teamwork and show team values: "This is what I should do, the leader's transfer will be used as a team activity**, and the next team building will be our small**." Such an answer can not only show team spirit, but also let the leader feel that you value the construction of team culture.
4) Emotional resonance and affinity, "the leader has something, and he thought of me for the first time, which means that the leader has me in his heart, and I just happen to be able to help, and I am quite happy" In this way, the leader feels that it is very comfortable to get along with you, and the relationship with the leader is good, and the road to the workplace is at least half smooth.
For people in the workplace, the real test of emotional intelligence is how to deal with those small, seemingly inconspicuous everyday tasks.
In fact, it is these inconspicuous daily affairs that many people often do not handle well, because from the beginning, we put ourselves and the leader in the wrong position, so that we do not know what to do.
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