In order to raise money for her father's surgery, Fan Shengmei called ** to ask Qu Lianjie for a loan. She regards Qu Lianjie as her strong backing, and will seek his help when she encounters problems, but unexpectedly, Qu Lianjie never really cares about her.
Lian Jie, can you lend me 20,000 yuan?My father is hospitalized and is in dire need of funds, and I will return it to you as soon as I give him his salary. "I don't have any money, I can't even get my salary now!."Fan's voice was filled with tears, and anyone who heard it could understand the predicament she was facing.
However, Qu did not show any sympathy or cherishment, and he pretended to say: "Unfortunately, I am currently out of town to participate in the company's annual meeting and cannot help you." If not, I'll ask my secretary to send you 1000 dollars!”
After Fan Shengmei heard this, she immediately broke down, "What do you mean by this?"What do I have to do with you?You're going to deal with me like that?Why don't you ask, how is my dad now?”
On the other end of the **, Qu Lianjie smiled, he not only laughed at Fan Shengmei's innocence, but also felt that Fan Shengmei was too conceited, all these things about men and women are what you and I expect, I feel that we are always friends, which is why I asked the secretary to send you money. I'm very busy at the moment, I'll talk about it when I get back!”
As soon as the words came out, he didn't listen to Fan Shengmei's persuasion and quickly hung up.
Fan Shengmei always thinks that Qu Lianjie is different, he not only cares about Fan Shengmei, but also has deep respect for her. His love for her, like the love for himself that takes a lifetime to be reciprocated, has no reason whatsoever. At the age of 30, it is not easy to meet a man who is both good and rich to her. In his eyes, he is his wife, and he is the person he falls in love with. Fan Shengmei cherishes this relationship very much, and when the emotion reaches its climax, she even dedicates herself to Qu Lianjie.
She originally thought that Qu Lianjie was a trustworthy person, but when it happened, she realized that Qu Lianjie didn't really care about her. She knew that his heart was so soft, but she didn't know how to cherish it. Fan Shengmei felt very frustrated, especially when she learned about Qu Lianjie's "scumbag" behavior from Qu Xiaoxuan, she was deeply saddened by her "wrong payment".
However, if everything can start all over again, then Fan Shengmei really won't be manipulated by Qu Lianjie anymore?
I'm afraid it's going to be difficult!
Fan Shengmei felt extremely inferior!
In "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei is the most graceful and beautiful of the five girls, and at the same time, the one who lacks self-confidence and self-esteem.
Fan Shengmei always seems to have many suitors around her because of her graceful and beautiful appearance. Because of her inner inferiority complex and self-esteem, Fan Shengmei often encounters irresponsible men.
Especially when Fan Shengmei realizes that Andy has performed quite well in many aspects, but when he chooses Wei Wei, who is very different from her appearance, as a partner, Fan Shengmei is even more disappointed in her future life.
People often like to compare themselves to the people around them, such as comparing children in kinship relationships, work relationships in friendship relationships, family backgrounds in colleague relationships, and men in girlfriend relationships.
Fan Shengmei has had a high opinion of herself since she was a child, and during her school days, due to her beauty and excellent academic performance, she was always surrounded by a group of boys. But later, due to various reasons, he had an intersection with those boys. Among this group of boys, Fan Shengmei is also one of them, but Fan Shengmei is always eager to take another look and wait a little longer. Once, he sat in a classroom watching a movie with his table mates, and was alone outside playing on his phone. Unexpectedly, Fan Shengmei kept watching, watching, and waiting until she turned 30.
As the saying goes, men are like thirty-one flowers, and women are like thirty tofu dregs." Fan Shengmei, who was in her first year, realized that as she grew older, the opportunity to associate with a man with superior conditions gradually decreased. Because of her age, she felt that she was no longer capable of doing anything for him, and he didn't like her. Therefore, when Fan Shengmei met Qu Lianjie at the cocktail party, she was determined to cling to him.
Andy took Fan Shengmei to a private drinking party, and after being called away by Lao Tan, Fan Shengmei was alone, walking around the venue while taking pictures half-covered.
At this moment, Qu Lianjie, who was extremely bored, saw Fan Shengmei. Qu Lianjie picked up the wine glass, deliberately collided with Fan Shengmei, and asked, "This beautiful lady, are you also here to attend the drinking party?"”
Fan Shengmei quickly looked at Qu Lianjie from head to toe, she knew that the people who could participate in this kind of drinking party were very rich, so she didn't dare to take it lightly. She smiled and responded: "I'm just an inconspicuous person, I'm not qualified to participate in such a drinking party, I'm just accompanying a friend." ”
In a conversation with Jet Qu, Fan Shengmei realized that he is a person who is very good at making girls feel happy. During the interview, he can always talk openly and honestly about the people and things in the company. Even though he wears designer clothes, he doesn't value small roles like her as much as the top leaders Fan has met in the past.
Under the backdrop of the lanterns and fine wine, Fan Shengmei looked at Qu Lianjie with a little drunkenness, and suddenly felt a little confused. "He's a very rich man, and he's the richest man in our family!She seemed to feel that she and the Fan family were no longer troubled by money problems because of Qu Lianjie's intervention.
Fan Shengmei was in dire need of funds, while her brother lived a life of idleness, and although he married a wife and had children, he did not concentrate on his work and had to rely on his parents to survive. He used all his savings to buy books and clothes, but his income was not as good as others!However, Fan Shengmei's parents believe that Fan Shengmei spends a lot of family funds at school, so she should repay her parents for her nurturing grace after work, otherwise she will be regarded as a "white-eyed wolf".
Therefore, Fan Shengmei has become the object of dependence of her parents, brothers, sisters-in-law and nephews.
Fan Shengmei single-handedly carries the burden of the entire family, and she dreams of marrying a wealthy man in order to get out of the situation as soon as possible. But in reality, she didn't. However, for the wealthy, they will either seek social equivalence or will choose young girls, and a 30-year-old woman like her, how can a wealthy man really like her?
Thinking of this, Fan Shengmei, who felt inferior in her heart, seemed to have sobered up.
After leaving the party, Fan asked Andy to help her investigate the marital status of Qu Lianjie. She works in a hotel and is a small white-collar worker. Andy asks if she's interested in the manFan Shengmei looked out the window with a smile, she was not qualified to choose the right man at all
For Fan Shengmei, if Qu Lianjie is single and has a special interest in her, then Fan Shengmei definitely doesn't want to miss this opportunity. She liked the man, she liked him, and she even loved him very much. After all, Qu Lianjie is not only wealthy, but also seems to know how to respect her very well.
No matter what the experience of men and women together is, the final outcome will always change unexpectedly in that land". So, women are much more dependent on men than men. Women with strong self-esteem expect men to show more romantic feelings so that they can truly feel respected.
Fan Shengmei is the kind of woman who has lived in a "patriarchal" family environment since she was a child, and deep down she desperately desires to be respected by others. It is precisely because of this slight shortcoming that Qu Lianjie was able to enter the depths of Fan Shengmei's heart.
Qu Lianjie said to Fan Shengmei: "It is an honor for me to have dinner with beautiful women. So he prescribed a bottle of red wine worth 3,000 yuanFan Shengmei was very excited because no man had ever been so willing to spend money for her.
Qu Lianjie expressed this opinion to Fan Shengmei: "Women are like blooming flowers and should be cared for. Fan Shengmei was deeply moved, so she put on the red dress that Qu Lianjie bought for her, listened to the classical ** with Qu Lianjie in the castle-like hotel, and spent a romantic evening.
Fan Shengmei is not an unruly woman in her heart, she chose to give up herself, not only because Qu Lianjie is wealthy, but also because Qu Lianjie gave her the respect she deserved.
However, does Qu Lianjie really respect Fan Shengmei?
Absolutely non-existent!
Qu Lianjie is a gentleman, and all his affection and love for Fan Shengmei is just playing.
It is often said that scumbags are "irresponsible, irresponsible, and like to blame women". In fact, in many cases, scumbags are responsible. As Qu Lianjie said, when others are in a flowery environment and have just ended their marriage, how can he be satisfied with leaving Fan Shengmei alone?
As the saying goes, the best way to truly forget someone is to immediately plunge into a new relationship. After Fan Shengmei realized Qu Lianjie's hypocrisy, she once again felt inferior, and realized her shortcomings in age, family background and economic status.
At this moment, she knew that it was impossible to marry a wealthy family, so she turned her head and her eyes fell on Wang Baichuan.
Wang Baichuan and Fan Shengmei were classmates in college. When he was a student, Wang Baichuan had a deep affection for Fan Shengmei. But because Fan Shengmei was too dazzling and his ordinary personality, Wang Baichuan never mustered up the courage to pursue her.
After Fan Shengmei's father was admitted to the hospital, it was in stark contrast to Qu Lianjie's eager attitude, but Wang Baichuan chose to act without thinking. He felt that he was a kind and upright person, and that he should put him aside and let him take good care of the elderly and children. Fan Shengmei has lacked love since she was a child, so she is very easily moved.
Wang Baichuan's "enthusiasm" led Fan Shengmei to mistakenly believe that she had met true love, and realized that finding someone who truly loved her and was willing to share the responsibility with her was more crucial than anything else.
Moreover, Wang Baichuan's performance is also quite good, as a small entrepreneur, he has his own business, neither satisfied with the status quo, nor satisfied with the status quo. His boss is a beautiful woman and very good-looking!Therefore, when Wang Baichuan once again expressed his feelings to Fan Shengmei, Fan Shengmei accepted him without hesitation.
Fan Shengmei looks amorous on the surface, but deep down she is full of tradition. Her relationship with Wang Baichuan is actually for marriage.
Considering that she needed real estate for marriage, Fan Shengmei constantly put pressure on Wang Baichuan from the moment she spent time with him, with the aim of urging him to work hard to make money and ensure that the down payment was enough to buy a house.
However, Qu Xiaoxuan found Fan Shengmei's view quite shocking, and she said:
Hearing you say this about getting married, how did it become a heavy burden!The person you've been glued to all the time is so unfortunate!People who are alive should learn how to make themselves feel happy and happy, which is the major event in life. ”
Fan Shengmei was confused, because she felt that Qu Xiaoxuan was a rich second generation, and she could have whatever she wanted, which was why she couldn't understand the deep feelings of these migrant workers for the house.
However, Wang Baichuan and Qu Xiaoxuan are different, Fan Shengmei always believes that Wang Baichuan not only understands her, but also loves her deeply, so even if it is really "sticky", Wang Baichuan is willing to share the responsibility with her.
Fan Shengmei may have had such a misunderstanding because she was Xi to Wang Baichuan's promise, and mistakenly regarded Wang Baichuan's kindness as "true love";mistakenly believed that Wang Baichuan was willing to share the burden of the Fan family with her.
It was only when Wang Baichuan decided not to put Fan Shengmei's name on the real estate certificate that she realized that all good things were actually fake.
When we look back at the experience of Wang Baichuan and Fan Shengmei after their reunion, we can clearly see that Wang Baichuan has actually been using Fan Shengmei's social network and talent to expand his business territory.
From renting office space to conducting business negotiations with Qu Xiaoxuan, Bao Yifan and others, Wang Baichuan quickly won Fan Shengmei's heart with only a few meals and affectionate sweet words, making her willing to make money for herself.
People often say, "Scumbags not only like to eat your soft rice, but also hurt your feelings".
This is exactly the case with Wang Baichuan.
When Fan Shengmei still has a certain potential for utilization, Wang Baichuan will unreservedly fulfill his promise and plan the future for Fan Shengmei from time to time, so that she feels that her life is full of hope;
However, when Wang Baichuan realized that Fan Shengmei's face was not so important, Bao Yifan did not accept the products he offered. As a result, Wang Baichuan's patient and friendly attitude towards Fan Shengmei changed, and he no longer treated her as before, and even began to snub her and deliberately ignore her.
Fan Shengmei felt very heartbroken, and she began to reflect on her actions, trying to make herself accept Wang Baichuan's bad temper. Especially after the company declared bankruptcy, Wang Baichuan did not reflect deeply on himself, on the contrary, he blamed the mistake on the huge pressure brought to him by Fan Shengmei and the Fan family, which made Fan Shengmei feel even more that he had become a burden to Wang Baichuan.
Wang Baichuan looked at Fan Shengmei with a heavy heart, although he said verbally "You don't need to blame yourself", but he was actually very happy in his heart. His purpose was to make Fan Shengmei feel uncomfortable, because only in this way could Wang Baichuan control Fan Shengmei on a spiritual level.
Scumbags often use this strategy: first to be nice to you, and then to use your inner vulnerability and craving to make you lose yourself and exert control over you.
Initially, Fan Shengmei was indeed manipulated by Wang Baichuan, but as her dedication to Wang Baichuan gradually increased, she not only accepted Wang Baichuan's "Xi habitual lying" and "not responsible", but also took the initiative to help her contact customers, but the problem of the house made Fan Shengmei completely sober.
At that particular moment, Fan Shengmei finally understood that Wang Baichuan had been secretly sheltering her from the wind and rain until she was completely controlled by him, and then cleverly got rid of him as a victim.
In fact, Wang Baichuan has always been a "businessman", and he has never considered making sacrifices for the benefit of Fan Shengmei's family, just like "the mountains will fall, and everyone will run".
Although Fan Shengmei has a strong antipathy to marriage, fortunately she has not lost her mind. She could not accept co-repayment of the loan, and at the same time, she could not unfairly deal with the signature on the title deed.
After deep reflection and pain, Fan Shengmei decided to propose a breakup.
After watching "Ode to Joy", many viewers thought that Fan Shengmei's encounter with Qu Lianjie and Wang Baichuan was all caused by herself. If she is not willing to rely on men to "suck blood", then how can she easily fall into the trap of scumbags?
In fact, this is not the case, whether it is treating Qu Lianjie or Wang Baichuan, although Fan Shengmei attaches great importance to their external conditions, she also sincerely established a relationship with them.
When Fan's father was hospitalized, Fan Shengmei made a big circle**, but because she couldn't borrow funds, she finally decided to call Qu Lianjie**. He's my friend, and I'm his friend. This shows that deep down, she does not see Qu Lianjie as an "ATM", but as her ultimate pillar. For Wang Baichuan, Fan Shengmei helped unreservedly, she not only recruited for him personally, but also took the initiative to interact with customers for him. She thinks she is a good man, but she has never been able to get rid of him emotionally, and even she doesn't know how to face him. Despite the presence of better suitors around her, Fan never considered severing ties with Wang.
Fan Shengmei showed a sincere attitude towards Qu Lianjie and Wang Baichuan. The reason why she fell into the trap of a scumbag is entirely because she is too inferior.
Fan Shengmei has actually been living in the shadow of her original family and can't get rid of it. Her life is full of contradictions and struggles, and there are countless entanglements and fears in her heart. Fan Shengmei has a strong desire to be loved and respected in her heart, and if someone is willing to lend a hand at this moment, even if it is just to give her a chance to get out of the situation, telling her that "you deserve the best", she will be deeply involved.
However, it is well known that it is difficult for a person who lacks self-confidence to calmly face their feelings. Therefore, when there is a problem in their love, we should first see if we have this problem. Due to low self-esteem, it is easy for people to pander to their partners or abandon their principles in pursuit of true love. If we really love, we won't care so much about what others say. It is precisely because of Fan Shengmei's character that she mistakenly interpreted the "false meaning" between Qu Lianjie and Wang Baichuan as "true love".
In everyday life, girls like Fan Shengmei are actually not uncommon. Due to various "shortcomings", they become extremely inferior and vulnerable;Due to the various "accusations" of scumbags, they have gradually lost their true selves.
However, the reality is that everyone has unique strengths and unrepeatable qualities, so there is no reason to feel inferior or to sacrifice one's moral bottom line for anyone or anything.
You just have to remember that those who love you dearly always act before they speak;Men who love you so deeply that they don't leave until the last moment love you love you more than you can imagine. However, those men who claim to love you on the surface, but in fact make you feel no love, in fact, just want to hurt you and do not intend to love you.
The days ahead will be precious, and I hope you can stay alert and stay away from those scumbags!